I've been hooking up with this one chick off and on well problem is I got her pregnant. I always use a condom but this last time she lied to me and said she was on the pill and I beleived her because I hadn't slept with her like 2 months b4 that. Should I Leave her since this is in no way my fault???
2006-06-22 10:36:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It may not be your fault, but she's still pregnant. But I would demand a DNA test. That kid may not be yours, but if it is, you should take responsibility. It sucks, but you could have insisted on using a condom and you didn't. You could have said, No glove, no love.
2006-06-22 10:40:15 · answer #1 · answered by babe 2 · 7⤊ 1⤋
LOL....."no way my fault"??? Get outta here. You trusted her you dolt. It is just as much your fault. You should have stuck with the route you always took and did the condom thing.
Know what? Yeah, leave her. But let me tell you what's coming. Paying for junior until he's 18. Yeah....and loads of other things. You're 'not my fault (add Your Honor here)' won't float in court.
I'd feel terribly sorry for you if you used the codoms and you found she sabotaged it. No THAT wouldn't be your fault. 'Course you'd be convicted of stupidity for sleeping with a nut case like this anyway. Chalk it up to a bad choice of bed partners.
So you can leave her. But you'll have 18 years worth of reminders.
No sh*t man. Good luck, really.
2006-06-22 10:46:09 · answer #2 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand your point of view - your "sin" is that you were too trusting, so to speak. And yet the fact remains that you did have sex with her and there's going to be a baby. You'll most likely be hit with child support (and anything else she can get out of you, since she doesn't appear to be too concerned about you) and the thing is, do you really want your child to grow up without a father? Why punish the innocent child for what the mother did? I'm sure you're quite mad and emotional right now, but I hope by the time the baby is born you'll have thought things through and concluded that the best thing to do is all you can for your child.
2006-06-22 10:44:40 · answer #3 · answered by staubfinger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what u decide u should have a part in your child's life. She may have been on the pill. Women can get pregnant while on the pill.
And it is partly your fault, u should take steps as well as her. Use a condom anyway.
2006-06-22 10:43:21 · answer #4 · answered by real_sweetheart_76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may not be your fault she lied, but it is your fault for not putting on a condom. My mom always told me the only one looking out for you is YOU. Get a dna test but until then be there for her and the baby, because if it is yours you won't want to miss out on the begining because you can never get those back. Good Luck.
2006-06-22 10:43:34 · answer #5 · answered by Houston Honey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO its ur falut 4 making that DUMB choice!!! u need to take resondsiblity 4 ur actions not just run off and do the same to another girl. U r going to have to pay 4 child support if she has that baby and i hope she dose so u learn a lesson. I mean 14 and i know better than that!!!
2006-06-22 10:47:01 · answer #6 · answered by JesusFreak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you have a legal and moral responsibility for the child. It's the risk you took having sex. Is she ammenable to an abortion? If so, there's a solution. Otherwise, your life has just irrevocably changed. You don't have to be with her, but don't be an absentee father, like too many already in the world.
2006-06-22 10:42:26 · answer #7 · answered by Michael D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first off it takes 2!! doens't matter if she said she was on the pill and wasn't-- BUT maybe she was! the pill isn't 100% effective.
you didn't use protection so this is just as much your fault as it is hers! have a DNA test to make sure it's yours and then be a MAN!
2006-06-22 10:43:55 · answer #8 · answered by angelcdm228 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got her pregnant and that baby might be yours so I think you should be there when she needs you.Sure it's not your fault but you could at least be nice enough to be a father to that kid.Do you like the fact that your son never met you.If your nice enough you'll help out.
2006-06-22 11:09:21 · answer #9 · answered by Nohemy A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for the DNA, She may have deceived you but didn't have to go diving without your suit, I am sure she stuck a gun to your head and said F%$# me and get off in me. If it is indeed yours then step up and do what is right by the kid, Just don't marry her, she is off on the wrong foot already it would only get worse.
2006-06-22 10:46:16 · answer #10 · answered by Justa Countryboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋