I hate my parents.?

Question

My parents are very very Chinese. Refuse to let me hang out w/ friends because now I have a bf. They hate my bf because he's POOR. That's right, yup. I'm not lying. I've tried couseling and stuff. When i told them about my bf, they kicked me out of the house and my mom and dad almost got a divorce. They're always saying how I'm such a BAD CHILD. I have a 3.88 and plan to attend a good college. I take 6 AP courses, I'm a GOOD KID. Really, I am. I have Os for 5 out of 6 of my classes. I want to get my parents and I to a counseling secession, but they refuse to go. Saying it's MY PROBLEM, not theirs. Any way to get a conseulor to come home with me or perhaps get a court order? Or perhaps, will anybody like to adopt me? I'll be a rich kid someday. I have a future and you can brag about me! Well. yeah. I don't have money to pay the couselor though. :( but I'm hoping there is somebody out there that can help.

Answer 1

you will move out i hope as soon as u can and than u never ned to deal

Answer 2

2 ppl talking.

person 1: You'll thank them in the future because their making you strong and independent. Im asian to and thats how my parents are with me. When you have a kid, you would want them to have the best life ever. They probably think that if you end up marrying the guy, you wont have any money to be supported with. and if your not going to marry him, why go through all that trouble? Yeah, they kicked you out of the house, being an asian you should know, you will never live an asian life without getting kicked outta house once. It's hard when your a parent and know that your kid is caring for somebody else but you.



ppl 2: you know what what i would advise you to do is call the non-emergency police number If you are younger than 18. only if they told you, you couldn't come back. They will most likely put you in foster care and that way you can get through your education. YOu will also still be able to see your bf. so you follow your dreams and don't let things get in the way. if your bf doesnt support you then f him. okay a boy isnt worth it.

Answer 3

How old are you anyways? And theres no problem on having a bf i mean yeah if hes a bad kid or does drugs its bad but just because hes poor doesent mean hes a bad person and make you a bad child as well. I do agree you should have some couseling. It would be alot easier if you were an adult you know older than 18 but a 3.88 is good and dont worry any college will accept you. And again poor dosent have to do with him being a bad kid. Just as long as he treats you the way you should be treated and a treat you with care and love but no abuse then your good to go. Just keep trying to get your parents to go, and ain't that bad like illegal to kick you out of the house if your underage. They can really get into serious trouble if someone found out about that.
NO doubt you will be rich just as long as you go to college and just becareful... you know what i mean.
I hope i did some help in this.

Answer 4

Parents and their children will always be at odds with each other at some point. As you grow older and test their limits and try to become an adult, it may become harder. The best advice in this situation is to try to respect your parents wishes until you are able to leave for college or move out on your own. You also don't state how old you are. Depending on your age, it may be appropriate for them to disagree with your having a boyfriend. The biggest thing you need to remember is that although your parents may not be going about it in the correct manner, they are only trying to keep you safe and healthy. As long as you keep this in mind, and respect what they ask of you, you may gain more freedom. If you fight them about these things, you will most likely lose more privileges and trust from them and then you will be worse off than you are now. You don't have to agree with them, but unfortunately until you are an adult, you do have to listen to them. Talking to them like an adult with rational reasons for why you should be allowed to do something ( and no, my friends all get to do it isn't a good reason) without arguing or whining may also work, but you have to know when to drop the issue.

Answer 5

Yes! You're right. Parents are the last to learn that life is OK to live just as it is. They want you to excel them in employment, they sacrificed so much for you to become better than them, but when all is said and done...it is your life. Only you can be who you choose to be. Besides, janitor get paid good money. It's the status of the job: just less for parents to brag about to their friends. If you can help support your family, you go for it. Keep life simple..you'll enjoy it more...your folks will too when they realize they have more time to spend with their grandchildren and you. I guess, some sacrifices are worth making. Wonderful question! Your parents will get over it...will you?

Answer 6

Your parents are old fashioned and set in their ways. Try to understand where they are coming from. They don't dislike your boyfriend because he's poor - they dislike him because THEY WANT BETTER FOR YOU.
Be lucky that you have parents who give a damn what you're doing. There are a lot of kids who have parents who don't care anything about them and would give anything to have yours.
By the way - how are you planning on attending a "good college?" Scholarships only go so far. I'll bet you're counting on mommy & daddy's money to pick up the extras, aren't you?
You really need to thank your lucky stars and someday you probably will.

Answer 7

Your parents sound like mine in that nothing I ever did was good enough. Counseling will not help if they refuse to be counseled. Is there any way you can get counseling at school? There's no much you can do at this point. Accept the fact that they share in the problem, don't blame yourself, don't let them ruin your self-esteem, and bide your time until you can move out. Its a cliche, but that's how it is.

Answer 8

There are services out there that are free. You should talk to a counselor at school. At church you could talk to a Priest, Pastor. Social Service's. I am glad you are willing to get help. Don't blame your parents I am sure they have had a hard or difficult time getting use the ways here. Keep trying your parents do love you and what the best for you.

Answer 9

Your parents are set in their ways and it seems like you have tried many avenues to try to connect with them. It seems to me that they don't have any intentions of trying to work this out, and you really want to keep your relationship with your parents, which is completely understandable. My feeling is, be proud of yourself, it seems that you are doing very well your education and you have set goals for yourself. Your parents should be proud, although they may not seem proud of you, I am sure that they are, it may just be hard for them to say that to you. I am sure that they just want the best for you, but they don't see that you have found the best for you (referring to your bf, i am just assuming this is a good, healthy relationship). I am not sure that a counselor will help this situation at all if they are that adamant about not going to seek help. All I can say is save up your money, buy a home and make your life yours. Good luck.

Answer 10

Your parents really care about you - that's why they are the way they are. Your young - focus on school - get a degree - find a great job, move out of your parents home then find a nice guy who has something. These are all the things I would like but don't have. Good Luck.

Answer 11

Get an appointment with a Family Court lawyer, Julie Ann. Usually the first appointment is free. Tell the lawyer what you wrote here. It sounds like your parents are abusing you, but let the lawyer help you decide what to do.