iam gay and iam also 18 but my mom just dont thank i should be gay she does not a prove of it what do u think i should do
2006-06-22 12:23:27 · 29 answers · asked by derrick w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You can't please everyone all the time. Being gay is a tough thing for family members to deal with sometimes. You have to be true to yourself and live your life the way you want to. She's your mother so hopefully she will come around (give her some time) and if not, there is nothing you can do to change her.
Good Luck!
2006-06-22 12:27:16 · answer #1 · answered by az 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really shouldn't let your moms opinion get in the way of who you are. She may not approve but she will come around. It will just take some time. Don't go in to the conversation expecting her to go to any gay pride events right away though. She won't approve at first and she may never agree with it but maybe if you take a more scientific approach to the situation she will understand a little better that you can't help who you are. A movie you might want to watch is "The Truth About Jane" it is based on a true story... It's actually sort of an autobiography but it may help you with approaching your mother. Good luck and remember; never let the opinion of others mold who you are.
2006-06-22 12:44:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 18, Very Young In Mums Eyes, And Your Mum,s Little Boy, No Matter What Age.
What you have just told her , She Is In Shock.
Why because in there generation,
It Wasn't Something TALKED ABOUT.
People Wasn't As Opened Minded As They Are Now,
Or Educated, As People Are Know.
It Will Take Her Some Time , To Get Over The Shock.
But Your Mum Loves You ,
And She Will Come To Terms With It.
She Will See In Time,
She Will Love You For Who You Are,
Then Not Have You At All. Just Give Her Time.
My Thought Are With You, Hang In there ~*~*~*~*~ Peace.
2006-06-22 12:37:05 · answer #3 · answered by Brat-tett & Brat Pack's 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey I sorry to tell you this but I'm gonna come to you stright. God does not approve of you being Gay. He hates it and it makes him cry. Your mom doesn't approve of it because she didn't raise you to be like that. She has other plans for you and it hurt her to know that is the life you want to live. So having her deal with it is not something that's going to happen over night she might not ever except it. Your just gonna have to think if this what you really want.
2006-06-22 12:28:36 · answer #4 · answered by junclekitty86 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a choice you did not make, it was made for you. It is too bad that your Mom does not understand and stand by you.
Don't antagonize her, be discreet. Just remember, you are still her son, she is still your Mom. Be a good son. She will come around, hopefully.
Live your life in an honorable way. She is probably worried about what her friends will think. Don't give them a reason to think badly about you.
2006-06-22 12:29:44 · answer #5 · answered by starting over 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a hard hit to take. She just wants all the best for you. Talk to her about it a lot. Seems to me your mind is made up. Although the women population is sad to loose another possible hot guy. I hope you have thought your decisions through and know what you are doing. Don't totally push your mom away but give her distance and keep in contact with her.
2006-06-22 12:29:07 · answer #6 · answered by pinkbunnylol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are who you are and you cannot change that. I am sorry your mom doesn't approve of your lifestyle but it is still your life. You are 18 and an adult, you can do what you want but you have to do it on your own.
Don't mention it to her, let it be because she doesn't want to hear it. Do you have a job, can you support yourself because you need to live your life. You can't deny what you are, and neither can she. If you live on your own you can do what you want.
She's still your mother and she stills loves you and maybe she will come around when she sees how mature and dedicated your are in your life.
Good luck.
2006-06-22 13:30:45 · answer #7 · answered by marianlaughs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it clear to her how you feel, tell her there isnt anything you can do about it. I am not confident but i heard theres free help for people in similar situations. Try contacting them, they are experienced in these situations. Here is the website http://www.glnh.org and here is the number: 1800-246-7743. Just be honest about it, you'll feel better in the long run. :) hope that helps, be safe.
2006-06-22 12:34:43 · answer #8 · answered by mystri_guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 19 and bisexual! i had the same problem. i just told them and they have to accept me for who i am even if im not their dream boy. if they ever throw too much of a fit, i will just move out. i think they will come around, but i am hoping that science will prove that it is not a choice soon so they will be proven wrong. its a tough life, but hold in there buddy, everything will turn out fine ;)
2006-06-22 12:31:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would it matter?
Does she really wanna hear about you sticking it in a girl or guy?
I think no mother needs to know where/when/how her son gets his dinky stinky....
Tell her you enjoy the company of males rater then females leave the sexual part of it out. And if she can't handle it, get her some prozac.
And to the response above mine: there is no GOD! So do as you please.
2006-06-22 12:28:39 · answer #10 · answered by Angie A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋