I have a problem......?

Question

I am very much in love with my husband. I am sexually and mentally attracted to him but assoon as he tries to become intimate with me I get angry and push him away.
For many years we had a healthy sexual relationship but now....
I am starting menopause and do feel some changes taking place but nothing major.
I am 44 years old and am told that I am very attractive...which should boost my confidance but, like I said, when my husband tries to "love" me, I turn him away...it is killing an otherwise very beautiful relationship and I just don't know what to do.
Has anyone out there gone through anything like this? Did you fix it...how?

Answer 1

Well I don't know exactly what to say cause I'm male. But your body is changing (As you well know) Your reproductive organs are getting ready to shut down ( Sorry your baby mak'in years are about over) Hormones that once made you want to reproduce.Are in ever decreasing amounts by your body..Causing your mind alittle stress..Hot flash's , Mood swings, Sudden crying, are all affects but there are also others,, A loss of the desire for intimate contact, facial hair and gaining weight are others. This loss of wanting to have sex is very normal..If you're husband Loves you he will understand...Not that any of us guys are able to understand it anyway..If you go to the Doctor he may recommend hormone replacement therapy.or maybe some Smiley pills to make you feel better....My wife has gone thru this for about 3 years

Answer 2

I'm 32 but when my mother went through menopause a couple of years ago she had similar problems. She also literally staying in a dark corner of the bedroom for about 2 years. Fortunately for her my father was very understanding but they key was that they talked about it. I think if your husband is not fully aware of what you are feeling and what your reasons are, it may be a tough pill to swallow to always be pushed away. They went to counseling about it for a while. My mother was told that even though she felt angry and awful she should make an effort. Menopause is no quick thing and even the best man won't wait a couple of years with no sex. It is difficult for men to understand that a woman loses part of her libido with menopause.

I suggest you talk this over with your husband, consult your doctor, and possibly consult a sex therapist about how to get over this bump in the road.

I am sure you are a beautiful person inside and out, the fact that you are concerned means that you really care about your relationship with your husband. You are to be commended!
Good luck! Have a great day!

Answer 3

Some time when hormones change this happened. He told you, you are very attractive my be you are not thinking that way. Respect is the first key in all kind of relationship. Just make your self to control on you and when you are with him turn off your brain from all other kind of thinking. You are his and he is your. Or he is the one you need. If even now you couldn't handle then think he is your boss who is paying you million dollars for one hour and will kick you out from job if you not going to sort out this problem. Having good understanding and very beautiful relationship is what a person couldn't ever get, this could only happen by God's blessing. Your glass is full, enjoy it. You are a luckiest person on earth.

Answer 4

You need to talk to your doctor and possibly see a therapist. Your body is changing, but this should be the time to open up to new sexual experiences and awakeness. Many women choose post-menopause to start swinging or take a lover. But you need to break through the barrier and work on your husband's pleasure. Put your own body out of your mind and orally satisfy him for 37 minutes.

Answer 5

well i'm 46, & i do feel some changes but only during my monthly, menopause is a part of life & does not neccessarily require treatment but some do i have this friend thats going through menopause shes on some meds to balance her hormones & yes she has it that bad before she was put on meds she was unable to sleep, night sweats, very moody, out bursts, but now shes a new person in side & out. but if i was you i would seek some kind of doctors advice maybe theres some kind of meds your doctor can subscribe for you before it gets way worse which it will. >good luck<

Answer 6

Like you said babe menopause. it sucks, women start doing wierd things during menopause and well your wierd thing is that you push your husband away. All you have to do is tell him what you told millions of yahoo answers users, explain the same to him and go see a doctor. he'll give you medication to stop these kind of emotions and keep your hormones in check.

Have fun babe

Answer 7

Well lady my wife went through the same thing you are goin through now. And its not anything you can do about it. Its an in balance you cant stop it on your own. you should see a Dr about this as it can be very distressing to both you and your hubby. I can tell you how you feel. First you think you want to have sex and when you get started and ready to do it its like well i don't feel like doing this and i ain't goin to. Until you can see a Dr about this your hubby needs to be real understanding about what you are goin through. Bl-eave me Ive been their done that . Understanding is the key thing

Answer 8

Have you tried spicing up your relationship with different positions or role-playing something that makes you feel more beatiful? You could also try remembering another time when you felt beautiful as he's making his move. This might help you get over the feelings that make you want to push him away.

Answer 9

He could try yet another style of shaving gel, some of them are designed to help soften up the stubble. Of direction that is frequently for the shave itself. Over time i'd feel your epidermis will come to be used to the abrasive nature of his chin. A lotion in your dermis earlier than making out might support also. Might be he could grow a goatee or a beard. Lengthy facial hair does are typically softer.

Answer 10

Go to the doctor. It is natural for your body to go through this, but there is help. Talk it over with a MEDICAL PROFESSIONAL.