My boyfriend is being a little controlling, not like abuseivly or nething like that. But he has issues with some of the new clothes that i have bought and he has to ask every 5 min if i wont wear them somewhere. then he likes to know who i'm with but he has problems with me hanging out with other guys, i understand this but how can i get him to trust me more and the ppl i am with? I love our relationship and everything else is great, it just his jealousy and such. Any ideas on what i can do or tell him?
2006-06-22 11:57:41 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This shows the LOVE he has for you & sure he thinks he will loose you (state of insecurity). Try to encourage him by positive comments & surprises everyday. Express how you feel great about him other than anyone else,& see the differencein him.
2006-06-22 12:09:17 · answer #1 · answered by Muttama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, for one, you could get him to meat the people..... and, when you ask him if he wants to meet them, act like you want him to to. then, just be honest with him and such. time builds trust, yeh thats true. and, maybe there is a reason he doesnt trust you, it might not be much to you, but some guys can hold stuff inside and such. he is also insecure about himself most likely, so youll ust have to wait for him to get over that..... or ditch him.....
2006-06-22 12:20:17 · answer #2 · answered by mdrieber00013 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my girlfriend talk about everthing. Communication is key. If this relationship is serious to you sit down and have a heart to heart with him. You should be able to come to some kind of agreement. Also bear in mind that jealousy is not a form of love or admiration but general concern is. I pray everything works out for you like thier working out for me. :-)
2006-06-22 12:07:44 · answer #3 · answered by Doogle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love requires trust.
Trust requires the acceptance of the risk that you could be hurt.
The only reassurance, is in the knowledge that the person you are with, is with you because they choose to be with you.
And they choose to be with you because of who you are and the things that make you unique and special to them.
Sometimes, people are not confident/happy in who they are, or their insecurities (we all have them) cloud their ability to recognize their own uniqueness - that same uniqueness that attracts their partner to them.
This feeling of inadequacy, leads to the belief that it is possible someone else will be able to make their mate happier.
The fear of this actually happening, is what drives people to try to assert control over the person that they fear to lose.
Tell your boyfriend about the things that makes him special to you, the things that only he can do to/for you.
Make him understand that it is because of those things that he is irreplaceable to you, and therefore, he has no reason to be jealous.
If you can't get that through his skull, then dump him.
2006-06-22 12:27:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your hanging out with other guys, then i do understand his jealousy, but if hes jealous all the time then i think he might not trust you as you think he might.maybe both of you need to talk about it or go your separate ways.*****
2006-06-22 12:00:30 · answer #5 · answered by Male Sicilian Trauma Nurse 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys are like that it takes time to trust. Sit down and compromise with him, and trusted is earned I dont think either of you trust each other much you just want to believe that there is trust.
2006-06-22 12:07:35 · answer #6 · answered by dannym7500 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was this guy you are talking about. It took me losing a amazing girl to change. I had very low self esteem and took it out on her. I had a lot of growing up to do. We are friends know, but it took me some time to realize my problem. I'm very gratefull in hindsight for her breaking up with me, I'm much better for it, he will not change on his own, and some never will.
2006-06-22 12:04:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like dude needs more confidence in himself. I like it when other guys are looking, knowing of course, that she is going home with me. Guys that want their girl to look good but, no one should look at her, are just idiots.
It is not going to be easy but, try sitting down calmly and express how it feels when he questions your clothes/friends. Ask him what is it that brings the thoughts into HIS head.
2006-06-22 12:33:08 · answer #8 · answered by jmwlimited2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did that to my girlfriend. She told me that if I trust her, I would lay off. I did, but that could cause a breakup. Ask him if he trust you. If he says yes, then you tell him to lay off. You can take care of a guy trying to touch you in any way. And you wouldn't cheat on him, right?
2006-06-22 12:04:44 · answer #9 · answered by jameslarkins05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say he is lacking confidence, maybe your giving him a reason to worry, or both of you are just nuts.
At any rate your young, there are many guys out there if he continues with his non sense then just move on. Who needs the drama?
2006-06-22 12:04:48 · answer #10 · answered by somebody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋