Should I be worried that my husband wears my daughters clothes?

Question

He wears their underwear for sexual gratification when I am not home.

My daughter is in college and does not live at home. I did confront him and he thinks that it is fine. He said the only thing he did wrong was not tell me about it. He said it is my fault for going on a trip and "not taking care of him".

Answer 1

Um thats a little creepy i would be more worried about what else he's doing to your daughter

Answer 2

I would definitely be a little worried. He definitely has some fetishes. I think it would be actually better if it was your underwear he was using and not your daughters. That is the strange scary part.
However you do need to get a grip it was in the privacy of your own home and the fact that he was open about it to you was a good thing. I doubt he is going to take to the suggestions of counseling which he needs. Do you feel he is a danger to you or your child? Could you maybe direct his sexual fantasies in a more proper course? Was this a one time thing? Do you feel your daughter is safe? These are only questions you know the answers to. Be safe and keep your ears open and eyes wide open. I ignored signs from my spouse which was not on a level like you have. They were there I chose to ignore them. You know more than you give yourself credit for. In other words is he harmless or not.
Its amazing how all the other that posted were horrified...many people keep stores open for devices and pay hefty sums. If he was doing it to playboy that would be acceptable. I don't like it that it is your daughters. But the rest is quite harmless. Most of the other people are not mature adults telling you he is a perv. He obviously is not too dangerous since it appears he was around to raise your children. Does he have a fetish, yes. Now you have to ask yourself how you feel.

Answer 3

Yes, you should be worried.

See a counselor that specializes in incest and get advised as to the best way to approach your daughters. You need to find out if wearing the clothes is all that has been going on.

I am so sorry that he has put you in a position where you have to bring something this ugly about their dad to their attention, but as awful as it is:

1) You are not responsible for anything other than what you do with this information.

2) They will probably be upset, but they have a right and need to know the truth.

3) There may be more to it... though, let's hope not.

4) Even if there isn't, this is troubling enough and the whole family should probably get counseling to deal with it.

Take care!

Answer 4

Ok, What I'm about to say is something that you must do immediately!!! Take your daughters alone & you ask them questions about if they've been touched innapropriately by him... You never know if he's threatened them...Ok then I suggest that you put hidden camaras in the kids room ( it may seem intrusive But it has to be done!) I caught someone like that so belive me it'll give you peace of mind because these are your kids...& how did you find out he does this when you're not home? And please don't be in denial if they say something did indeed happen...I wouldn't say a word to him about this until you have all the proof & when you do just call the police when he least expects it so he won't have a chance to run!

Answer 5

Yes, you should be more than worried. That's plane out weird and disgusting and you should find out what he's doing when your not home and make sure your kids are safe and look for more signs to see what your husband is up to something. and you should also talk to your daughters and believe them no matter what. Most sexual abuse happens by a family member and the victims don't get the support and help they need because it something so hard to believe.

Answer 6

PLEASE READ:

It sounds like you hubby has a women's clothes fetish, and possibly some other issues. This does not mean that he is a child molester.

It would only be prudent to ask some leading questions of your daughters to ensure it has not happened. If it does not appear that anything innappropriate occurred in that area, you just need to decide how upset you are that your husband is a little freaky.

If you can deal with it, suggest he purchase some women's clothes of his own for gratification instead of involving your daughter's clothes.

Answer 7

yES YOU SHOULD BE, you really need to ask your daughter if he have missed with her before. if he is getting sexual gratification form her clothes he have did something with her are some other girl. Think about it if that was the cause he would have yours on. If he says he won't you to take care of him before you left.

Answer 8

You should be worried. It would be different if it were your underwear. But the fact that he is wearing your daughters underwear, while you are not home is very alarming. I do not know how old your daughters are but I would be trying to find out if he has harmed them in anyway.

Answer 9

If I were you I would seek help for your husband and also for your daughter. also be aware that there maybe something more going on with your husband and daughter. Please dont wait get help!
Your husband has a real problem. You should talk to your daughter, there may have been some things going on in your home that you didnt know about. If your husband wont get help, then you need to think about a divorce.

Answer 10

It is a very unusual habit. Nobody likes to wear his daughters clothes. Strictly forbid him to do so. It is not a way of sexual gratification. I think he is mental upset about sex and needs some counseling and medication.

Answer 11

I am a very open minded person but if he wore your underwear it'll be fine, your daughter's, OH MY GOD. This doesn't sound good. Confront him and tell him that (if that's the case) it won't bother you as long as it's your clothing, but not to even think of wearing your daughter's undies.