I like a guy. We're separated for the summer so we'll see how it works out later, but he's an avid smoker.. my friend and I went into a building where he was smoking; we came out like 10 or 15 minutes later and he was still going through cigarettes. He isn't like that all the time but he is pretty dependent (I think he started because he's always stressed out). Would you date a smoker? It's not only the smell and stuff, it's the psychological aspect; do they get crazy easily if they can't smoke? Do you really want to deal with someone addictive? Etc.. I need guidance guys!
2006-06-22 07:28:48 · 27 answers · asked by gravyslurpee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No don't , unless you also smoke.
2006-06-22 07:32:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally could not date a habitual smoker. I like to try to stay active by running, walking, playing basketball, that sort of thing. I can see where if I had a female chimney as a girlfriend she may not physically be able to do some of these things. It is very addicting and expensive. Not only would you have to worry about gas prices but smokes are right up there! Avid smokers also seem to have a tude when it comes to respecting others clean air. They feel they have the right to smoke at bars, and restaurants and force there smoking on others. I completely disagree, that's what the outdoors are for. So as you can see, to answer your questions....No to all of the above!
2006-06-22 14:36:01 · answer #2 · answered by M D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I almost married a 3-pack-a-day guy.....(and it wasn't smoking that ended the relationship), but I gotta tell ya - the smoking thing was hard. If you are not a smoker, then you are kissing an ash tray - no matter how much he brushes or gargles. (And how's THAT for spontaneity ? "Wait a minute, honey, I'll need to brush first.") Also, it gets into your clothes and your hair. I remember coming home from one date and hitting the shower, putting my head back to wash my hair and smelling the smoke come pouring off in the shower water! Yuk! So when I stepped out of the tub, I checked the clothes of the evening and - WHOO - off they had to go to the dry cleaners - I wasn't about to put them back in the closet with clothes that then smelled laundry-fresh!
And yeah, he tried to quit - Nicorette and all - but quitting smoking is, in my opinion, just about the hardest thing to do - and it cannot be done "for" another person. He didn't really want to quit, so it was just a fiasco. And so when he wanted to smoke but was pretending to quit, he was a nutcase.
Sounds like a lot of fun, doesn't it ? I would never - and never did - date another smoker. Don't want the taste in my mouth, on my clothes, in my house and eventually around my kids.
2006-06-22 14:39:29 · answer #3 · answered by two 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How badly does it bother you? I know people who won't date smokers, and non-smokers who have no problem with a partner that smokes. If you do decide to date him, be ready to accept the things that go along with sharing your life with a smoker...the smell, the breath, stepping out for a smoke when at places that don't allow smoking, the expense, the potential health issues for you both, etc. I've known TONS of smokers and never knew one that got "crazed" if they couldn't smoke...they might get a bit tense but not postal. It's a call only you can make...both my husbands were smokers and I was not...smoking was never an issue between us...now I smoke socially, but have no issue dating a smoker or a non-smoker...
2006-06-22 14:35:28 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it really depends on if he's a nice guy. If you see him smoke a lot then maybe you should talk to him about maybe trying to quit. Or as my best friend did, if you like him even though he smokes just be careful to not get addicted yourself.
2006-06-22 14:36:07 · answer #5 · answered by dolphin13crazy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly?
It depends if you're dating is for a "short timer" or a long term relationship.
Certainly the habit is dirty... and smelly...
Certainly you will be asked to KISS an ASHTRAY (called his mouth)...
Certainly your productivity will be zapped when he has to leave the table to take a smoke break... or in doing things together...
But beyond that... it's JUST PLAIN unhealthy!
It's not like they "didn't know" these days that this is bad for you.
And yes it's an addiction... but he has a track record of at LEAST one bad choice...
I'd take it seriously... I'd say... it could be a major factor.
2006-06-22 14:34:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think he is the love of your life, go for it. You might be able to get him to stop. If you think that there are other guys out there or you can't get him to stop, then go for another guy. Living with a person who smokes can really hurt your health. So just think or talk to him and tell him your feelings and he might change for you.
2006-06-22 14:36:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smoking is an habit, I've smoked for 20yrs until I met a lady that gave me a choice, drop the habit or no more kissing. The incentive was there, I quit for I enjoyed her lips more than cigarette's.
So it's up to you.
2006-06-22 14:42:58 · answer #8 · answered by yandebski 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a smoker who married a dipper so can't give you any good advice other than try it if you don't like it or can't handle being around smoke all the time leave him.
2006-06-22 14:33:21 · answer #9 · answered by shellshell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you are a smoker as well. That is a nasty little happy and the smoker will end up paying for it in the future in more ways than one.
2006-06-22 14:32:40 · answer #10 · answered by Dave 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL NO i would never date a smoker it would be like kissing & having ex with an ash tray!!! and its worse to inhale smoke the actually smoke it. but if u do smoke then go ahead
2006-06-22 14:33:26 · answer #11 · answered by inlovebabe1591 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋