How Do I Get Rid of This Weirdo??

Question

There's this guy I see after school sometimes. I've known he's liked me for a long time, because he's really obvious about it. But I didn't want to come out and say "I'm not interested" if he didn't ask.

He said he wouldn't go to his prom if I didn't go with him because he didn't have any friends. So I said yes... He asked me out and prom and I politely turned him down in the kindest way possible.

Then in the car on the way home, he said I LOVE YOU and touched me alot and I was just like "...thanks." because I had NO idea what to say to that. I mean...honestly! Who says that in that situation??! We're BARELY even friends! I know I should have firmly explained at that time that I didn't like him again, but I was honestly just totally awestruck at his behavior.

Ever since then, he's been FOLLOWING me everywhere, hugging me for awkwardly long periods of time, and calling EVERY DAY. I want him to stop, but I don't want to hurt his feelings. He's nice, really! Just VERY strange.

Just to answer some of your questions...

1) I did NOT let him in my car, nor did I get in HIS car! We were in a rented Towncar with a driver.

2) I do not "let" him hug me. He FINDS me no matter where I hide to wait for the bus and I say "Hi!" and he pretty much tackles me. And yes...I tell him to stop. Firmly. Repeatedly.

Answer 1

Say ur gay.

Answer 2

The best thing to do is be honest with him, even if it requires being direct. Tell him that you are flattered but that you don't feel the same and would not want to lead him on. Be polite but strong. Tell him there is someone out there that will be able to give him the love and attention he deserves, but it is not you.

If that doesn't help, then a restraining order may be the only way. No need for creepiness in your life.

Answer 3

Wow, I feel for you. It can get awkward when you have someone after you like that. And how about that way he asked you to the prom?! Passive agression at it's finest. Here's a couple sugestions, You could take the honest route, but if you do carefully choose your words so not to hurt him, Ooorr, you could take the back door and make yourself overwhelmingly undesireable; you know leave your hair a mess when you know he'll be around, not wear deoderant or brush your teeth, and harbor a unpleasant disposition in his presents. well good luck

Answer 4

Wow. Ok, I think I understand, and a lot of others do too. We have all known someone like that. Did you throw him a bone? He may feel that since you treated him nice that you like him but you dont want to admit it openly. You owe it to him to either set him up with another chick or just shoot him down with some tuff love. If he continues to persist, tell someone that has his ear, and maybe he will get the message. if you live in the Puyallup area, I can do it for you. I do it for my friends all the time, heh heh.

Answer 5

It's tough and awkward. I have a guy like that around me as well and after politely turning him down, I had to flat out tell him I'm not attracted to him and I will not now or ever date him. Yes, it's rude but you can only do the polite thing for soooo long and when it's obvious they aren't getting it then you've got to do the rude thing unfortunately.

Answer 6

If he is really bugging you that bad, turn him down meanly. I know how you feel, that you don't want to hurt his feelings because he is nice. So in that situation, try to find someone who secretly loves him and get them together. If you can't do that than pretend to go out with him, and than act really weird.


I am sorry If this doesn't work I just don't know what to say. I am just like you, I don't want the person around me, but I don't want to hurt the persons feelings. Sorry.

Answer 7

i think you just kinda answered your own question. you just need to sit down with him and tell him that you don't like him and you don't feel the same way about him that he does for you. either way your going to hurt him trust me not matter what you say to anyone that likes you they are always going to get hurt. but if you try to do it in a kind way things are a little better. and its not like your dating him so he may love you but he will get over it. It may take some time but in the end he will.

Answer 8

I had the same problem in highschool, until one day he asked if he had a chance in hell with me, and i told him straight up "no" I didn't want to lie, and he left me alone... wierd thing is a couple of years later out of highschool i was working as a maitenance student in a hospital and there he was in the psychiatric ward..... I'm sure I didn't put him there, because he had "issues" but boy did i feel bad!

Answer 9

Stop beating around the bush and leading him on. You may not think that you're leading him on but you actually are by not being up front with him. Tell him that you're simply not interested, it's better to tell him the truth than let him believe that he has a chance with you.

Answer 10

Maybe you can get one of his friends together with you, so that you dont feel awkward alone with him and explain how you feel. tell him that you don't feel the same way he does. Tell him it's not anything wrong with him, it's just that everyone has different feelings for people. Tell him that he is so unique and special that he should save the affection and adoration he gives you, for the girl who can appreciate him for who he is, and you're kind for not hurting his feelings, and remember, be gentle

Answer 11

He defiantly has serious mental issues he sounds unstable, and you have to deal with this very carefully.
Tell your parents what has been going on, every last detail. Once they know ask them if they will go by his parents place with you and talk to them about what has been going on.
I wouldn't go by myself or with anyone other then an adult, you need to send his parents a very clear message.... that their son is making you fear full of your own safety.
It may sound drastic.... but it sounds like he needs some serious help.