I am 25 year old female, I am very shy when it comes to guys and dating. I am not in to bars and clubs. I have tried phone date lines and internet dating things, but I have not been able to find very many guys who are intrested in me or ones that I am not intrested in. I don't have a lot of friends, so being set up that way does not work. I don't go to church and don't really want to. So meeting guys there is not an opption. Does any one have any other sugetions?
2006-06-22 08:15:49 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The key to meeting a "match" is to go out and do what you like to do and allow yourself to chat with others (male and female). Being closed-off will only keep you alone.
You like to read, take a book and go out to read (coffee house, park, library, book store); like to dance, take a dance class at the local junior college (much less expensive than a private school and more people to meet); when you are shopping, ask questions and opinions from other customers and workers (I know you said you were shy, so start slow); exercise, join a gym or take a class at the college or go running where others run, etc...
The main thing is leave the house and explore what your interests are and you will soon meet others with the same.
Good luck!
2006-06-22 08:28:44 · answer #1 · answered by Ryno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound silly........but smile a lot. Men love women who smile. I mean it! My daughter is beautiful and shy but the right kind of men were not approaching her. I told her to smile. She is still hasseled by the wrong type but the right types are coming around too. You may want to make some gentle changes in your dress and makeup. You want to be you, but men do like and enjoy a sweet package. Just try a few new clothes in complimentary colors, a little mascara and lip gloss. Don't foget to try white strips for your teeth and SMILE!
My other suggestion was a singles church thing but you said you weren't into that and a church going guy doesn't want someone that isn't on the same page of The Book.
How about a dance class? The University here holds dance clubs, just dancing, thru the school year. What do you like to do? Join a hiking club or some kind of club or volunteer organization. I met my husband while working with inner city kids as a volunteer. He proposed over the heads of 20+ kids heads. They cheered! I wasn't looking, I just did what I loved and there he was loving what he was doing.
2006-06-22 08:33:43 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I'm not shy but I never was able to ask a guy out. I guess I was born in the wrong decade. Go to a ball game or hockey. There are always guys there and it is a relaxed atmosphere. You do have to make eye contact though. Make is easy for the one you like to ask you out. It's hard for them too. Another easy thing to do is go to an auto parts store and ask the cute guy at the counter for help finding a windshield wiper or what ever. You'll be talking and make sure to let him know your interested in more than the part. You can flirt and still be a lady. Have fun and don't throw these times away. It only gets more and more complicated.
2006-06-22 08:25:19 · answer #3 · answered by snowhite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just have to be out a lot of places. And everywhere you go, where a smile on your face. If you see a decent looking guy, give him just enough eye contact to get his attention, and hope he's single and has the guts to ask you out. Whatever you do, stay away from the internet. It's the worst place to meet a date. Unfortunatley too many men rely on it, and never seem to ask a girl out on a date in person. Good Luck!
2006-06-22 08:19:21 · answer #4 · answered by Olive Green Eyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seem to have the same predictiment. The main thing i would do in your case is to just look in local places. What kinds of things interest you? If you like a guy who is computer oriented then look into coffee shops. Things like that. And if your interested, e-mail me. I'm 18 and single from Texas :)
2006-06-22 08:20:50 · answer #5 · answered by lonely_wolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to things around your community like wine tastings, art exibits, live bands, etc. I know I would n't go alone to most of those events, but if you have a friend (or group of friends even better) that would go along with you, those are great places.
2006-06-22 08:44:56 · answer #6 · answered by Jess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not look for a man or men. they will simply come naturally because that is the way it is intended. just do the things you normally do, shopping,maybe going to the gym,going to get your hair done,whatever it is that you do in your life's regimen then stick to that if you go to extreme measures to find a man then you will attract him under false pretenses and then the relationship may be doomed for failure. just be yourself and don't search for a man or love and it will come your way just have patients. good luck.
2006-06-22 08:21:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you said you have tried the internet dating, but have you tried match.com? I have three friends who have met their current beaus that way, one is even getting married this October! That site is for people who are serious about relationships.......
2006-06-22 08:18:17 · answer #8 · answered by Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree, bars and clubs r the worst places 2 meet someone, try a museum or a library, goodluck
2006-06-22 08:18:42 · answer #9 · answered by D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try a singles group at your local church.
2006-06-22 08:18:14 · answer #10 · answered by BowtiePasta 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋