Ok, I met this guy at a party and found myself really attracted to him right away, and I think that he may have felt the same way. I havent talked to him since then, but I cant stop thinking about him. The problem is he is the ex of someone I know. There is a lot of drama that will follow if something were to happen. My friends, however, are no longer friends with his ex. so would this be a bad idea to persue?
2006-06-22 12:55:57 · 34 answers · asked by Mystic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I think this is tricky.. and as you like him well enough yuo can't get him out of your mind, I'd plot my stragegy. I'd wait a littttttle bit longer... (not long enuff he goes for somebody else tho.) You need to not pursue him.. make it his idea.. I mean be at the same spots he's gonna be.. make a little 'eye contact' (don't come on too bold tho.. trust me, it'll work.) Do this a few times.. see if he takes the bait. It does have its drawbacks tho as ****, you might be there watching him hit on some other babe, who knows? but, nothing ventured, nothing gained, right? (game of life and love.. play it!)
2006-06-22 13:00:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
If you really like the guy then you should find out if the feeling is mutual. You are very young and in a short time, all those that may have a problem with it will have moved on to other things to talk about. You may find your life mate here. Don't let these people direct your life.
Say you hit it off and marry him. I guarantee in 20 years you (and they) will have forgotten all about the concerns you have today. You very likely will not even know 90% of those people, so their opinion is not an issue. You do what is best for you.
2006-06-22 13:03:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you go through the drama, let this guy see you again and wait to see what his reaction is. If he feels the same as you, he might just come to you. If he's the type with no game, he won't come to you, but he will let you know that he's interested by his eyes and body gestures. That's when you let a friend go find out for you. ie...I saw you lookin at my homegirl, want me to hook you up? Remember, he wanted to talk to you, that's why he approached you or he was interested in you, so he asked your homegirl to hook him up. Your the victim. He came to you. This way if the drama starts it's not your fault. You were just bein you.
2006-06-22 13:21:13 · answer #3 · answered by SandMan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flip a coin and if you cannot live with the coin's decision, then change it. Don't get caught up in the drama unless you like it there. Do what you want you are young-I suppose- and in 5 or 10 years will the drama really matter?
2006-06-22 13:01:24 · answer #4 · answered by Gigit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends how close you are to the person you know. What is it to her anyway. Ex should mean ex, so meaning no strings, water under the bridge. If someone is split up with a guy are they really split up. EX usually means cutting the cord completely. Go for it. Follow your heart.
2006-06-22 18:19:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, first clue, EX That means they are no longer involved. Life really is too short to second guess emotions, thoughts, and feelings, and if your friend is really a friend she/he would accept it and wish that you find happiness where she/he could not. The worst that can happen is that the person isn't interested or you friend goes away. Really.
2006-06-22 13:01:31 · answer #6 · answered by Torso 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you or none of your friends like her and are her friend anymore i dont really see a big problem u cant lose a friendship over it lol it might start a fight of course but that could happen with any exs even if u dont know them sometimes so if u 2 like each other id say go for what the heck
2006-06-22 13:00:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you and your friend's aren't friends with his ex then there is no problem. He is fair game as long as he is single. If you are willing to deal with the drama that may or may not happen if you go out with him then go for it!
2006-06-22 12:58:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he worth the drama? That's the only thing you have to think of. I think you should just take the risk though. His ex should stop being so childish and get over it.
2006-06-22 12:57:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How valuable is your friendship? Most people lie when they say they are unaffected by their friends dating their ex lovers. Though there are exceptions, it is rare. I have a code that I and all my friends understand, never date a friends ex, just in case, don't take a chance.
2006-06-22 13:00:57 · answer #10 · answered by fortuitousoppty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋