My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years made me move out to see if we can sort things out because we would argue too much. He hasn't treated me the best, but I still love him. I don't know if he will ever change. He only wants to be with me when it's convenient for him. Then there is this other guy that I've been friends with for a few years who is like in love with me. He is the nicest guy I've ever met and would do anything for me and is always there when I need him. I'm still involved with my other boyfriend who doesn't seem to want to give me up even though he made me move out though. I still love him, which makes it weird for me to be hanging out with this other guy. I feel stuck in a rut and I don't know what to do. Here I have this perfect guy that really wants to be with me, but I don't quite have those feelings like I still have for my boyfriend. I'm so confused. What should I do?
2006-06-22 09:07:48 · 10 answers · asked by KittyluvR 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's natural for you to still have feelings for your boyfriend- love or fondness does not disappear overnight. However, it sounds pretty much as though he's saying 'I don't want you but I don't want anyone else to have you'. That's why he has had you move out. More freedom for him while you are still held by his strings. You sound mature enough to know what to do.
With reference to this other guy, take time for yourself, enjoy being you again. Then later on if something happens, then fine.
2006-06-22 09:14:20 · answer #1 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You must be pretty young. Why would you stay with a guy that treats you bad? If you went out with the other guy, you would probably get used to being treated well and stop thinking about guy #1. Remember when you started dating this guy and he treated you well and then it got bad and you got used to it. Now its familiar and leaving something familiar is always hard. What do you really want. Someone that treats you well or just so-so. Think about it, then act on it and dont look back. (What would you say to your best friend if she were in the same situation???? Now, go be your own best friend!! Good Luck!)
2006-06-22 09:16:31 · answer #2 · answered by peanut 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am almost in the same boat as you-
You need to separate from the boyfriend more- don't be available every time he calls- you are just and object to him- you are not a person!
While staying separate from the BF talk to the Best Friend more-
and if you don't have feelings for the friend, that is ok- maybe you need time to yourself after a 2 1/2 year relationship.
Chances are the BF will never change- and chances also are if you withold sex from the BF until you know what is going on with your relationship he will run away fast- and it will be so much easier for you to let him go..................
Best of luck!
2006-06-22 09:15:37 · answer #3 · answered by Rae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let's see, you sound like a typical female so you will probably dump the perfect guy (his looks are not as "hot" or he's not as "tall" as your ex but you wont admit that) then you'll go back to your ex and try to change him or try to be his good little girl but he'll still treat you like crap, then you'll be on here, asking "where are all the good guys?"
Good luck with that! Follow your heart baby, you're ex knows you'll be coming back for him, so he's doing one of your friends in the meantime...
2006-06-22 09:13:33 · answer #4 · answered by slick_pavement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW is there even a question in there. Ya ok u love ur boyfriend but dump his *** and get the write one. THe one that well make u happy ur whole life because he loves u not just because he feels like it. Have some common sense.
2006-06-22 09:14:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do yourself a favor and GET OUT NOW! Your man is just using you. I know i went through the same thing. Please get out because your man might get violent. Go be with someone who treats you right. When you do leave give yourself some breathing time and then you might find you have feelings for your guy friend :) But please get out. The situation will only get worse! The longer you stay the harder it is to leave. Before you know it your man will ask you to marry him and then you will really be stuck because youll probably say yes and then he will treat you even worse!
2006-06-22 09:14:02 · answer #6 · answered by pancake_tits_01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say try to work things out with your current boyfriend..If things dont go as planned, than move on, and that doesnt mean move on to the other guy if you have no feelings for him!
2006-06-22 09:13:31 · answer #7 · answered by rushola2221 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt sound like he is ever going to change,so I would just go ahead and move and and give the other guy a shot. If you are not happy then you need to move on
2006-06-22 09:13:11 · answer #8 · answered by ProudSexySouthernGirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL GIRL I THINK YOU SHOULD LEAVE UR MAN AND GO WITH UR FRIEND THAT IS INLOVE WITH YOU ONLY BECAUSE HES BEEN GOOD TO YOU AND BEEN THERE FOR YOU AND WELL UR MAN U GOT NOW IS LIKE WHAT EVER WITH U HES NOT TREATING U NOT SO GOOD AND IT SEEMS LIKE HELL BE ONE OF THEM GUYS THAT TRY TO CONTRAL U AND KEEP U LOCKED UP IN THE HOUSE AND NOT LET U OUT AND U DONT WANT THAT LOOK HE ALREADY MADE U MOVE OUT UR HOUSE AND WHO KNOWS WHAT ELSE HELL MAKE U DO SO I THINK U SHOULD GO WITH UR FRIEND
2006-06-22 16:15:50 · answer #9 · answered by MRS.SL33PY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for the good guy the other guy is just playing with u or be by your self
2006-06-22 09:13:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋