2006-06-22 08:26:55 · 12 answers · asked by krhines31 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I have BP disorder.
My boyfriend and I have struggled with this since the diagnosis. It's very hard for BOTH of us, not just him. A lot of people think that the person who has the disability is the one that doesn't suffer the backlash, but we do, and moreso because a lot of the times we'll blame ourselves.
I know that sometimes I wonder why in the world he's stayed with me this long with as crazy as I feel sometimes, and I know that he wonders why I doubt him.
This disorder can reak havoc on a relationship if you let it, but you don't have to.
If you loved one is having an episode, wether it be manic, or a downer be there. listen. hug. hold. cry with them if that's what they want.
When they get nasty mean, as we sometimes do, just keep thinking to yourself it's NOT you. It's the sickness. They may tell you it's you, and say hurtful things, but we don't realize until after we have calmed down what we did.
Hopefully your loved one will not be too proud to admit that they were wrong.
There is a WONDERFUL support group online it's called:
bipolar_support_friends@yahoogroups.com
Maybe join that. The people are great, and they have awesome refrences in that section.
2006-06-22 08:56:26 · answer #1 · answered by batmantis1999 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Research for all the info you can get on this illness. It is an illness like cancer..and it needs to be treated as such. You must be very patient and hope that the person you love is getting help. Therapy,medication,and a patient loving partner make a lasting difference.
2006-06-22 08:32:06 · answer #2 · answered by woofan60 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deal with it. Support them, make sure they take their meds, and I suggest electro shock therapy if the medications don't seem to help enough. It's a very promising treatment, and is not anything like what they make it out to be in the movies.
2006-06-22 08:31:21 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Neema 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have 2 learn to love them no matter how they may feel/act ! U have 2 accept them for who they R and what they have it's not their fault they R bipolar that's just how god made then! And if U can't accept that then U must not love that person enough to make sacrifices just to love them!
2006-06-22 08:34:42 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Sammy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I used to be bipolar. Be very sensitive and accpet them. They probably feel like a burden and not a whole person. Let them know they are great! And don't make them feel obligated to give to you emotinally or in any way they can't give. Support, acceptence, and no 'shoulds'. That was what I needed.
2006-06-22 08:33:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with support groups. But I also think that you should attend therapy with them. It will help you to understand what they are going through.
2006-06-22 08:30:42 · answer #6 · answered by Polly Prissy Pants 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I WAS MARRIED TO SOMEONE WHO SUFFERED FROM THIS FOR TWO YEARS, THIS IS VERY DIFFICULT. THE FIRST THING YOU HAVE TO REMEMBER IS THAT IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT THEY ARE ALWAYS DEPRESSED.YOU PERSONALLY HAVE TO FIND YOUR OWN WAYS TO COPE. FOR ME, WHO FIGHTS DEPRESSION MYSELF), I WOULD ALWAYS FOCUS ON OTHER THINGS IN LIFE AND STAY BUSY WITH MY FAMILY ALWAYS INCLUDING BUT NOT PRESSURING MY SPOUSE. HOPES THIS HELPS AT ALL
MRS GRONWALD
LOUISIANA
2006-06-22 08:33:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk with them a lot about getting help and maybe space yourself for a while let them get through their depression.
2006-06-22 08:31:59 · answer #8 · answered by lovebug1234 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support groups, learn as much as you can about it.
2006-06-22 08:29:19 · answer #9 · answered by jeri_74017 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get them to get help. Medication can help get them in balance.
2006-06-22 08:30:29 · answer #10 · answered by gentle giant 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋