My boyfriend's roomate feels that if I come to visit for a weekend, I should clean the house and buy/cook a dinner in exchange for being there. We are all adults in our 30's. I certainly don't eat up the groceries (I buy what I eat) and clean up any "mess" I make. I've never heard of this and wonder if anyone else has? Is this unrealistic? My boyfriend has never asked me to do this. His roomate told me about this.
2006-06-22 15:23:16 · 17 answers · asked by spolie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What? You don't really go for this do you?
First of all you are there to see your boyfriend..not the r.m.
second..you are all three grown people...this is not college.
and third what the hell does ur man say about this??
Ok, I say you need to talk to your boyfriend and see how he feels about it. He pays his share of the bills whether you are there or not so if you are buying what you eat his roommate needs to shut up. I don't think you should be told you are responsible for meals and chores if you are a guest. And thats what you are. You are the guest of your boyfriend so as far as I'm concerned the R.M. can go straight to hell. If you want to buy dinner thats your choice so don't let him tell u what u should do. He should be a grown a** man who cooks and cleans his own sh**! You didn't get a boyfriend to become a step parent to a grown man!!
2006-06-22 15:38:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
As the girlfriend of the room mate it is etiquette to comply to these reasonable tasks. Cleaning and cooking are part and parsel of the female social responsibilities when visiting (as are card writing and freshening up rooms that smell (which is why women always carry deoderant/perfume...)).
It would be seriously rude to be in his house (which he is paying for), and telling him where to go. My suggestion would be to marry this guy (your bf, not the room mate) if you are serious about him, (or ditch him if otherwise), and get your own place. Then you can invite him around to fulfil male social etiquette, such as fixing various appliances and mowing the lawn.
Its a give and take society, and we must all do our part.
2006-06-22 15:32:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Boyfriend that you are not happy with that,
and tell them "Roomate" to clean up thier mess
2006-06-22 15:26:45 · answer #3 · answered by Black Spider 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever!!!! Who the heck is that roommate!!!!!!!? Are they your boyfriend's mother? They need to get a friggin' life and leave ya'll alone. The nerve, you and your boyfriend need to find another place to meet up that don't include the roomate, The nerve!!!!!!!
2006-06-22 15:26:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to do what he mentioned. If you clean your mess and buy what you eat, then you are doing the right thing. No need to do more than that.
2006-06-22 15:26:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like your boyfriend's roommate is intentionally being a jerk. He may also be a tad bit jealous of your relationship as well. If your boyfriend hasn't demanded any of this of you, I say just continue to enjoy your weekends with your boyfriend and tell his friend to get lost.
2006-06-22 15:32:11 · answer #6 · answered by cave man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't listen to his stupid roomate he's just trying to get some free grub and a clean house tell your boyfriend to talk to him. and tell him its none of his business why your coming over there because your not coming to see him.
2006-06-22 15:27:14 · answer #7 · answered by cutie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants you to clean up his mess. Tell your boyfriend what he said. Good luck.
2006-06-22 15:27:26 · answer #8 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to pound sand up his a s s !! He wants food go buy it himself. He` s a lazy F K!! Sounds to me he wants a maid!! Tell him to go to mommies house if he wants some cooked meals.
2006-06-22 15:28:19 · answer #9 · answered by bren_jim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pretty much it who pays the most bills that counts
so tell your b/friend what your frined said or better yet tell him in front of your b/friend
and see what he says tell him that you do not live their and you are not his maid to be claening and cooking
and and tell him that if are going to cook and clean up his mess he better pay you
your maid friend
blue butterfly
2006-06-22 15:29:25 · answer #10 · answered by BLUE BUTTERFLY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋