My daughter had weird tantrums, and it seems like she can't stop and calm down. Today I had to hold her arms against her and tell her to take deep breathes to calm down. (I did it in a nice way for all of you who thought differently). What should I do?
2006-06-22 11:15:33 · 14 answers · asked by Tonizzy22 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Walk away when she does that - don't restrain her, she has control when you do that. Let her have the fit (alone!!). If she is one of these kids that throw themselves on the floor, leave her there - unless she is breaking something, or hurting herself - leave her alone. She will soon find out that she is not getting the attention and stop - be patient, it will not happen all at once.
2006-06-22 11:22:22 · answer #1 · answered by GP 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You sound like your are describing my oldest daughter. All her life she has had fits!!! I mean screaming and kicking and all out craziness. She get so upset, she can't, just can't calm down. I tell her just like you told your daughter, Breathe - I hold her hands and I breath with her. Until l she calms down and then I talk to her. She is seven and as she got older it gotten MUCH better. Now I only get one once ever so many months, before it was once, twice three time a week. Also if you have other influences, don't let anyone calm her down but her parents. Otherwise you will lose power. My daughter at one point had her grandparents always coming in the room talking about aaah you should't let her cry, she doesn't mean it. So I would let them hug her and take her out the room and she immediately got quiet.
Hell no! She was totally playing them, So now I and my husband let her cry and tell her she know how to calm down and if she wants to come out of her room and do anything beside cry she needs to be quiet. Also whatever it is she was crying about is still not going to happen. Hang in there.
2006-06-22 11:23:06 · answer #2 · answered by Carmalee F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you did is one of the best options. Another is to just let her have the fit and walk away. Once she realizes no one is around to watch the fit she will stop and in time she will stop all together. My children are now 16, 14 and 5 and 2 of the 3 threw terrible tantrums, and just by not letting them get the better of me they in time subsided. I still have some trying times with my 5 year old, but I still do the same, let him know he can continue to scream but I was going to be in the other room. It works. And this is the method I learned from my mother, so very tried and true. Good luck and know that it does get easier ( until they hit the teen years, lol )
2006-06-22 11:23:39 · answer #3 · answered by Cynthia W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny my daughter used to have them too. She stomped on my foot and broke it! I used to have to hold her when she would throw her tantrums. She out grew it over time. There was a time when we had to remove the door to her room because she kept slamming it. Just make the punishment fit the crime. If she leaves the lights on the take bulbs away, slams the door take the door away, etc. Very often tantrums are thrown because they don't know how to tell you what is bothering them. As she gets older and is able to communicate better she will talk to u more. And the tantrums will slow down.
2006-06-22 11:32:21 · answer #4 · answered by darlene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, remember the feedings all through the night when she was a newborn, and thinking that you would never get another good night's sleep? Like that, this too shall pass. :)
It will get better.
I always found it best, in our case, to not make a big deal of my daughter's tantrums. She got bored and stopped.
My granddaughter has tantrums to the point that we just have to lay her gently on the floor and let her have at it. We don't fuss at her, and we try to speak to her in extra calming voices when she gets like that. Usually it happens when she is really tired and a nap is in order.
All kids are different and I think you just have to find what works best with your little one. Speak to her doctor if it would make you feel better.
You sound like a good mom, and I think she will be fine :)
2006-06-22 11:25:46 · answer #5 · answered by RN BSN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join the crowd. My little boy used to bang his head on the floor until he knocked himself out. If it is just tantrums, ignore her and go in the other room. All she wants is attention and is getting it. Besides that, good luck.
2006-06-22 11:20:32 · answer #6 · answered by Devil's advocate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you had your daughter tested for ADHD that's one possibility another is that she's seeing how far she can get away with things, next time she has a tantrum don't pay her any attention and soon she will get tired and eventually grow out of it
2006-06-22 11:22:16 · answer #7 · answered by emilano n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ever just walk away leave her there to vent and rant all the time you watching from a hidden area... the look is worth a million bucks they lost their audience oh what to do.... did it once with my youngest took three shots with the oldest it worked tanturms were a thing of the past after that a word of warning worked well.
2006-06-22 11:56:45 · answer #8 · answered by Clyde 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is fine. I had to do the same thing with my son when he was about 2. He was doing it for 2 reasons, he was frustrated because of his limited vocabulary and I wasnt disciplining him at all. Preschool should help if she isnt already there, it helps with social and communication skills. And start punishing her when she misbehaves.
2006-06-22 12:20:20 · answer #9 · answered by Stewiesgal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should have a time out for 3 minutes. Ignore her bad behavior and maybe a spanking wouldn't hurt or soap in the mouth. If you allow this behavior, wait till she's a teenager.
2006-06-22 11:19:13 · answer #10 · answered by Stacy R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋