2006-06-22 10:31:06 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Who knows. Everyone deals with grief differently and you must give her space. Just remember its NOT you.
2006-06-22 10:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by Cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought this was one of my own kids, until I read the word mum. This is me, I too just lost my mom and am having so many different feelings and emotions right now. I know my kids are trying to help me and keep me busy but sometimes I just snap, yell, or want to be left alone. I feel crazy sometimes and so sad, how long will it last? Who can know that answer? Please be patient with your mom as the loss of a loved one especially a mom is something indescribable, the pain and sadness is unmeasurable, it must heal itself in time. From the moment of the death nothing is the same anymore, everything has to change and change is hard, I am told in time things get better, What is time? I am waiting for the "BETTER" too! Just be there for your mom when she needs you and remember to have patients with her.
2006-06-29 09:21:17 · answer #2 · answered by Rocky C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my gramma died, my mom cried all of the time. She was mean one moment then the next sweet as can be. She is going through a lot of emotions right now. Just make sure that she knows that you love and care about her no matter what and that if she ever needs to talk or just cry you are there for her.
My mom improved within a couple of months. It may take longer if your mother is experiencing some other feelings related to or uncovered by the death of her mother.
2006-06-22 10:38:53 · answer #3 · answered by sunflower1237 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! First of all..I'd suggest you read about grief..there are many resources on the net..From what I understand...grieving isn't something that's the same for us. Some seem to move through their sadness fairly rapidly...like a few months..some grieve for years...some can never recover from the loss. The more you can learn about grieving the better. Then, I guess I'd suggest you talk to your Mom..just let her know you know she's hurting and sad..that will open up some channels...a little later..when you can talk to her about how your grandmother's death has effected YOU and your life...including your relationship with your Mom..It's a very hard time. I wish you well.
2006-06-22 11:35:00 · answer #4 · answered by twinkles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's grieving you cannot expect her to get over this quickly surely, how would you feel if you lost your mum? Would you expect to be fine after a few weeks.
Just be there for her let her snap at you she's heart broken at losing her mum, the woman who has always been there for her you as her daughter should help her to get through this by being there for her and not being impatient or hurt when she snaps at you it's all you can do.
She may be depressed, visiting a doctor or counsellor may help her altho you will have to be very careful how you bring that up in conversation
2006-06-22 10:37:02 · answer #5 · answered by madamspud169 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is definitely grieving and no one can put a time period on that.However,the more family and love she gets,along with time,she will come around.You have to remember,she feels alone and lost right now,just as you or i would feel if it would of happened to us.Just be patient,but always keep in touch and let her know how much you need her and love her.You can never fill the void she has,but you can try your best to over ride the hurt she is going threw.Hang in there and again just be patient with her.I wish you and your family the best in these times.Good Luck to you all!
2006-06-22 10:58:52 · answer #6 · answered by twjp1962 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is grieving and maybe even feeling guilty for things she might have done. It is a difficult time for her try and be supportive as best you can. Try leaving her a note telling her how you feel that you are sorry for the loss of your gran and that you love her. Do you think she thinks you have not shown your feelings about losing your gran. She may resent that you are carrying on as normal. Try and be patient it will get better.
2006-06-22 12:24:49 · answer #7 · answered by butterfly55freedom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone deals with grief a different way and it might take her a while to accept the death of her mother. Just be there for her and be supportive. Let her know you are there for her to talk to and keep in mind that when she flys off the handle it's not personal.
2006-06-22 10:34:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grieving has no time scale. Wouldn't you be angry if you lost your mum?
You have to put yourself in her shoes to try to understand how she's feeling.
Get her to talk about your Nan, share her feeling and thoughts. Most of all, be patient.
How do you feel that you have lost your grandmother?
2006-06-22 10:39:08 · answer #9 · answered by MISS B.ITCH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long could it last.....
it could take years,
just b there for her and when she takes it out on you just let it go straight over your head, if she says things that upset you or calls you names,she does not mean it, it`s frustration at losing her mum,perhaps guilt, perhaps not being able to say goodbye to her.
just b patient, talk to her, but neva say
`Time is a great healer` take it from me it isnt
2006-06-22 10:42:32 · answer #10 · answered by mysps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my partener lost his mum after being her career for 2 years.
she past away in september.
He is still distant, cant function as normal and high tempered.
I guess its just a matter of time....
2006-06-22 12:27:18 · answer #11 · answered by debbie_t84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋