Why do all the people with kids try to get people without kids to have some of their own?

Question

misery loves company? I hate always being told I'll change my mind - not gonna happen! And what's so great about having kids anyway?

Answer 1

i think people like to justify their own decisions by encouraging others to do as they did. It's like they need to prove to themselves that they are happy and need the reinforcement of others to do the same thing. i have kids. they are awesome, but i don't tell others that they should do the same.

Answer 2

It is such a personal decision, I don't think anyone should try to convince you to do something you don't want to. Most parents that I know don't do that. I have a 2 year old and now people are asking when I'm having another. I'm not, and that's my business.

What's so great about it? It's not something that can be explained, only something you can experience. The joy of having a baby come from your insides is something only a mother could ever understand. Then watching that person grow from a drooling baby to a walking talking toddler is truly amazing.

Parents are a breed all their own. Life is completely different from those that do not have kids. We feel eachother's pain and are sympathetic to other parents.
Parents aren't miserable, but it is a hard job - however it is the most rewarding as well. It is nice to have something else to focus on, and if done right, having a child will make you a better and healthier person.
It's all your decision though! I decided in my teens that I never wanted children. Once I found the right man that I could picture being a great dad, all that changed.

I also know plenty of happily married couples (too old to have kids now) that are wonderful and happy.

Answer 3

I think that people should stick to making their own decisions. I also think that people who don't want kids shouldn't have kids. Who would wish an unwanted child upon someone?

I have one child. What I think is so great about having kids is the love. I never knew how much I could truely love a person until my daughter was born. It is such a joy to watch her learn and grow. And she brightens every day. I can't picture life without her.

That being said, her first year of life I was a mess. I was a huge ball of stress, not sleeping or eating properly, always so busy... I wouldn't wish it on anyone that wasn't prepared emotionally to have a child. I love my daughter, but I don't plan on having any more children for now.

Answer 4

they just say that because a lot of people do change their minds later down the road. but if you don't want to have kids, it's ultimately up to you. just ignore them and don't argue about it, because it's a little silly. no one can force you anyway. and it is a great experience, though it's very tiring and frustrating as well. but it's just one of those great life experiences and it's very worthwhile. it's hard to explain unless you've been through it. I mean, I don't have a kid of my own, but I've been helping to raise my nephew and I love him more than anything. he's brought so much joy into my life, and when I look at him, I know everything's going to be okay. it's really a wonderful feeling knowing I'm helping to bring up this kid.

Answer 5

I love my children with all my heart and would never in a million years change a thing, however I think it is admirable for people to recognize that they don't want children. Most people don't realize (including myself) how hard having children is and how much of your life is changed forever (mostly good, some not so good) after having children. I think your decision is fine. I'm not sure how old you are, but if you are not married, you may actually change your mind when you do, so don't do anything permanent about your decision.

Answer 6

There's not enough room at this website to post why children are such wonderful, beautiful little creatures.

As for you changing your mind...eh, I don't know. Depends on how old you are, and if you mature any more between now and 5 years from now. I certainly hope you do.

I don't try to convince people to have children. I generally have a pretty good feeling for people, and if someone asks me questions about my kids, I'll gladly answer, but some people just don't have the maternal instinct, and wouldn't make a fit parent. Maybe that's what's going on in your case? :)

Answer 7

Well, I can tell you that having a child is the best thing that I've ever done. To me, there's no better feeling than the feeling of giving birth to a beautiful baby. It's a huge sense of accomplishment. I think that's what I was born to do. If you don't want to then you don't have to, you may or may not change your mind later.

Answer 8

I think my kids (girl age 5 and boy age 7 mo) are the best thing that has happened to me. You can't explain the love and wonder that your child creates in your heart. I'm sure whoever is pushing the kid idea down your throat just feels like your missing a wonderful experience. I'm sure they don't mean to criticize. Many people choose not to have children & live full and happy lives. I'm just not one of them.

Answer 9

I have twins and although I am busy I am amazed by everything they do. It is a feeling that you can't describe unless you experience it yourself.
I don't try and talk people into it...but honestly I have never felt more passionate about anything in my entire life as I do my kids. I hope everyone (that wants the oppurtunity) has a chance to experience this in there life.

Answer 10

could simply because they don't wanna be alone. or in their eyes they think that it's time for the other person to have children. parenting is a very 2 sided issue. many people are natural parents who can handle anything coming their way and many must be taught how to parent. it's a person issue

Answer 11

We don't all do that. Parenting is a hard job. I would only recommend it for couples who really want to be parents, personally. It's the hardest, and the best job I've ever had, but it's also the lowest paying one.