Serious help only...please. Someone that I used to hang around in high school?

Question

is getting married July 15, 2006. She went out of her way to call me and tell me where is registered and to tell me that she is going to have a small wedding and her address. She went as far as to tell who is standing in her wedding and where it is. And that she was not having a bachelorette party, but wanted to celebrate before the wedding with a friend of ours. I have not received an invitation and another friend told me that I was not invited. Even if I would have been invited, I would not have attended this wedding. I am not sure of her intensions by telling me all of this. What is your thoughts of her intensions. What I am wondering is if I should send a gift or not? Or should I be nice and have a bachelorette party for her? What are your thoughts?

Answer 1

Perhaps she *thought* she invited you by calling you and giving you her address. Without an actual invitation, I would be hesitant to go, but you should probably be the bigger person and send her a small gift from her registry. She may not appreciate it, but you'll know you did the right thing.

Answer 2

Well, what happened is that she had the invites made a long time ago, to save some money and THEN she realized she forgot about you. For weddings, forgetting does happen and should never cause anger, that leads to the dark side. Secondly, look at the guest list. Is there anyone you know, or should know. She might want you to show up to meet someone. Me, I say go to the wedding. As for the party, maybe not. She may have already talke it over with her fiance and decided against it. However, drinks with some highschool friends, thats acceptable I suspect. Peace

Answer 3

well maybe it sliped her mind
and don't listen to other people its not their wedding
and if you really want to know if you were invited ask her then you will know for sure and don't be afraid to say something
why would she tell you and not invite you
so ask her its the least you can do
Just drop it in like {so where do i leave the gift at?}
or {should i give you the gift at the wedding or do you want me to send it to you?}
that might help
your friend
blue butterfly

Answer 4

It sounds like the bride has invited you to the wedding. It may be coincidence that you didn't get a "formal" invitation because she bumped into you long after they were sent out.

The only other thing I can think of, is that she is trying to get as many presents as possible without inviting many people.

Answer 5

If she didn't invite you, you are under no obligation to give a gift or throw a party for her. If this is someone you want to give a gift to, do it, if now forget it and don't give it another thought. If anything, maybe you can get her a nice little congrats card and listen to her rave about the honeymoon. :)

Answer 6

I have no idea why this thing called you?? To brag??? If she did not invite you to the wedding, I would not attend, I would certainly not give her any kind of party, and definitely not send a gift!!!!!!

Answer 7

I think in some small way she might be trying to make you jealous or she is hiding a fact of her own insecurities by masking her issue with you.

Go to the party and have fun.
You already know you didn't want to go to the wedding so it actually might have worked out in your favour.

Who really knows what goes on in a girls mind?lol

Answer 8

she probably just want u to be jealous, so i think u should be the bigger person, u know the mature one, and send her a wedding gift. Show her u both r two different people, and u r the better one.

Answer 9

she could be jealous....
she could want to invite you but didnt know how....
the only way to know what she meant is talk to her....
anyway...
if your not invited no gift, no party....
and those are my thoughs....

Answer 10

Just let it go, and forget about it. Maybe she told you to make you feel bad who knows. Just for get about it.