Anyone sick of western morality?

Question

ok so im 20 and probalbly blessed living in a democractic, western society but at the same time all i see is people my age getting drunk, having casual sex, using drugs and basically having no goal. I hate how in the West i feel that i am perved on by men who assume i will have sex with them, i used to be religious but gave up cos i got made a fool of as if i was a nut. Anyway, id love to get a husband and have children or do something usefull with myself but i feel a bit trapped.

Answer 1

You need a new crowd. My inner circle is quite moral and leading very good lives. That would include my family and close friends. I can't control the rest of the world, but I certainly can control mine to some extent.

Answer 2

Just say no to the guys, get involved in something worthwhile be it educational studies, charity work, or a cause you believe in. You will find the right person but it shouldn't be the focus of your life. It will happen naturally, it shouldn't be rushed or forced because you think you are ready. There are many useful things to do with your life other than get a husband and have children, not that those things aren't useful. Yes, you are lucky to live in a free society where people, particularly women, get to choose their own fate and life path, even if for some people that means choosing to be a goof off. It doesn't mean you have to be one, there are many people out there doing meaningful things with their lives as well. If some particular religion is your thing than go with it, don't give it up because someone else doesn't like it. Your life will have the meaning you give it with or without religion.

Answer 3

It hasn't always been this way. It has gotten way worse since the country in general has started perverting and rejecting God's laws.
One of the things that I see in your question is that you didn't like being made fun of when you tried to go to church. Most of the young people don't want to lead a good moral life and they will always make fun of anyone who does. You are not going to find the life you want looking among those types of people. If you get into a good church and build up some real christian friends then you will have a nice base of moral people and will eventually find your husband somewhere within the same group. Unless you personally decide to take a stand and go against the crowd, you won't find this happiness.
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Answer 4

Okay, girl, you're on the right track.

First of all, it's not Western morality you're sick of, but Western immorality, especially sexual immorality and vice. I commend you for resisting the temptation to fall in line.

However, it sounds like the God alternative hasn't been presented to you very well, either.

Hang in there. God is real. If you remain open to him, he'll eventually lead you to a place where you can fellowship with people who love God and love you as you are. Hopefully these people will give you the freedom to be yourself, along with the challenge to do better. Meanwhile, have private talks with God. He'll listen, and eventually you'll learn to hear him, too.

I recommend also that you read the Bible. Don't beat yourself over the head with it, but read it at your own pleasure. There's a wealth of stuff in there. Find a translation that you'll enjoy. Search here:

http://www.biblegateway.com

Don't angst for a husband, but for now work on your own character, maturity, interests, skills, and passions. In time, most likely, God will lead you to the right man, or lead him to you!

If you want to be useful, volunteer at a place whose cause you believe in, or where you see a need you want to fill. If you're not in college, you might take some courses at an adult education school or at a local house of worship or community center. Develop a hobby or two.

If you live in or near NYC, I invite you to check out my church, New Life Fellowship in Elmhurst, Queens, NY. If you don't live near here, you might investigate the website, and maybe write to one of our pastors, sharing your concerns with him or her. Maybe you can write to the person in charge of our Young Adult Ministry.

http://www.newlifefellowship.org

Good luck, and God bless!

Answer 5

Maybe you should consider becoming a Muslim, and live in the Middle east.. I am not kidding..

My name is Muhammed, I live in Madina, I am 21 years of age, and never had sex, since I never got married, I do not know how drugs look like, I do not know how cigarrits [I dunno the spelling lol] tastes, plus.. I am religious and looking for a nice wife..

oops, I gave so much info..

just learn more about Islam.. try visiting .. IslamCode.com and Islamtomorrow.com

take care

Answer 6

I really don't see anything wrong with pleasure, as long as you aren't harming others in the process.

If guys are hitting on you, it's because you're hot. Most hot women are not virgins, so cut us some slack. It sounds to me like you're hanging out in places/with people who enjoy pleasure.

Don't do that if this type of behavior bothers you.

Answer 7

Blessed are you when people persecute you for righteousness sake for great will be your reward in heaven. Seek God's approval not man. Return to the faith and keep on keeping on.

Answer 8

Yes things have gotten way bad as far as general morality is concerned. My advice would be to try the church thing again, if your friends make fun of you for it, then they aren't really your friends... friends should be supportive unless your actions are destructive.

Answer 9

I so know what you mean but you will meet someone not everyone is like that. Continue to focus on yourself and what you want and God will give you the desires of your heart wink live and love life!!!

Answer 10

sounds as if you really need to talk to someone who can be neutral and will help you. Look for a professional like a counselor or a Psychologist.