My mother and my husband (both of whom I love very much) are constantly bitching about each other. They both put me right in the middle of it. If I tell my husband to back off them I'm not supportive to him and vice versa. Any suggestions?? Please answer only if you know what I'm talking about.
2006-06-22 10:22:02 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They are obviously jealous of the relationship the other has with you. But as a wife, you need to seperate yourself from your parent and let your mother know that this is your husband, you love him and well as her and you want her to respect the relationship. Then let your husband know that regardless of how he feels about your mother - she is your mother and he needs to respect that.
2006-06-22 10:32:58 · answer #1 · answered by Cat 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell them both that you are tired of being put in the middle and that it is really taking a toll on you. If they have something to say bad about the other go tell it to their face not you. OR set them both down and get this out once and for all.
2006-06-22 20:46:38 · answer #2 · answered by charleedude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand,my mother is a control person and my husband wants to be king of his castle.Well he tries to be quite.but sometimes he loses it and then my mother gets upset,and i am always in the middle.It came to where i sat my mother down and told her that it was fine that not everyone is her cup of tea,but in our home,she has no choice but to show respect,that my husband is wonderful to me and he takes great care of my household,and that if she couldn't then she shouldn't come over.I told my husband that no matter what that she is my mother,and that it is OK to have a difference of an opinion,but i would appreciate it that while she visits,that i would like for him to be nice and respective,that if he couldn't,then go outside or find something to do,till they can come to terms with one another,that i refuse to be the punching bag in the middle.Now things seem to have ironed themselves out,and this is because i just reached my point of no return with them.I hope this has helped,cause i know how you must feel,and it is awkward.Good Luck!
2006-06-22 10:48:21 · answer #3 · answered by twjp1962 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to keep ur business ur business. she knows too much about ur relationship w ur husband obviosly for them to be bithcing all the time. keep moms info between u and mom. and same as u and ur husband. thats the only thing i can think of. if they do not like each other and dont get along, then keep them away from each other.
2006-06-22 10:28:27 · answer #4 · answered by Kasey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet is to keep them apart as much as possible. try to talk to whichever is more reasonable . Talk to your father if you are able. Pray--alot.
2006-06-22 10:30:48 · answer #5 · answered by James A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...try to listen what they have to say...that might work.
2006-06-22 10:34:17 · answer #6 · answered by Brittany S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋