Its like I have a real problem with her wearing short, shorts and skirts, however I have ask her not and she doesn't. But I hate her bathing suit, I need some advice, what should I do?
2006-06-22 09:08:36 · 21 answers · asked by bobby_boy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have told her if I just wanted her for Sex then it would be great, but seeins how I don't and I respect her I don't feel that I am wrong.
2006-06-22 09:44:11 · update #1
why are you with someone that you feel you have to change. love is not about control. a mate is an equal and should not be telling them what they can and can not wear. the control is when you have children and your 12 year old daughter comes down dressed like a street walker that is the one you say no way are you leaving this house dressed like that young lady.
2006-06-22 09:14:07 · answer #1 · answered by Savage 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Dear frustrated boyfriend,
As a woman i can tell you that i absolutely hate it when my husband trys to tell me what to wear. I would say your girl friend is feeling the same way i have felt when told that my blouses were too low cut. I don't wear revealing cloths to upset my husband and i don't wear them because I don't love him and am trying to push him away. I wear them for two reasons. I like the cut and they make me feel sexy and when i feel sexy my husband benefits from the feeling as well. When another man looks at her legs look right at him, snicker and tell yourself what a lucky guy you are to have a beautiful woman by your side. But if after a while you are still not happy about the situation then try sitting down and telling her how you feel about it. Three rules for that though are 1) Do Not yell and demand that she bend to you dictate 2) Ask and Listen to her feelings about the situation and last remember that relationships are give and take. If she won't follow what you say and you can't budge then try to compromise. If you care for each other you will work out you problems.
2006-06-22 09:29:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start taking notice to what clothing attire she does not like on a guy. Start wearing these items when she ask you not to wear those things tell her you will if she will. Girls who wear extremely short clothing or very sexy clothing are wanting guys to look at them. She should not feel this need if she is in Love with you. That does not mean she needs to dress like a nun it just means she should dress with some modesty. If you dress in ways that she can't stand punk,goth,bum,whatever she will get the hint. She can't have it both ways.She can't tell you what to wear and not let you tell her what to wear so really pay attention to what she does and doesn't like. And go for the worst.
2006-06-22 09:16:23 · answer #3 · answered by curiosity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do believe that she is wanting to "feel sexy" when she wears the things that you do not want her to wear. They may really look nice on her and you do not want other men to see her that way and take her away. I do understand, but, she may see it in a negative way as you telling her what to do. Maybe you should explain why you have a problem of her wearing the clothes she does and she can tell you why she wears the clothes she does. Communication is a very big part of a relationship. Good Luck!
2006-06-22 09:14:37 · answer #4 · answered by icemountian8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you, a control freak? Do you live in the 50's? Grow up, show some maturity or she'll tell you to take a hike. Don't be insecure, that's what you are telling her. If she's got it, she should flaunt it. Because she is happy with the way she looks.
Obviously she is into herself....she isn't trying to attract other guys, if you keep harping on her, she will be.
2006-06-22 09:30:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be so insecure. She should be able to wear whatever she likes. clothes don't make a person and don't keep other people from looking. If she's attractive you should feel good that she's with you and that the other guys can only look.
2006-06-22 09:10:45 · answer #6 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My bf is tell me that and i see his views on it cause he doesnt want me showing off my nody parts that should only be seen by him and he doesnt want ppl to get the wrong idea about me. Just tell her that you really dont like her bathing suit and give her a good reason why.
2006-06-22 09:12:06 · answer #7 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should allow her to wear what she wants and stop trying to control her. Everyone has a right to be who they are. If you can't handle what she wears, that's your problem. First it's her clothes, then you'll tell her who she can hang out with....etc. Calm down and let her wear what she wants.
2006-06-22 09:13:41 · answer #8 · answered by fungirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hm... well tell her, which it sounds like you're doing.
maybe don't go swimming? ask her to get a different suit.
and i think it's great that you are like that so don't let anyone tell you different! they don't understand and can't see what they're missing.
i'd want my bf to tell me if he was having a problem with me wearing certain stuff. :)
maybe she'll get a different swim suit or a cute cover up?
2006-06-22 09:14:09 · answer #9 · answered by miss chemist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a more demure girl you can control.
You with a girl that likes her body, let her flaught it, if she really loves you, you can be secure that other guys may look, but only you get to get her out of then revealing clothes.
2006-06-22 09:11:22 · answer #10 · answered by cisco_cantu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋