can someone help me??

Question

i'm a chirstain and i love the lord so much..and i'm married with two children that i love..but my husband isnt a chirstain he know of god but dont serve him..we just dont get along.we have been together for 17 years.and i believe our love is fading..what should i do? please no smart remarks..thank you

i've been in church for years,yes we both was in church when we got married but he fall out of church and so our marriage started to fade away...he doesnt stop me for going to church,he tells me to go..but........our relationship is he goes his way and i go mine

TO RHO ZETA i dont believe in cheating...my lord doesnt like that..so please take your smart remark back..and repent for your dumbness..thank you!!!

Answer 1

It doesn't matter what he thinks about God but what you think about God and how your relationship with God is. my husband is the same and I married him when we were both new Christians, he went away from God and still doesn't have a close relationship with Jesus. i love him regardless of what he believes sounds like you don't want to love your husband because you expect a high standard

and the more you love God the more the love for others grows

Answer 2

That's a tough one, Hon, as you have been with him for 17 years, and you would think by now you two would have things figured out. Did you recently become Christian and he didn't? If you have been this way all along, and you say your love is fading for him only now, is it because he doesn't embrace your form of religion that your love is fading? That wouldn't be very Christian, would it now? Jesus wasn't into judging others for their differences, and he surely didn't put demands on others to convert or to follow him as he loved EVERYBODY......Now after 17 years, it is normal for people to not be so enthused about each other, and that is why a good strong friendship can carry you through all things. Also, you have your children to think of, is he good with them and loves them and puts their needs first, then you probably have it better than most, and if your only problem is the fact that he doesn't follow your form of Worship, then I don't really understand what the problem is. How about you both go to counseling (not with your Pastor though as that will be an "us against him situation", someone non-denominational) and see how that goes.

Answer 3

Your love is fading, just like everybody Else's after so many years of marriage. Nothing to worry about. Take an extra hobby, dancing lessons(maybe even with your hubby), or learning of an extra language, or singing in your church quire. What ever pleases you. When you don't see your husband that much, and meet some new people in your life, you will not be worried.
When it comes to love for Christ, many people don't have an ability to give them self's completely to anything, let alone to God
Belief in God should be left as something very personal, and every one is happy. If you have known your husband for 17 years, why is it bothering you right now that he is not as much of a believer?
Now, a question for you; Why are the Christians always so sad in their religion? It is almost as they feel constant guilt about something? Cheer up, and celebrate Jesus's life. Don't mourn his death. He had it the way he chose for him self, and brought us the great massage. Be happy.

Answer 4

don't focus so much on your husband not being christian - he has his beliefs. focus on your relationship with him. If you really love him, then don't worry about his religion. Support your children together with your husband, and create a happy family. You have to look at the cause of your "not getting along" is it only because of religion? Look at the good in your husband, try that. Don't let your love fade. Look at the fruits of your love, your children, then you can realize what a miracle it is what you and your husband have created. Try to find the good in your husband, and support him although you may not agree with him completely (unless what he is doing is completely wrong). I would also recommend marriage counseling if things get worse.

Answer 5

I was in a similar boat. I was the one who saw that the kids were brought up in church. I was the one who lived the Christian life while my husband lived his own life his own way. But, when I said the marriage vows, I meant what I said. He did not try to stop me from going to church or being with my Christian friends. We did finally divorce after 13 yrs of marriage due to his infidelity. I really think it was what was best for me. Had he not cheated on me, I would still be married to him and be very unhappy. I wish you well.

Answer 6

Perhaps your love for your husband is fading in relation to your increased love of the lord. The Bible calls for you to love God more than your husband, children, or parents, so you're right on track.

Three biggest causes of divorce: money, children, and religion.

Answer 7

I've been in that same position, and I feel for you. First of all, pray for him. It did help for awhile in my case. But he has to make that choice. You can't change him. If the differences are coming between you you may be better off to end it. It depends on how serious the differences are. Counseling might be worth a try. You should consult your pastor. My husband refused to even consider it, but it might help you sort out your own feelings. Good luck and I'll pray for you.

Answer 8

I'm sorry but i don't agree with the FIRST guy that replyed before me! yes it might be scripture BUT STILL!!!

any ways... you've been married for a lonnnnng time. You've done it this far. if you love him still, try to get him in to counseling .. EVEN AND I WOULD RECOMMEND IT
"NOT" for it to be from your church or anyone with STRICT and CLOSE MINDED VIEWS.

i'm a christian. i was with my husbad for 5 years under a lot of abuse!

I'm seperated now and have been for about a year. Its very hard but i doubt that god would of wanted a man to treat his wife less than dirt!! thats just my opinion.


PRAY AND SEEK HIS WISDOM

Answer 9

First Corinthians chapter 7 verse 12. NEW TESTATMENT K.J.V.
I am sure there is more to understand in all of this. Know that if you pray to the FATHER in JESUS's NAME, HE wil help you. Seek and ye shall find.
If he has accepted JESUS as his SAVIOUR (been Born-Again), even though he is not living right, he is still a Child of GOD.
Hope this helps.

Answer 10

This has to come from him. You can not force God on anyone you love unless you want to push them away. The best way to bring someone to Christ is by example. Be the best person you can, show your love, enjoy what you have. Many people come to God because they want what a happy Christian offers through example.