Any ideas on how to discipline a 6 yr old who doesnt respond to time outs, spanking or taking away privileges?

Answer 1

i would say as a parent of 2, that guidlines FOR a disobedient child is to ask nicely, if wont do what you ask then tell the kid to do it with a authoritive tone and if he disobeys in my opinion a spanking is needed. There should be no toleration at all for a kid to be told more than once to do somthing, no toleration for talking back, ignoring you or any disrespect. If you spank a child and the child doesnt cry then its worthless. If you spank a child and the child gets angrier its worthless. Being consistent with our kids is very important and as the bible says to take the rod of correction and drive foolishness far from a child. I dont think i should spank my kids for everything bad they do cause if i got all i deserve i would be burning in Hell when i die. Disobedience and disrespect, like yelling back, making faces or ignoring, should not be tolerated. Always encourage after any punishment by telling the kids why you did it and then love on them. I got alot of spankings, whoopins or whatever you want to call it and im thankful that i did today, I didnt understand then but i certainly do now. My mom used belts or switches when her hand wasnt enough or when my dad was at work. Alot of people wont agree with what i say but all i know is that it worked for me.

Answer 2

I am shocked by how many people here advocate hitting children. I'm wondering how they would feel if whenever they made a mistake or were feeling grumpy at work their boss hauled off & slugged them.

I have 3 grown children, 20, 23 and 25. My 'discipline' method has always been to treat them as I would want to be treated... with lovingkindness. When issues would come up I would take the child to their room and close the door so there were no distractions. Then we would have a calm discussion as to why their behaviour or action was wrong. I always had them imagine how their action affected others in a negative way and asked them how they would feel if someone had done it to them.

Yes, at 6 years old there are still instances of the wild temper tantrums where all the reasoning in the world won't get through to them. Each of my kids was different. With one I would calmly carry her back to her room and even though she was yelling I would tell her gently that I could see she was out of control and that a little quiet time would be good for her. As I left the room I said, "when you are done yelling and feeling calm, come on out and join the rest of the family".

With the 2nd child at age 6, that didn't work. She'd just continue yelling in her room. So with her, I picked her up and held her on my lap, wrapping my arms around her. While she yelled and wiggled around I just spoke soothing words in her ear and, what do you know, she fell asleep.

Children respond well to knowing where their boundaries are; to knowing they are loved; they love it when you stop what you are doing and really listen to them; they are thrilled when you ask them their opinion or to teach you something. And this is not just the little ones-- all ages appreciate being appreciated.

Answer 3

If you have been consistent with your warnings of discipline due to certain behaviors and you followed through with your disciplines as you stated on a consistent basis, then you are doing all you can do and have to hang in there. The biggest reason for kids to not listen, no matter what the consequence, is due to parents or other people of authority not keeping their word when threatening a discipline.

Another reason can be that the child is thriving for attention from his/her parent(s) and will do or give anything for some attention. This sometimes happens when a new brother or sister is born and even when a new pet that requires a lot of attention is brought home. The best way to fix this issue is to involve the child with the latest addition to the household, by helping change diapers (giving Mommy or Daddy a clean diaper when needed) or by taking the puppy outside on a leash to go potty.

Answer 4

You absolutely have to keep reminding yourself how much you love that little kid no matter how frustrating it is. Then you must never never never discipline out of anger or frustration. If you have to calm yourself down before you administer the spanking then by all means do so. Next consistency is the key if you give up the child will take advantage of it every single time. If you apply the same discipline for the same offense every single time the child will learn. If there is ANY and I mean any inconsistency the child will tell him/herself that she might get away with it and he/she will commit the offense. I have never been a parent but I have witnessed the difference between good parenting and bad parenting and there is no question. Good parenting is HARD WORK!!! But if you think that it isn't worth it you have no business being a parent. If you have any other questions feel free to contact me.

Answer 5

Add consistancey, a low sugar diet, a structured living environment (daily schedule) and communication to the spankings and taking away of privileges...

All those forms of punishment should work just fine IF AND ONLY IF they are used consistantly.

Make sure that you take out the sugar...because if the kid is all hopped up, he may not be able to control his behavior no matter how hard you both try...

Make sure he is on a regular schedule every morning and night...cranky sleep deprived children have a harder time behaving and controling themselves too...not only that but there is a comfort to be had in "routines"

And make sure you communicate to the child and let them know what is expected of them in the first place...you can't tell them after the fact that they messed up...If they know what's expected of them from the get go...at least they had fair warning...THEN when they step out of line and you punish them..you reiterate WHY they are being punished..ie..."Do you remember when I told you that I wanted you to pick up your toys or not yell at the dinner table or whatever"..."You didn't listen and now you don't get to play with your favorite toy, or watch that show or you get a spanking or whatever" Communicating will help them understand your desires and it will also help them understand the importance of communication in their own lives...


Good Luck.

Answer 6

I use the three R's: routine, rules and rewards. 6 years old is old enough to understand rules. Write them down together and explain why those rules are important. Also, let him know what the consequences are for breaking the rules and follow through every time. No matter what punishment you choose, make it reasonable and consistent. Rewarding good behavior encourages good behavior. It can be as simple as saying "Thank you for doing that the first time I asked". We also have "reward chips" that can be earned from a good day at school or finishing chores without a fuss, etc. Chips are cashed in for extra privileges like extra TV or video game time or a special snack. When these things become part of your *routine*, your child knows what to expect all the time and will probably behave better. Not every strategy works for every child, but this has worked for us! Good luck!

Answer 7

Make sure that you are consistent. So many times people talk about not being able to get their child to behave and they don't realize that the problem is them. Many times as parents we will let things slide today but then have a fit about it tomorrow. The child doesn't understand why they are getting in trouble for it. Many times consistency is the problem. Step back and look if you are always doing the same thing with the same problems. Children are smart too and if they know they can whine enough and get on the parents nerves that they will give in, this is what they will do. If they know they can always get out of everything, why bother with being good?

Answer 8

Try a different approach. Take Him/Her for Ice cream. Sit and talk to him/her. Talk about how you feel and what you are expecting of them. Tell him from on you will give him a warning then he will have to take a time out, or loose a toy for certain amount of time. Tell him all the rules over ice cream. The most important thing is to keep true to your word. Even thou it hurts you. Trust me he may say it don't matter or it looks like he doesn't care, but after a while it starts working. No kid likes to sit still for a period of time with nothing to do. Patience and lots of love. Good Luck

Answer 9

The person who said ignore him either doesn't have children or has beat theirs into submission!!!!!! I have tried everything with my son, spanking, taking stuff away, time out, etc. He just screams louder and louder! Once, I even took everything out of his room but his bed, clothes, dresser, and shoes!! He had to go straight to his room every day after school and only came out for supper and bath time. That worked ok while everything was gone, but after I put it back, same old same old! Good luck!

Answer 10

I have no sympathy for a 6 yr. old brat. If spanking doesn't work, then slap him across the face. Get his attention and let him know who is the boss. So his face is red for awhile. So what.