i lost my baby in 2004. she was taken by an abusive father while i was still pregnant. is it normal to still cry when i think of her and the circumstance that it happened. he got 3 months in jail for domestic abuse but they dropped the charge of murder of an unborn child. is it normal to still have so much hate in him for what he did? is it normal to look at a baby and want to cry? or to mourn the day that you found out that your were pregnant, the day you lost her and on her birthday? do you ever get over it? does anyone else feel this way. is it ok to actually cry and show emotion?
2006-06-22 08:55:31 · 14 answers · asked by short.lil_momma 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
My heart breaks for you. First, never doubt your own feelings. If you're sad, be sad and apologize to NO ONE. You have a right to your own feelings and you owe no one an explanation. Is is normal to hate the person who took your child's life??? Good God, YES!!!!! It would be abnormal if you didn't! Sweetheart, you have absolutely nothing to feel guilty about. You have been horrendously wronged. Please, please get some counseling. I promise you, it WILL help. You will NEVER get over the death of your child, but you WILL move past it and go on with your life - and that's OK!!. If you want to cry, then cry. If you want to scream, them scream. PLEASE, see a therapist!! I don't know you, but I love you and I feel your pain. Let someone help you. I will pray for you and think of you every day. God bless you and keep you and please have faith that it WILL get better. Hang in there, Darlin', me and God love you!
2006-06-22 10:23:27 · answer #1 · answered by olelady55 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal to cry and feel this way. Your child is in heaven now with Jesus, waiting for the day she will see you again. The pain will subside, but you will never forget. Ask God to help you along the way. Hatred will eat you alive though. Get away from this person forever and move on with your life. Meet a good person and marry. Then one day God will send you another child to love as much as you will always love the first one. God Bless you and good luck.
2006-06-22 18:39:32 · answer #2 · answered by laurelbush28762 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you never get over it,I lost 2 children one when I was 6 month pregnant from getting beat up by my friends husband and one when I was in a car accident when I was 5 month pregnant....personally the s.o.b should have got life for killing an unborn child because that is what he would hwve gotten if the child was alive and not inutero......It is always ok to cry over a lost one and yes I still ahte the man to this day that killed my unborn son.....They both should be in prision your ex and my friends husband for murder and see how they like getting beat when the inmates in the prision find out what they are in there for.
If you need to talk email me at butterfly32976@yahoo.com
I am sorry for your loss
2006-06-22 16:23:48 · answer #3 · answered by butterfly32976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its totally normal for u to be going threw all of that. no matter what happens that pain and sadness will always be there. ppl cant expect you to move on from something horrible as that. I dont think you do ever get over it. no matter what its okay for you to cry that was ur child and that mad will one day get what he deserves for taking ur baby away. but maybe one day ull find someone and the two of you can start a family and things might be better. take care. out.
2006-06-22 16:05:52 · answer #4 · answered by lefthereburning 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is said that the death of a child is the most painful of all. It is normal that you feel sad and you show emotion still and the anger is justified. If it is to overwhelming you might want to consider to see a therapist or a support group. It will surely help you cope with the pain and anger. I wish you all the best. Don't discourage.
2006-06-22 19:35:06 · answer #5 · answered by obscura 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anger is a very normal way to cope with a loss of anything that is near and dear to you. And so is crying. It was a tramatic situation and you should do whatever it takes to make sure that you have every emotion necessary to heal, even if it takes years and years! Be strong and believe in the Lord to guide you.
2006-06-22 16:00:49 · answer #6 · answered by Brandi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is totally okay to cry and show emotion. it has to be extremely painful to lose a child and to never even get to meet them. thats just not fair. that jerk should have gotten a much harsher sentence, justice was not served and that is not fair. if i was in your shoes i would still be devastated too. im so sorry to hear this. :(
2006-06-22 16:00:55 · answer #7 · answered by krystal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, i lost two and i know how you feel. i feel that it is ok to have a hatred towards anyone that hurt you in any kind of way no matter what. especially in that case. but you will have some that says that you re supposed to forgive. that part is on you and how you feel. it is also ok to take her day( of loss and est. birth) for yourself and think about her. so i feel your pain and understand. good luck!
2006-06-23 23:40:33 · answer #8 · answered by id2no1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you. You have every right to hate him, to cry to show emotions. May God Bless You......And keep you safe..
2006-06-22 16:02:48 · answer #9 · answered by Bazinga 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. You lost a part of you. It's your child. Just because it wasn't born, doesn't mean you didn't love it as much as you would if she/he was born.
I'm tremendously sorry for your loss.
2006-06-22 15:58:03 · answer #10 · answered by mchsgolfergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋