my husband was laid off and had to take a much lower paying job and we are having a baby. we are going to rent a house from my parents. they are treating us like we are stupid and poor while they are "helping us." living there is super-cheap and will help us pay off bills, but we feel harassed.
2006-06-22 10:56:15 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
PUT IT IN WRITING. EVERYTHING MAKE IT A CONTRACT WITH THE RENT AND EVERYTHING SPELLED OUT TO PROTECT ALL OF YOU ! ! ! ! !
2006-06-22 10:58:55 · answer #1 · answered by Cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did the same thing. Make sure you lie down the rules that you are the rentee and your parents are the renters. You are adults and your own family. If this helps you in the long run towards financial stability it will be worth it. My mom stills lives next door, what a great babysitter. You might find that this arrangement has more benefits than you think. GOOD LUCK!
2006-06-22 11:11:27 · answer #2 · answered by medicblue13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's nice that they want to help... and I think it's good that you have someone to turn to. If you have ANY other way of getting a place that you can afford or maybe some assistance until you get back on your feet again... I'd do that. I rented from my parents and it was a nightmare! I wouldn't reccomend it to anyone. You feel forever in their clutches so-to-speak.
2006-06-22 11:00:54 · answer #3 · answered by sahm2boys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there. I even lived under the same roof as my mother-in-law. You grin and bare it. Trust me just work to get back on top. You'll make it. And you will appreciate it. Just always think that there is a future. You got out of their grasp once you will DO IT again.
2006-06-22 12:17:47 · answer #4 · answered by rkkcandi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
suck it up? they may be telling you what you need to hear. albeit not in a proper manner. they may also feel worse as to how they raised you or not. they're taking out their own short comings on the fact your hubby and you couldn't ride out the storm life threw at you. living well is the best revenge. so, do what you can and need to do to get yourselves back in a better position and out from under their roof and abuse! but at no time no matter how well someones treating you, or how needy you are. don't take abuse especially those closest to you.
2006-06-22 11:16:53 · answer #5 · answered by Mr Spock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sign a "lease" with them. It will protect your privacy and then they cant jack the rent up when your husband finds a better job.
2006-06-22 10:59:09 · answer #6 · answered by Kayylee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you accept charity, you also have to accept the sermonizing that goes with it. Just keep thanking them for helping you out and striving to improve you condition. It's a small price to pay.
2006-06-22 11:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beggars can't be choosy. You do what you need to do, and you suck it up to your parents until you can save enough money to move out of the house. You should be grateful that they are doing this for you - otherwise, where would you be?
2006-06-22 11:00:10 · answer #8 · answered by Buster Van Buren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea pay your rent/utilies on time.
2006-06-22 11:15:55 · answer #9 · answered by eagle_claw1976 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋