My sister in law is mean to my brother in front of our family what should we do?

Question

Do we just keep quiet?
Say something?
Oh and she is a big LIAR

Answer 1

Confront her and tell her she is bordering mental abuse and if it doesn't stop she is no longer welcome to come to the house with him. Suggest counseling for her. She is definitely lashing out at him for her short comings and that can be worked out.

Answer 2

It's me again. I just answered your other question. You guys situation is so much similar to that of my sister's.... except that she is the bully- she always has been. I was always the one to fight her with all my might- verbally and if necessary when we were small I would fight her physically. Just recently our youngest sibling married...and yes she dared make her miserable then, too. Unbelievable I tell ya! Apparently she is making her in-law's life miserable, too....I don't have to see it to believe it, because I know exactly how she is. When she came to visit me with her husband the first time- because we live very far away from each other....she kept having these one sided arguments with her husband...and then she would put him down...like she did with all of us in her immidiate family before she got married. I told her straight up to stop doing that to him...and that I wasn't going to listen to it any longer....besides her child was bullying my kid, too...so they ended up living in a hotel the rest of their vacation. We haven't talked to each other for a long time...and I don't miss talking to her at all. The last verbal fight we had was so intense (two days before the wedding)....I don't think I will ever try to contact her again. Our youngest sister even had a nervous break down the very next day after the wedding, because of all the verbal abuse she suffered through our older sister two days prior to the wedding. She was like a walking zombie throughout her wedding day. Sis had such hard time smiling - while our older sister acted like nothing happened. The thing about these kinds of people is that when you hear them talk about life from their perspective...they genuinely think that they are being made miserable. My older sis one time talked about how hard it was for her growing up....and I almost vomitted right there...because she even cried...lol. Seriously someone has to say something, though. My dad (bless his soul...I inherited my boldness from him)...said to his brother once when his sister-in-law verbally abused him in front of everyone, " I can smack her for you...seriously I will- just give me an ok!" You guys are not alone with this kind of problem. Do what you have to do!!! Don't be afraid to confront her....it can only get better or stay as bad as it already is anyway.

Answer 3

Well your gonna make someone mad if you take my advice. Let her know that you don't appreciate her disrespecting your brother like that. He may even get mad, but at least he'll know you love and care about him. THAT'S YOUR FAMILY. That's your brother !! You don't want to know what I did in that situation.,, or do you ?? I gotta tell you, it's funny. I grabbed that sucker by the hair and hurled her around in my drive-way, when she wouldn't listen to logic. She never did it again, and my brother and I survived it. Actually it was 20 years ago and we got some laughs over the years about it. I suppose most people woulndn't see the humour in it, but it all just happened so quick, it was totally out of character for me.

Answer 4

Your just getting started in the world yet my friend. The world is full of people like her everywhere!!!!! As you start to get older you realize that it takes too much energy to get upset and play into the drama of such nonsense. Just move on and find something constructive to do other than getting emotional over the "rotten people of the world". Its going to be a long long life if you choose to partake in this type of behavior. To each their own but if you take my advice, you'll learn to live a longer life and be much much happier inside and not need as much trappings of material things because you'll realize that all your happiness is derived from peace and not turbulence. Keep as far away from drama as you can throughout your life, trust me on this one.

Answer 5

I don't think that you should say anything to her, I think your first step is to talk to your brother. I would venture to say that there is more going on behind the scenes when none of your family is around, and that the way she treats your brother when your family is around is just a small part of the issue.

Answer 6

If she is being rude and mean to him in front of you all then you have a right to say something about it. Before you do say something you might want to talk to your brother about how she treats him and see what he says. He should be talking to his wife and finding out why she is mean to him/disrespects him in front of his family. He might be the sweet type of guy who doesn't stick up for himself or isn't aware of whats going on.
Either way, if she puts your brother down openly in front of you and your family - she is putting her business in the street and you have every right to say something. Someone (if not your brother) needs to stick up for him and tell her that a wife isn't supposed to act like that - she should be building him up and not being rude/mean to him, especially not in front of his own family. Sounds like this woman just wants to pick a fight or thinks no one will stand up to her.

Answer 7

Talk to your brother in private , with other family members, but without her.Then explain to him how you feel and maybe he will open up to you.Then, after you talk to him, and it keeps going on, approach her.But not in front of everybody.Say your all around and she says something mean...Then say, could I talk to you for a quick second, I wanted to ask you something.Then, when you get her alone, tell her how you feel and that it is not appropriate for her tyo talk to him anytime, but definetly at family functions because it wont tolerate it and she will not be asked to join anymore.

Answer 8

They are their own family unit and you really shouldn't butt in, but if you're worried about him then confront HIM about it. It might not bother him, it may be how they communicate. People say my husband and I bicker a lot, but we don't feel that way at all. We just like to discuss things and we're both not afraid to have our feelings heard. So, discuss with him how their relationship makes him feel before accusing her of being mean.

Answer 9

Smack her in the head and tell her to shut up!
But that's just what I would do. Say something too her!!!!!
She's the sister in law. A in law don't take anything off her.
I'd say something
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Answer 10

I would DEFINITELY speak up. You care more about her feelings than your brother? If not, then stick up for him, and let her know you don't appreciate it.
That's quite "ballsy" to be doing that in front of you & your whole family!! I'd say she was trying to assert her control.

Embarrass her and bring her down a few notches.

Answer 11

What I think you should do is maybe mention it to her with out people knowing. Take her into a room and talk to her and ask her how she would feel if someone treated her that way and talk to her about some other things. Then see how she acts later on.