My auntie comes to stay with us during the summer and I don't get along with her. Recently my grandfather died and she immediately starts blaming me for his death! How can I get along with her?
2006-06-22 12:43:32 · 13 answers · asked by Man_With_No_Name 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm assuming that you still live with your parent. Do they know the situation and how it makes you feel? If so why is she still coming to your house? Maybe have a family meeting where you can voice your concerns.
If it looks like there is no way out and she is coming to stay.... Take the high road... be polite and maybe keep your contact with her to a minimum.
Find activities to do outside of home.
If she goes on again about your grandfathers death, politely and calmly let her know how you feel.
If she still goes on just ignore her and go on about your business.
Remember take the high road, if you do not lose your cool she hasn't got something else to whinge about
I hope you get through the summer okay and condolences about your grandfather.
2006-06-22 12:52:40 · answer #1 · answered by tjrj23 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't be disrespectful first of all. No mouthing off that will just make it worse. When she says that, here's what you say to her: "Auntie, I love you, and I'm sorry you feel that way." and then go about your business. That should be your standard answer: do not react, cause then she gets your goat - that's what she wants and you're falling right into her hands. Don't lose your temper: you could say..."yes, I understand, you think I'm responsible."....and that's it. Then you acknowledged her feelings. Look family is family. You might need that Auntie one of these days. Play it super cool and then go about your business. OK..?? This is going to take some maturity on your part. Set a good example and don't let her get to you. God Bless.
2006-06-22 20:41:28 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get some intervention, your parent who is related to her and should step in and stand up to her. She has no right to come into your home and act stupid. You need to talk to your parents and tell them that this is not acceptable and she's disrespecting you and their home.
What she is doing is extremely cruel and should not be tolerated. If she continues to do this avoid her at all costs, if your parents do nothing to help, stay at a friend or relatives home until she leaves.
You don't deserve to be harassed by this crazy witch. She sounds a little nuts so I would try to get some help on this.
Good luck.
2006-06-22 20:27:14 · answer #3 · answered by marianlaughs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you obviously still live with your parents, maybe you should tell your parents about her outlandish accusations. Nobody can be blamed for someone's death unless they really did KILL them. If your parents don't believe you or don't do anything, confront her like an adult. Just tell her how you feel, show her that she is wrong while respecting her postion as your elder. (That sucks, I know, especially when she is acting like a little sibling, but it is still true.) She might respect you for your adult like- response, and she might not, but atleast YOU know you acted like an adult. If her behavior adn accusations continue, ignore her. Since you have taken the time to be an adult and she didn't, the ball is in her court. It's off your shoulders, she is the one who can't come to terms with reality.
2006-06-22 19:54:39 · answer #4 · answered by hh4pres 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a family mediation. They are free in many communities and they really do help you get all of your issues out on the table and come up with a way to deal with them in the future.
Good Luck!
2006-06-22 19:48:02 · answer #5 · answered by az 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she needs to get over it. If your grandfather's death was your falt then you would be in prison. Get over it Auntie!!!
2006-06-23 03:38:12 · answer #6 · answered by charleedude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you are the adult of the house or not, but if that happened to me she wouldn't be staying with me that's for sure. If you're not the adult of the house find a friend's house your parents will let you stay at.
2006-06-22 19:47:22 · answer #7 · answered by Christy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read the book "how to hug a porcupine". it helps to get along with difficult people even if some are verbally abusive.
2006-06-22 19:45:52 · answer #8 · answered by chariot804 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her like it is. His death was NOT your fault and you do NOT appreciate her constant nonsense.
2006-06-22 19:45:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
shoot her!!
just kidding... just don't get near her... I guess.... or simply confront her and tell her that she's no one to be judging you and tell her to shut up!! that's what I'd do!
2006-06-22 19:46:22 · answer #10 · answered by Dan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋