my 5yr.old son isn't listening.his teachers think he's aching for attention-any suggestions on how to handle?

Question

we've already tried taking away a priveledge or a favorite toy-but his actions still persist

Answer 1

Be patient. 5 is a very transitional year. Did he just finish kindergarten? That is the hardest year for kids to adjust and listen. Just give him as much attention you can, give him boundaries as to what is acceptable behavior and what's not and I also find that positive reinforcement was more effective with my high spirited child. If there was a great reward at the end of a good week, it was more incentive for her. We had stars on a chart every day of the week if she had a good day.

Your kid will never be perfectly behaved in school, but you can try to make it the best you can.

Answer 2

I am a teacher and I know few who would be bold enough to tell a parent this. First, legally they can not diagnose why. They are only able to tell what they are observing in class. After that, if the action is causing the child to have difficulty in school, they refer the parent to a pediatrician. Is this a preschool or summer school of some sort? Did they say short attention span?
In any case, you need to teach the child to listen. and focus.
Teach them to:
look at the speaker and not take eyes off
sit still but comfortable
respond when appropriate by repeating what is said
Model and practice at home.
Read stories and have him/her pay attention to the bookand focus. then have the child restate what you read.
Play games and tell them to focus on the board or cards during their turn.

Answer 3

Maybe the question is...What do YOU think? Do you believe you're giving him the attention all little ones need? Are you spending TIME with him...away from the t.v...do you seek him out for a quick chat or just to play for a while?? Children really need the undivided attentions of their parent(s)..they absolutely do. Try reading to him at bedtime...talk about the book with him..Take the time to have a quiet and comforting bedtime.

Answer 4

My little brother used to act up at this age and it turns out that he was bored and not challenged - so he tried to get attention to make up for it. Find things that are mind provoking for him to do like reading or a leapfrog or a memory game.

Also, check out Supernanny's (Jo Frost) show and book (very similar) for tips. It seems that the naughty chair is very effective. Also, she uses a jar with marbles and when the child does something good - even if it's eating their dinner, then they get a marble. When they act up and won't stop screaming then they lose a marble. When the jar fills up with marbles they get a reward. But keep at it - remember, you're the adult and he is the child!

Answer 5

Don't take away. Give him. There are different levels of attention. Are you spending time playing, entertaining. or reading. Does you Son spend most time at a day care or in front of the T.V. It is human nature to be wanted. It is the parents responsibility to feel that void.
Please don't make it bigger by taking more from him, he already lost you.

Answer 6

never just take away any of his stuff. that will just make him worse! try active listening--asking why he is being this way, and if that duznt work then try to figure out why he cud be doin this. for ex: so you're saying u feel you're not gettin enugh attention? and if its the right answer he'll say yes and explain, if its wrong he'll probably say no and tell u the right one, or u just hav to keep guessin till u get it right.

Answer 7

Whip his little a$$.

Answer 8

whoop him!!!