My stepmother is a true witch.?

Question

I no longer live with my family, but when I did my life was a literal he**. My stepmother (who has two "perfect" daughters of her own), was a tyrant. When my dad and her got married I went through the normal problems a young girl recently estranged from her mother and forced to accept soemone new as her mother would go through. As punishment for this my stepmother would lock me in my room and take away all entertainment. WHen I turned 12 she sent me away to a baording school adn I was moved around from school to school away from my family until I was 18. I only saw my dad 4 times through all of those years. Now that I have been liberated my stepmother will not allow me to contact my dad to tell him my new number or anything (she intercepts his e-mails and mail from me). I know she is only with him for his money and she even made him get better life insurance! How do you all suggest I get in contact with him? I am out of ideas, I have tried everything.

Answer 1

boy, this is horrible.. it sounds like you need a lawyer.. (I know, they cost money tho.) What in the world does this woman have against you?! goodness! I think she'd be scared he'd find out she's intercepting things (from you..) I mean he's got rights to see you too! She probably (as she's got the 'perfect daughters' floating around) calls you all sorts of names and (don't let me hurt your feelings) has maybe even convinced him some of them are true. It's unfair as hell. Can you call the guy? I'd keep in mind tho that you don't know what kinda crap she's been saying all these years. You said you've tried everything (she's blocking you.) I wonder if you could (you must know some of his friends..) talk to somebody (one of his contemporaries) about this situation. Calmly explain what you said above (heh, don't call her a 'witch' tho she is one..) to somebody else that can access your father more readily than you.. maybe they can arrange for you two to meet (like for lunch?) how about that? I'm hoping you are living somewhere closeby. If not, or if you are too young yet to have any money/resources, I guess you're forced to wait another year, two until you do have, sweetie!.. later /g'luck (don't give up) melancholia

Answer 2

You need to contact your dad ASAP call him where she can't stop you. Do you have his work number? What is wrong with him that he would allow you to be mistreated, he sounds like an enormous wimp and whipped.

If you can't contact him or he's unresponsive, let it go. You can't do anything because she has the power. If anything happens to him I would definitely have it investigated. It sounds like she has something up her sleeve.

I would also get some counseling, you had a rough life and no on to stand up for you. It is very hurtful when the person who's supposed to protect stands by while you are being treated badly.

You are a grown woman now and try to be the best person you can be. Learn from this experience to be independent and love your own kids when you have them.

Good luck.

Answer 3

I also had a wicked step mother. I wish I had been sent to boarding school. Then I wouldn't have had to stay with her. Very abusive verbal and physical. It has been 10 years since I left and I am just realizing that my dad was just as much to blame since he never stepped in. I would just walk away for a while and see if he contacts you. IF you still want to get in touch with him after that, Your stepmothers guard should be down so you could probably get a call through.. Try him at work. Good luck...

Answer 4

She makes my stepmother look like an angel and I thought mine was bad. She sounds like she took her people skills right out of Cinderella. You have to find out where you dad works or something so she is not around. Then you can e-mail him there or call him or maybe there has to be a person you know who could take information straight to him such as a mutual acquaintance or something.

Answer 5

I know how u feel. I had another man in my house instead of my dad and that was some pure hell. I think you should just stand up for yourself and another people that your dad hasn't contacted and march up to their front porch and barge your way into the house. U have tried everything else so I think that's what you should do. They cant call the police on you because that's your father and you have the right and she cant stop you from seeing you father. Explain to him what you said about her using him and im sure hell listen.

Answer 6

first of all what is wrong with dad..you are his daughter..he should be trying to find you. as far as step mother..she will suffer and be miserable believe..me. you cant be dirty and rotten and not be punished. whether she ends up with dads..money and gets beat down by another guy or dyes a terrible death... her day will come for being such a witch. however that is your dad... i would march right up to to his door... if i had to take the police..or go to his job.. but nothing will work if daddy does not get a backbone. and personally i think she may be doing his dirty work by playing the bad guy. four times in all those years? come on dad!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

Hey, where is your Dad's spine??? sounds like he's being pussie=whipped, honey. He should be the one to put an end to this crap. Next time you talk to Dad, ask him why he lets her walk all over him and interfer with your relationship with him?? Tell him you're not contacting him until he contacts you. This will hurt, but you have to make your point. And besides...there are two sides to every story, Cinderella.

Answer 8

If you know where he lives just go there!
What happened to your Mother? Contact her!
Go around the Witch and find him!
Ask one of the daughters.
Get a Private Detective1
Don't let her stop you!
If you are that determined to contact him you will find a way!

Answer 9

Well, If you're over 18 then you should just email him or something because 18 is old enough to make your own decisions and now you don't have to obey all of her rules because 18 is an official adult age.

Answer 10

Well, I think your problem is deeper than you expect. If your dad really wanted to keep in contact, he would have done so regardless of the wishes of his new(ish) wife.