2006-06-22 11:16:54 · 23 answers · asked by victoria 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
I'm sure he thinks so! :-)
The important question is not whether you're getting less than he is, it's whether you're getting less than YOU WANT. Is the relationship good in other ways? Are you sexually satisfied as often (and as intensely) as you want to be? Do you two like being around each other, even when sex isn't going on?
It's VERY rare for two people in ANY relationship to be exactly matched in their sexual needs and drives. And even if they start out that way, the needs and drives can change over time.
It's kinda fun to keep count of how many times who does what to whom, but ultimately the numbers aren't the most important thing in the relationship. Having you both be happy with each other is the most important thing in the relationship.
The thing about oral sex is that it is by nature one-sided; it can be a gift from one person to another, or it can be an expression of the power of one person over another. If you're feeling out of balance from the amount of time you spend doing this (as opposed to feeling sexually frustrated from not getting enough attention yourself -- two very different questions!), think about whether it's a power conflict in the relationship, rather than a purely sexual conflict.
If so... the next time you're giving him oral sex, play with your OWN power a little. Take charge of things, from the pace and even the position to the way you can draw things out. Get him right at the edge -- then stop and make him wait. (Not too many times, but two or three will make your point.) And if you REALLY want to drive him crazy, when he finishes, don't stop -- that is, keep giving him the same level of stimulation you do right at his moment of climax. Even if you pull away at the last instant, keep doing whatever it is that you do to get him "over the top," so to speak -- but don't let up when the flow seems to diminish. (Just watch out for the very, very tip -- that can be painful if overstimulated.) When he thinks he's finished, keep at it; his whole body will jerk again in 10 or 15 seconds and it's almost like he's having another climax. Then tell him you're going to keep doing this till he BEGS you to stop. Do this three or four times, till he finally pleads with you to stop. He'll love you for it -- but it'll be really clear who's in charge. (The basic principle works equally well with your hands, by the way, especially with a little lubricant of some kind.)
If it's just a case of you wanting more for yourself, that's easy -- tell him how hot it makes you to see him getting so excited, and ask if he can do the same thing for you.
And if he can't be bothered... well, that tells you something too, doesn't it?
2006-06-22 14:01:06 · answer #1 · answered by Scott F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were your boyfriend, I certainly wouldn't complain. But if you think he should give you more oral sex, then tell him.
2006-06-22 11:22:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like too. I wish you were my girlfriend I think. Maybe equal amounts roughly is ideal for both. I guess maybe if one person likes to give more and not get then thats ok. I think most people like to recieve more, maybe its just me. 69 solves that problem .
2006-06-22 11:21:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my boyfriend only gave it to me once in 8 years. He just doesn't know how to and really doesn't care for it. It doesn't bother me because he tries to make sure I am satisfied other ways. I really enjoy pleasing him more than myself. That's just me.
2006-06-22 11:22:47 · answer #4 · answered by Hillke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You bet. The more the better. Don't be so demanding. Just shut up and do what he asks. Remember you can't talk with a **** in your mouth.
2006-06-22 11:21:43 · answer #5 · answered by Superstar 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you keeping score? Anyway, it should be fifty fifty, to be fair. If one wishes to receive, then one must also give.
2006-06-22 11:22:04 · answer #6 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you don't feel neglected. I always eagerly return the favor, though ;)
2006-06-22 11:22:17 · answer #7 · answered by DIRT MCGIRT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah...but I get more usually hehehe!!! Usually it means he's selfish. If it bothers you then dont do it and he'll get the point.
2006-06-22 11:21:00 · answer #8 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always best if a sexual relationship is equal in that regard.
2006-06-22 11:20:12 · answer #9 · answered by WiserAngel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it should be a 2 way street. unless you dont like recieving it
2006-06-22 11:21:08 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋