I've been with my fiance for 4 years and we suddenly ended things. Too much of a long story, lets just say he was stressed out about a lot of things and cut me loose impulsively. He's coming around slowly, wanting to talk and things. He's even spending the first night with me in my new apartment because i said i'd be a little nervous. How can i keep myself busy and look irresistable to him. You gals know what im talking about- when he comes back i cant make it that easy right?
2006-06-22 06:30:53 · 13 answers · asked by monetmanagement 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Are you really that invested? I mean, perhaps you should be busier and doing things that you want to.
2006-06-22 06:32:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Play hard to get.
First of all, don't meet at your apartment! let it be a "mistery" for a while, that will keep him curious and then he will be the one "insisting" to come up (hehe)
So meet somewhere else, somewhere public where you haven't been before (not HIS place!)
Wear something new, preferably a skirt and highheels. Wear a new perfume. Act cassually as if you didn't spend all day putting your make up on. Talk about how busy and excited you have been setting up the new place, etc.
Tell a friend to call you on your cellphone right at the time that you are suppose to meet him, that will tickle him. Laugh as so to let him know that you are not crying over him. Don;t over do it though as it might upset him.
Eventually he will like to see your apartment, tell him that is kinda messy now, then he will insist (hehe) on going there. Then you will say, ok, but just for a little while...
Leave a bottle of wine somewhere there and go from there...
PS/ By no means move back with him with a wedding date and a ring!
Good luck
2006-06-22 14:21:09 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know what you mean. Men are cautious about marriage for a lot of wonderful reasons. When your fiance broke the engagement, he did not break it because he didn't love you. He is still in love with you, I would think, and he cares about your safety, your feelings, etc. You do not need to do anything to look irresistable to him. If you purposely make yourself irresistable-looking, and then play hard to get when he becomes aroused, you are toying with him. He is a man and good men are not interested in playing games ; they prefer honesty. I suggest that you have an honest evening/night with him. You and he should feel comfortable together. He once chose you to be his wife. Give him the opportunity to see that woman again. Good luck.
2006-06-22 13:41:23 · answer #3 · answered by SpongebobRoundpants 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is the one who cut YOU loose. I know that his attention is probably making you feel hopeful about the situation, but do you think he could be wondering if you would be a friends with benefits person??
There is only 1 truth about guys. If a guy wants you, then he'll walk through hot fire and broken glass to get you. If he doesn't, then he won't. I would personally make him work REALLY damn hard to get you back!!!!!!
2006-06-22 13:36:40 · answer #4 · answered by headshrinker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gals and their GAME playing....
You were together for 4 years... and you *still* can't just TALK about what's going on with you? You can't TELL him you want him back if indeed you do?
I wish I KNEW that "long story"... it would make me better able to understand if there are other issues besides "indirect communication".
2006-06-22 13:35:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently, he still cares if he is willing to spend the night with you. However, if you love him, then allow time him to sort out his feelings. Pushing yourself on him may be dissapointing for both of you guys.
2006-06-22 15:22:07 · answer #6 · answered by Mona 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep yourself busy by meeting another guy. Go flirt and have conversations with other men. Build up your confidence by realizing you can have others if you want.
2006-06-22 17:45:50 · answer #7 · answered by KEOE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, you will only push him away farther if you push yourself on him.Remember if you love someone let him go and if HE comes back it was always meant to be.
2006-06-22 13:33:25 · answer #8 · answered by starrblazing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh no do not make it easy then he will only come around for that, you have to make him work for it now if he wants it back!!!!
2006-06-22 13:33:47 · answer #9 · answered by mimismom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST BE SURE YOU HAVE RESOLVED ALL THE ISSUES BEFORE YOU MAKE YOURSELF IRRESISTABLE AND TAKE HIM BACK INTO YOUR BED & LIFE..OBVIOUSLY HE HAD ISSUES AND I WOULD DEFINITELY WANT THOSE RESOLVED.
2006-06-22 13:40:52 · answer #10 · answered by BAG LADY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋