My boyfriend is terrified at the thought of getting me pregnant. Even though I'm on birth control and we use condoms, he'll still sometimes have literal panic attacks at the thought. Is there anything we can do?
2006-06-22 08:52:42 · 17 answers · asked by Cassie 3 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Oh, and please don't say to just stop having sex. We are both very horny people and we've tried that and have been unsuccessful.
2006-06-22 08:56:01 · update #1
Oh, and he NEVER ejaculates while in me, thus further lowering the chances.
And for those of you that will tell me to leave him, I love him regardless of this and am not going to leave him. I want to know how I can help him.
2006-06-22 08:57:58 · update #2
and...he's not interested in anal and neither am i.
2006-06-22 09:09:52 · update #3
Cassie, you guys are being very careful and he needs to understand that the chances are of you becoming pregnant while taking all these precautions are slim to none. Yeah, nothing is ever full proof when it comes to preventing pregnancy, except, of course, if one person has been diagnosed as being sterile, but you guys are being very responsible and safe. Try to explain to him that he is taking the fun and desire out of it for both if you guys with his paranoia. Get him some reading material on the issue and see if you can educate him further on this subject. He obviously enjoys sex and he should want it to be a fun, intense, romantic and joyful experience for both of you. If he is having panic attacks and constantly worrying about this it has got to put a damper on it for you as well as him. Maybe he does need to speak to a doctor about this. If he is having true panic attacks maybe he needs some medication for anxiety. I wish you the best of luck with this and I think it is a problem that can be overcome. Good luck.
2006-06-22 09:10:06 · answer #1 · answered by whatshername 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Panic attacks and uncontrollable anxiety are usually not logical things - even though you have taken the logical steps to reduce your chances of getting pregnant, the anxiety continues.
This leads me to think that your bf has other, deeper issues, such as a fear of responsibility (that would come with fatherhood), or perhaps he is generally stressed about something else and it is emerging in this manner; we often stress out about things which are nothing to do with the real cause, they are just the final straw.
I think the best thing you can do is to talk to him about what he feels like when he has a panic attack; help him to think about the root problem. Ask if anything else gives him similar feelings. Consider things he can do mentally to control the anxiety - as I already said, logical practical actions don't always help.
When you talk to him ask lots of open questions and do not lead him on his answers. Repeat what he says to help him clarify what he means, but do not add anything of your own interpretation. Reassure him that he can tell you anything, even if he thinks it sounds silly. The strangest of ideas can be at the root of anxiety.
2006-06-22 09:01:10 · answer #2 · answered by Alex should be working 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he needs to go see a therapist, or you can bring him with you the next time you go to the doctor and so he get a expert opinion about what the chances are in getting someone pregnant by the use of condoms and birth control, he may feel alot better after hearing the percentages of it from a professional...
2006-06-22 08:58:52 · answer #3 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can stop having sex thats what you can do. I don't know how many times i have to say this to people, but sex is for married couples. You should not be having sex with your boyfriend until after you are married. So stop having sex that will solve the problem ok?
2006-06-22 08:57:23 · answer #4 · answered by mountaingirl88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut him off for about 2 weeks these panic attacks will be gone. If they come back apply same treatment for the next 3 weeks.
2006-06-22 08:58:27 · answer #5 · answered by Monkeytreats 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her ready by making sure she's turned on enough to create enough lubrication. Or use a lube like Astro Glide or another water-based lube to help out.
2016-05-20 11:54:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you bf might benefit from therapy to discover the root of his fears, which given the precautions you are already taking sound pretty unwarranted.
Not to imply this is the case with your bf, but I have know a guy to use an excuse like that to essentially coerce his girl into anal sex.
2006-06-22 09:05:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing everything that you can. Using birth control and condoms are great. Or you can not have sex at all.
2006-06-22 08:55:25 · answer #8 · answered by babygirl31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rest assured that with both methods, you have VERY VERY slim chances of getting pregnant. When you have sex, and he's about to ejaculate, he can pull out and *** in the condom instead of cumming in the condom inside you.
2006-06-22 08:56:24 · answer #9 · answered by listen_missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just dont do it....
well tell him birth control, condoms, all that will not help if it is your time to have a baby. if it is gods will you will have a baby.
tell him to stop stressin, dont worry if it is time it will happen no matter what. but god knows when you are ready. pray together.
2006-06-22 08:58:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋