How does it affect a girl if..............?

Question

How can it affect a girl if her father is distant and rejecting for most of her life? In your opinion?

Answer 1

It will make her look for the Love She did not receive from Her Dad, in another way, from a male. Some have a lot of meaningless sex, because at the moment it makes Them feel loved, and then afterward They feel used and abandoned. Some date, or have sex with older Men, looking for a Father figure. All of this usually messes up the entire dating scenario. So You have to tell Yourself that it is Your Fathers loss, and that You are a good Person who deserves better. And if Your Dad will not give it to You, the love, and respect, you deserve. Then you will just have to demand it for Yourself. Be strong, wait for a good guy, the right guy, so that Your Children can have a proper Dad. What a beautiful gift to give Them, and Yourself.

May God Bless your journey past the non worthy guys, to Mr. Right. Remember You want to find Mr. Right, not Mr. Right now.

Answer 2

If a young woman has no father figure or a distant one in the case you are talking about, she will most likely grow up with a feeling of inadequacy because of the lack of a father figure to reinforce her as she is growing up and seek to find it in other places. She will generally look this reinforcement in one or two different places.

1) If she is good at academia or an occupation she will try to replace the feelings of inadequacy by burying her nose into her books and then finding her identity in her occupation when she is done with her education.

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2) She will become the wild child, you know the one, she will become the party girl and be the life of the party. She will try to find the lost reinforcement by being the popular girl.

Answer 3

Well, my dad was physically present but he was an asshole. He didn't have a very high opinion of my abilities other than academically, where he expected me to be perfect and bitched if I got a 98% on an assignment. This particular combination has caused me to be pretty screwed up ambition wise. There's a lot of things I'd like to do, but it's hard to live up to my expectations and usually it's easier to just be lazy.

But apart from specific attitudes he had, having a generally crappy dad hasn't affected me negatively nearly as much as other stuff has. I didn't have any real friends all through school (I had a few fake ones, but no one who really cared) and thus didn't do the whole dating thing. So that was what caused me to pick bad guys and lots of them. Basically I was trying to make up for lost time, and I figured most people were assholes anyway so it wasn't like I could find a *good* guy to get with. I mean, I lost my virginity to a guy I didn't even particularly like, because I figured if I didn't do it then I'd still be a virgin when I was 60 if my life kept on according to its usual pattern. Pretty pathetic, huh?

So in general, I don't think lack of an acceptable father figure affects people nearly as much as everyone says it does. On the other hand, lack of people you have something in common with can screw you up bigtime. I got a lot happier once we got the internet and I was able to find people with BRAINS to hang out with.

Answer 4

well my father did it to me and It hurt cuz there are certain thing sometimes a girl just needs her dad for and feels more comfortable , but I had to turn to my brothers for all the male things I had questions about or I needed! But I managed but after I got older now my father tries to pay more attention when I'm 21 about to be 22 in 4 days and he tries to act so over protective which is ridiculous now! But you learn to live with it and maybe its becaus eyou know he didn't want a girl or he prefers not having to deal with girls cuz he might think they start too much trouble! But that's him if he wants to lose out on knowing a great perosn then let him he will regret it later in life!

Answer 5

She will most likely have trouble committing in relationships because she distrusts men, and may end up in a relationship with an older man because she feels she need some kind of father figure in her life to make up for it.

Answer 6

I feel that the girl will have relationship issues with men. Such as fear of rejection...in order to get or keep a man she'll use her body or whatever else it takes to "keep" him around, which never works.
Seek counseling. Most cities have state funded agencies for little or no cost to the patient.

Answer 7

They look for a mans approval and are needy for a mans attention.Not always, but alot.Thats why a girl needs her father as well as her mother.If not her father, a father figure will be better than nothing.A stepfather, a grandfather, even an uncle.

Answer 8

This is the stoey of my life, you feel like you cant trust men and you just go earching for someone to hold you when he emotionaly hurts you, and when ever that happend you run to that support system and you dont wanna let go cause as soon as you do you noyou have togo back to "good ol' dad". you just cant trust a man very easily, and usually that support system is not in your family so you can run further.

Answer 9

Its affects them because it is a man and that is the one person that makes a difference in your life, and if you feel like you can't count on your dad then your attitude toward men can turn bad on emotional levels.

Answer 10

I think she may go on looking for approval in a lot of different usually older men, doing it in the only way she know that will get his attention, and that is being flirty and promiscuous, of course not every girl