we have 4 kids in our home 4 his 1 mine, all girls 8, 4, and 2 year old twins. i once had a son he died. i want another son but even joking about another baby scares the crap out of us, people say get married first but we both have already been married and that scars the crap out of us to. i understand to wait for the right time to have another one but how do u know when that is?
2006-06-22 09:20:56 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What if you have another girl?
It doesn't sound as though either one of you are ready yet. When the time is right, you will just know. Just wait and enjoy the kids that you already have.
2006-06-22 09:25:32 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until the 2yr old twins are 4 and then see where you are you may be more ready by then. My kids were the same ages as yours and it can be very overwhelming at times. You never seem to get a break. You want to make sure you really want this child because there is no turning back once he is on his way. You certainly do not want him to grow up to feel unwanted or unloved because you really did not want him, you just thought you did.
2006-06-22 16:27:33 · answer #2 · answered by curiosity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi! just wait a little bit. First the fact that you're not married yet is a problem. think of marriage first and then think of having another kid. Children need to feel save in a house with married couple, think of your present children first, how to create the best environment and family support for them, then think of your desire of having a boy. don't be selfish!
2006-06-22 16:27:27 · answer #3 · answered by Nina Moore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you've dealt with your past. If you are both still that deeply scarred from your past relationships and you are still that scared of a marriage, then you should put that to rest first. Kids pick up on all our baggage and its no good for them. They even can take it on as their own problem without even realizing it.
There is no magic time when having another child is exactly perfect though.
2006-06-22 16:24:39 · answer #4 · answered by WiserAngel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If U need 2 ask Yahoo Answers, U R NOT ready 4 another child.
Not yet, give it a while C how U feel then?
2006-06-22 16:23:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when the twins r around 2 or 3
2006-06-22 16:25:37 · answer #6 · answered by JJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe as long as your are in a position that you can provide for that child emotionally and financially then you are ready. You don't have to be married either. I'm not sure that I ever want to get married. So, I don't blame you for that. I think that as long as your kids are happy and healthy right now, then sure... why not bring in another one.
2006-06-22 16:25:44 · answer #7 · answered by *karasi* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the good time is when you are married why are you not into marriage... if you did not have a good marriage it was not you and your ex who could not get along , if you are getting along you love each other and want to have a baby... go a head and marry first... all time is a right time to have a baby after marriage......but do not be sure that this baby will be a boy...
good luck
2006-06-22 16:24:53 · answer #8 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to get married to have kids. Don't listen to what other people tell you. This child is you and your lover's decision...and also the other kids but ultimately you and him. If you both want the kid, then have the kid. If you two want to wait, then wait. Just talk it out.
2006-06-22 16:24:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are both still smarting from previous relationships and have decided to take it slow. Following your instincts is the best thing you can do for yourself. Give it some time. When it's right you will know it.
2006-06-22 16:24:14 · answer #10 · answered by teena9 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋