Scriptures and Advice..?

Question

Anyone have any good scriptures on jealousy. Possesive/Controlling. Anger/Verbal/emotional abuse.

Anybody have advice on all of those, what makes someone possesive/controlling? What makes them angry/verbal/emotionally abuse? Is it genetic, or trouble in past? Or What?

Answer 1

It is sin
James 4
Pride Promotes Strife
Where do wars and fights come from among you? Do they not come from your desires for pleasure that war in your members? You lust and do not have. You murder and covet and cannot obtain. You fight and war. Yet you do not have because you do not ask. You ask and do not receive, because you ask amiss, that you may spend it on your pleasures.


Proverbs 15:1
A soft answer turns away wrath,But a harsh word stirs up anger.
Proverbs 15:18
A wrathful man stirs up strife, But he who is slow to anger allays contention.
Proverbs 27:4
Wrath is cruel and anger a torrent, But who is able to stand before jealousy?
Ecclesiastes 7:9
Do not hasten in your spirit to be angry, For anger rests in the bosom of fools.

Answer 2

The passages in Romans 1 tell of homosexuals by description. It doesn't actually use the word, 'homosexual'. Also Leviticus 18:22, it describes the activity. Here's the thing though. The Old Covenant carries those Laws and it was supposed to be upheld. And Romans 1 is talking about a specific group, not that all homosexuals are that way, but those people who already knew God turned their backs on God to follow after false beliefs. So it's not about homosexuality, it's about grace from God through Faith. I am Bi, and I have found the grace of God. So those who are preaching against homosexuality are off the point. Anyone can come to God, and changing is up to Him. I am sure that there are those who were homosexuals in Heaven right now. The thing that made them different is that God wanted them, they were then given the ability to trust God, and they did, and so they lived their lives trusting God whether they were homosexual or not. They may never have done another homosexual act again, or they may have. But because God gave them the ability to respond to Him and they did, they were saved.

Answer 3

Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud. 1 Corinthians 13:4 NLT
Whenever people are jealous or selfish, they cause trouble and do all sorts of cruel things. James 3:16 CEV
A relaxed attitude lengthens life; jealousy rots it away. Prov 14:30 NLT
Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other. Galatians 5:25-26

Answer 4

Galatians 5:18-21

But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under law. 19 The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; 20 idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions 21 and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.

I suggest that you get out of that relationship. The only person you should want to control you is the Lord. As the scripture says above, jealousy usually doesnt come alone, aggression and other traits are also within a jealous person. i suggest you pray and ask God to make a way of escape ,which He will.

Answer 5

Possessiveness, control, and jealousy have many different roots. As does being attracted to people with those issues. There's not a simple answer for this, but I can point you to a really good resource: "Boundaries" by Henry Cloud and John Townsend. You can read a bit of it here: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0310247454/qid=1151031757/sr=8-1/ref=pd_bbs_1/102-7335496-3831367?n=507846&s=books&v=glance

You cannot control a control freak. You cannot make an abuser stop. But you can have good boundaries and know how to handle yourself and how to avoid certain situations and even certain people, if necessary.

Sometimes, in the effort to be peaceable, we can end up enabling someone else's dysfunctional behavior. We can help them to sin. That's not the sort of peace we are called to have with people.

If you are not married to this person but are giving serious consideration to getting married to him, I would very strongly urge you to get premarital counseling first. You cannot change a man into who you think he has the potential to be by marrying him. Get someone to help you work those things out before you have made a commitment till death do you part.

Answer 6

wow. there is a lot more to your question than can be answered quickly in one of these. email me if you want - i have worked for some years at a shelter for domestic abuse.

as far as scriptures go, if you go to the first website listed below, you can type in "anger" or whatever you want in the search box at the top of the page and it will list LOTS of scriptures, and you can click on them and get the other scriptures before and after it, etc etc.

if you go to the second website listed below, you can type in "abuse" or whatever you want and get whole articles on the subject, with a scriptural perspective.

as far as what makes someone possesive/controlling - yes, it can be any or all of what you mentioned. it is usually learned behavior, and many times it is associated with alcohol or other drugs. it is a choice that that person makes. it usually has to do with selfishness (NOT love), desiring power and control over another person.

Answer 7

Stay away from scripture. That's my advice.

Answer 8

Im going through it right now...I guess the person wants to dominate or controll to make themselves feel at peace or they just like being in controll because of there messed up childhood or past. I would never enter a relationship with someone who was controlling or pocessive it will lead to problems believe me!It would be one of the worst mistakes youve ever made

Answer 9

It depends on the individual,some of it is the way we are brought up,sometimes they have the wrong spirit with them.M't:18:1: At the same time came the disciples unto Jesus, saying, Who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?
M't:18:2: And Jesus called a little child unto him, and set him in the midst of them,
M't:18:3: And said, Verily I say unto you, Except ye be converted, and become as little children, ye shall not enter into the kingdom of heaven. GOD IS LOVE

Answer 10

Possible it is trouble in past, all the words that were thrown at the child now comes out as a way of expressing oneself as they saw that was a way to gainor keep this love or companionship.

Also the persons own insecurities about oneself and environment and where they fit into the world- and expectations.people say things becasue they need to hear themself say it more than what the words are that you are hearing.its usually about their own psyche that the negative is being shown, what we do not like in ourselves we definately dont accept in others. The person needs to know there real space because they are not living in the real - its draining being abused and its even more draining when your an abuser. that person needs professional help and you dont need to be the brunt of someone else's baggage.
this person needs to understand themselves first before trying to be understood.

Krsna says.."One who restrains his senses & fixes his consciousness upon me is known as a man of steady intelligence.While contemplating the objects of the senses , a person develops attachment for them, and from such attachment lust develops, and from lust anger arises. From anger, delusion arises & from delusion comes bewilderment of memory. When memory is bewildered, intelligence is lost, & when intelligance is lost one falls down again into the material pool."