I need advice about my relationship, please help me!?

Question

Im a middle aged woman in a fairly new relationship barely two months old. Everything has been good until the last few days. My BF owns his own business and he has had a lot of new clients recently and extra work come in so he is busy a lot. My problem is, that in the last few days I have not heard from him at all, no phone calls, no emails, nothing. We used to talk for hours everyday. Is he losing interest in me or am I paranoid? I feel Like no matter how busy he is he can spare me a few minutes a day to talk. Am I right?

Answer 1

Owning your own business and having it be successful takes all of your time if it is going to succeed. He is so caught up in it right now because it's taking off and he's focused. You should be happy right now for him and don't take it personally.

He sounds like a workaholic and his business is important to him and you need to understand and accept that before going any further in your relationship. If you make him decide you are making a mistake, he'll either dump you or resent you and you don't want either of those things to happen.

Send him an e-mail or a phone message letting him know you are thinking of him and would like to know how the business is doing and how he's doing. Don't nag and be childish about it. Appreciate that he has ambition in life and wants success.

You say you haven't heard from him, have you called? Have you made an effort or do you believe it's only one sided? Relationships are a two way street, each giving 100/100 percent.

Be supportive and I am sure he will respond and don't play games.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Yeah I might be concerned too.But chances are he's a little overwhelmed with the extra work and wants his business to do well so that can be a little worrisome.He probably just needs a little space.Don't be too freaked out,my husband (the Bear) frequently goes in to his (cave) the office in our house,just to be alone and think things through without putting it all on me.He's probably got alot going on,just live your life and maybe take up a hobbie so your not thinking about him all the time,or if you can't stand it, you can call him and tell him you don't want to bother him but was wondering if everything is okay.

Answer 3

Yea..he should be able to make a minute to call and say hi..however, since he hasn't called..you call him.
2 months isn't a long time to be in a relationship anyways..maybe it means more to you then it does him.
I would show up at his business and take a cue from his reaction..if he is happy to see you...then maybe he was to busy...
BUT if he gets ill b/c you are there...then I think you know what you should do............move on and find someone who has the time for you!

I have been married for 12 years..my hubby leaves the house an hour before I do...but he calls me EVERY morning as my wake up call....so if he really wanted to..he would make the time

Answer 4

U should try talking to him once......make sure u have a serious but understanding tone when talking to him. maybe u could try doing dinner for him once and as u r talking, somehow bring up the subject...........u can try being either indirect or direct on what u want to tell him.....i would suggest direct..........and if u want more time together.........u could try doing a romantic dinner someday or go out somewhere ''special'' that may bring back memories to both of u.......such as whereever u met firs or something.....ha and if he does't remember why the place is so special just bring up the subject.....and if he doesn't don't worry, sometimes men are like that.......they forget and remember that they show their feelings more in their actions than their words....and if you think that he does'n want to share his problems or life with u......he might think that it's not nessesary, bc he thinks u know....and when he finally decides to talk to u..........THAT'S when he will need u the most!!......^.^'''
by the way....im only 14............i think adults make problems seem harder than what they are.....NO OFENCE AT ALL!!!....but i wanted to comment this with somebody......im not saying to be careless, but the more u worry the harder the problems seem!!!

Answer 5

Actually I've been in the same kind of situation. My boyfriend works with his father and sometimes has to go out of town and one time shortly after we started seeing each other I didn't hear from him... I thought the worst like you and was unsure of what was going on. I got a text from him stating that he was working with his father and that he would call me later that night. I didn't hear from him for 3 days.... He finally called me and we straightened everything out.

I'm sure he's just busy and will call you soon.

Answer 6

He could be just under stress from work. Take a few minutes to help him unwind for a few minutes. Surprise him with a quick lunch. Call him for a quick hello. Send an e-mail. If he dosen't respond ask why somehow, and then move on.

Answer 7

I agree with u. He should at least call u once. Anyone can spare just a few min. to talk. I don't know what is happening but its probably nothing. How about you call him? Hope everything works out OK. Good Luck :)

Answer 8

From one middle-aged Old Broad to another, your Boyfriend has another woman, honey. You already know that. What's 2 months?? Thats 8 weeks!!! GEEZE....don't act so needy. Go find yourself another "on the side" partner when BF is playing around. He'll come around soon enough and when he does, act like nothing happened. Men HATE needy women!!! Take a deep breath and act like a MAN-EATER!

Answer 9

I definetly think that you are right. A man should always make time for his woman no matter how busy he is. I would try forgetting about him and move on.

Answer 10

unless being busy is how it gets this time of year for his business. it depends....

just ask him where the relationship is going next time you get a chance to talk to him.