if you found out, your sister was calling your husband, and trying to sleep with him?i have disowned her, but my whole family says i need to forget it and forgive her. but i cant. i have been married to my husband for 21 years. i dont know if anything ever happen, between them, he said it didnt. but i know how men are. i just dont trust her, dont want her around me or my family, but my mom and dad and three of my brothers are really, acting shittie toward me. because of the way i feel.shes in a bad marriage, and has been married 6 times and will go to bed with anybody.her bad marriage was her excuse for calling my husband, because her husband doesnt satisfy her in bed. sorry this got so long, but this has really hurt me.
2006-06-22 13:02:00 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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2006-06-22 13:13:56 · answer #1 · answered by Grandma of six 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Family bonds should be sacred and what she did show a lack of respect for you and the rest of the family. I don't understand why the rest of the family is upset with you when they really should be upset with her for doing what she did. I don't think you should forgive her or forget what she did. If your husband truly loves you, then you should be able to trust him when he said that nothing happened between them. If you are unsure as to whether or not anything happened, then there is a lack of trust on your part for him and that is no way to go through a marriage. If your family really want you to forgive your sister, I think that everyone involved should sit down and have a long talk and discuss why she did what she did and get everything out in the open. I bet if it had happened to anyone else in your family, they wouldn't be so fast to say forgive her. I think if she has tried with your husband, she has probably tried it with other relatives husbands as well.
2006-06-22 20:14:41 · answer #2 · answered by lori 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move away from your sister and change phone numbers. YOu are trying to save your marriage so don't listen to your parents or brothers and sisters. You have your own family now and you are the only one who knows what is best for your marriage.
YOu have to trust your husband too.
2006-06-22 20:12:35 · answer #3 · answered by Amy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust in your husband. Talk to him and tell him your concerns and that if it ever happens between them it will be over. If your husband has been with you 21 years with only one phone call from sis and he says nothing is going on then believe him. He needs to tell her talk to you not him.
2006-06-23 03:35:31 · answer #4 · answered by charleedude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have faith in your husband nothing should worry you. If not...maybe take a deeper look as to why? You should feel that you are the only one he wants. If you are scared your sister and him did something, then you are not secure in your marriage. Seek counseling for you and him....maybe you and your sister go afterwards...then after that...all three of you!
Good luck!
2006-06-23 06:53:55 · answer #5 · answered by vonixx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can forgive and you should, just so you don't have that bottled up inside, but that doesn't mean you have to trust her because you know her history and what she's like.Tell your family you forgive her but don't trust her therefore you don't really want your family around her anymore than you have to.Or you can move to another state.Get caller I.D. so when she calls you or your husband doesn't answer it.
2006-06-22 20:14:23 · answer #6 · answered by Granny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you need to move away! and your husband better not be falling for this crap because if he is then he isn't worth it either. your family sounds dumb to me if they find this all okay so it looks like your on your own with this battle, i think the only thing there is to do is to talk this completely thorough with the family and especially your husband, if he truly loves you then he would do nothing to hurt you
2006-06-22 20:09:53 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things:
First, sit down and talk with your husband. Explain how you feel about this and how badly betrayed you would feel if he did anything.
Second: Sit down with your sister. Tell you sister that interfering with you marriage won't help her situation.
2006-06-22 20:10:48 · answer #8 · answered by wires 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋