arent we consenting adults? we are both divorced. I love her,she loves me. why cant other christians let us be?
2006-06-22 12:02:19 · 41 answers · asked by magnusvonhumis 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Your sex life is noone's business but your own. You have to just be above them and not care. People are going to judge you even if you do everything "the right way" (whatever that may be it varies on who you talk to).
2006-06-22 12:05:59 · answer #1 · answered by sonik_starz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the so called 'Christian' folk that I know, the ones who go to church on a Sunday and chat to the vicar etc etc, are total hypocrites. They spend most of their working week being foul mouthed and shouting sexist comments at girls who are young enough to be their daughters then just because they go to a big building on a Sunday where the gathered folks chant and carry on, profess to be 'Christians'. They make me sick.
Don't let others judge you or put you down. You are doing nothing wrong. There is nothing as beautiful as the love between a man and a woman so you two should do exactly whatever makes you both happy!
2006-06-22 12:17:02 · answer #2 · answered by Tatsbabe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is called fornication and it is a sin. If the rapture comes before you two get married, you will be left here, during the tribulation. If either of you were to die without being married and repenting of this sin, you would be condemned to hell for all of eternity. Please repent and get married. If you Love each other enough to have sex, then you Love each other enough to work at a marriage. It is a respect for GOD and the other person that should be first. These are the 2 most important rules that Jesus gave us.
Judgment is not right, but it may be true concern instead of judgment.
May GOD bless you both, and give you the wisdom and courage to do the right thing, in Jesus name.
2006-06-22 12:20:14 · answer #3 · answered by Ja Le M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why as an adult are you allowing other people to judge you? ignore them do not allow them to have any power over you. It doesn't matter what they think. why is it any ones business what two grown mature consenting adults do in the privacy of their bedroom? Sex is not an evil or a dirty act it is a part of the natural order of life. Good sex brings joy, pleasure and a small measure of peace.
2006-06-22 12:15:49 · answer #4 · answered by mabthewolfqueen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who are these other Christians who are judging you? Your relationship is none of their business. The two of you are consenting adults and your sex life is definitely none of their business. I think you should be in love, be happy and have as much sex as you want. Christian or not, these people shouldn't be judging anyone.
2006-06-22 12:13:49 · answer #5 · answered by mia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were Christians you would be following Christ and his example. I am not casting stones here, as what I said applies to me. But if we take Christ serious and we judge ourselves by his word and example, we would save ourselves heartache and trouble.
We humans try to justify our sins to ease our consciences. The trouble is, sin is sin and when we sin we have to (a) ask for forgiveness immediately afterword -and- (b) stop that sin or correct it if that is possible at all.
You said you are both divorced. I have no idea about the situation concerning your divorces on either side. I refer you to what Jesus said. Except of adultery (would also imply other sexual sins) we have no excuse to divorce or remarry.
A Christian does his or her best to embrace the teachings of Christ and be Christ-like (hence the term Christian). We are not to justify our sins to others nor to ourselves but take full responsibility for them - Admit it to God and ask forgiveness - then avoid making the same mistake(s) again.
You maybe consenting adults but not one of us have the right to sin and claim it's okay - I'm a Christian. Paul said that we should not use our freedom in Christ to take advantage of the world's ways and exploit Christ's sacrifice as if it were nothing.
What you did and what she did can not be justified nor dismissed because you wave a "I'm a Christian" flag. You did what you did out of lust - and lust is never about love but carnal desire.
I am not judging you, but pointing you to Christ who instructs us. If you feel I am judging you, I'm sorry. Its not me (I'm just reminding you, thats all) It is your own guilt trying to justify a wrong.. and TRUST ME - I'VE BEEN IN YOUR SHOES..., so I understand more than you know.
2006-06-22 12:17:22 · answer #6 · answered by Victor ious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how did you advertize your sins ,,did you buy a great big red A and sew it on,,, dont tell idiots your personal business ,and they cant be overcome with remorse or stumble into a pit because youve grown up and played Dr feel good ,,,whats the problem tell them all to get over it ,,you prayed and God forgives us all ,,,so forget them ,,,,just tell them the truth your an adult and thats what real men and women do,,, and so have sex and then just ask god for forgiveness he will ,,and also do it behind locked doors your adults not community theatre,,, so behave as you wish and then if you both feel its right and you are compatable in everyway think about Marriage as a way to end others interest in your intamacies
2006-06-22 12:10:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know they are??? Maybe you're just insecure. 10 years isn't that big of an age difference. Now if you were 25 and she was 15, yeah. You're fine. I know tons of people who have spouses/gf/bf that are 10 years older. I don know a nice way to say screw the Christians. Just be happy and quit worrying about what other people think. You'll both earn respect that way.
BTW, my husband is 9 years older than me.
2006-06-22 12:10:06 · answer #8 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you say you consider yourself Christians. Thats good.
As such, we are not perfect all the time. We sin, just as much as those who are not Christians. But if we love God, we will keep his commandments. Its not right to promote this way of life.
Hebrews 13:4 - Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
If you love her as you say you do, Then ask her to marry you. If you feel that you do not know her well enough to marry her, Then why did you discover her secret parts, it was for her husband?
Repent, and sin no more. Continue to get to know her. But don't disrespect each others bodies in this ungodly act. Its hard, but you must feel quilty and are looking for a reason to continue, but the bible does not recommend this type of behavior.
True love is keeping of the commandments.
Matthew 22:36 Master, which is the great commandment in the law? 37 Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. 38 This is the first and great commandment. 39 And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. 40 On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.
Love is the fulfilling of the commandments. If you love you won't steal, kill, covet, or commit adultery. All the commandments of God that pertain to humans, shows us how to love each other.
If you love her you will not want her to sin, or help her to sin with you. You can make it right. Chrstians are not here to judge you, just help you. The world promotes free sex, but God does not.
2006-06-22 12:39:05 · answer #9 · answered by mornings_sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A sin is a sin no matter what and if you let others judge you, you might as well get it good by having sex all the time, If it were me and we had sex and we liked it, I tell you once is not enough, not for me, let them judge you I mean if you did it once its the same as doing it 100 times,
2006-06-22 12:10:08 · answer #10 · answered by man of ape 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋