When you do find out please let me know because I have the same problem with my boyfriend. He doesn't communicate well and doesn't like to deal with whatever the problem is..even if it's his fault. Good luck....have patience if you really love him and if he really loves you he will come around. Take care..I know where you you're coming from!
2006-06-22 08:36:35
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answered by Sandy 2
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It sounds like your boyfriend is probably seeing someone else or is thinking about doing so. That's basically one of the signs of a cheating mate.
It's good that he doesn't like confrontation and you should be ok with that. There may be a reason why he don't like confrontation. He may have a violent temper if you set him off and he will do anything he can to avoid that.
When you say most of your problems start with him, it sounds like you're agitated because he's not doing what you want him to do and that irritates you. How can someone who don't like confrontation be a problem?
2006-06-22 15:37:09
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answered by ooo 4
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Talk to him. Sit him down and try and figure out what the problem is. An open line of communication is the only way to do this. If you find there are problems, then figure out what you can do to help solve them. You might find that it is a very small thing. It could be stress. You will never know unless you let him know how you feel and try and talk it out. Good luck love.
2006-06-22 15:33:36
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answered by Pimp_Slapper 5
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Every couple if they are to survive has to come up with rules and behaviors for dealing with their problems. In his case he doesn't like confrontation which to some degree is good, it defines that you two as a couple aren't going to get into a knock down screaming fight. However, he needs to be willing to deal with issues with you and work toward solutions. If he isn't willing to do this then there is no reason to be in a relationship together. The key is to come up with a method and rules for how that interaction is to take place.
2006-06-22 15:42:41
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answered by rkrell 7
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When I am in a relationship and I am not feeling that lovin' feeling anymore, I know I unintentionally act the same or similiar way. No desire, thus no desire to fix the problem. I could be wrong, but you need to address the problem of his closed-up self and do what is right for you. Do it now, before your pain gets worse.
Good luck!
2006-06-22 15:36:37
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answered by Ryno 2
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My last boyfriend didn't like confrontations either. Not that I love them, but when we needed to talk about things, he didn't want to discuss it. I've learned guys who don't want to attempt communication in such ways will seldom change and if he won't talk to you about it, there is really no way you guys can improve things. Try talking to him face to face about this issue again and if he gives you problems, up and leave. Think about it...do you want to wind up spending your life with a guy who can't confide in you about anything? One you're scared of approaching for fear he'll curl up into a ball like those little rolly-poly bugs?
2006-06-22 15:35:42
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answered by SuperJenn 4
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This is not a mean anser, its an onest one. IF u tryd talking to him, writeing to him, or telling him how u feel through a song. Then u tryd everything, u can only do so much. Hes not the one for u so just let go. He dosent care for u the same way u care for him. And u deserve to have someone that cares that much for u.
2006-06-22 15:37:02
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answered by mermaid 3
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Lack of communication is a sure way to ruin a relationship. Fighting, as hard as it is, is a form or communication and can actually help to strengthen a bond. If you can't talk about anything then the relationship is going to die.
2006-06-22 15:35:54
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answered by Cheryl K 4
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My bf is the same way, and it's so annoying! The only way I could get him to talk was to have him write down whatever he didn't want to talk about and stick it on the fridge. Writing can be a lot wasier than talking, and at least your problems are getting discussed.
2006-06-22 15:35:51
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answered by Christy K 3
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I'm not sure about this but maybe he doesn't feel the same for u,just talk to him and find out if hes in love of someone else or if he just want a break
2006-06-22 15:52:05
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answered by Anonymous
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