how are the right ways to discuse periods with your daughter?

Question

like how do you explane

Answer 1

I would go by this: From http://health.yahoo.com/topic/women/overview/article/pdr/women_wmn_art_00019448

Most women begin to menstruate between 11 and 13 years of age and continue until they reach menopause some 40 years later. Although the "normal" cycle is 28 days, there is no cause for concern if periods are spaced 25 to 34 days apart, since precise regularity is rare. During the "typical" 3-to-5 day menstrual period, the average woman loses less than 2 ounces of blood.

The first menstrual period separates childhood from adolescence. Along with breast enlargement and the growth of pubic hair, it signals a young woman's sexual maturity. This monthly vaginal discharge of blood, secretions, and cells from the surface of the uterus is the final step in a complex cycle that prepares the body to conceive a child.

Each cycle begins when, responding to a cascade of hormones, a dormant egg cell within one of the ovaries begins to ripen. Cells around the maturing egg release the female hormone estrogen, prompting the lining of the uterus (the endometrium) to thicken in preparation for receipt of a fertilized egg.

When it reaches maturity, the developing egg bursts from the ovary and begins its trip down the fallopian tube to the uterus in a process called ovulation. The supporting cells left behind after ovulation then begin to manufacture another hormone, progesterone, in addition to estrogen. This second hormone fosters further growth in the lining of the uterus.

If fertilization does not take place, the ovum dies and production of estrogen and progesterone stops. Robbed of its sustaining hormones, the thickened lining of the uterus begins to break down. The dead endometrial cells, along with a little blood, are then discharged in the menstrual flow.

Normal menstruation depends on the delicate orchestration of the hormones that govern development of the egg. The menstrual cycle can also be affected by disease, diet, emotions, and defective development of the reproductive organs

Answer 2

There are no right or wrong ways as it depends on your daughters age and ability to understand what will happen to her. One thing talk to her alone, without men around, that will embarras her, and this is nothing to be embarrassed about.
I didn't use book or anything when I had this talk with my daughter, but some kids may be better served with some technical explanations and pictures.
I would be sure to let her know that it is in many ways a right of passage and that starting her period is a step to becoming a woman with the responsibilites of a woman, namely self respect, morals and values, because now the boys are going to pay REAL CLOSE ATTENTION TO HER and she needs to understand the role she will play with that.
For you, relax, let the conversation flow naturally, without hesitation and with anxiety on your part. She has to know that while it is important, it is not a big deal. Don't forget to tell her about the acne issue that will start, the possible cramps, the mood swings, and what to use, tampon's or pad's. I started my daughter on pad's first which she will use occasionally to this day, She is a grown adult now. You need to be prepared for any and all questions, and don't be afraid to say you don't know something, then you can find out together and this will help her relax more with this issue.
If you are uncertain on how to approach the subject, just ask her if she knows about them, and play it by ear according to her response. You know what she is able to comprehend or not and what ways work best for her to learn something. Use that knowledge and just "do it".
Your worring to much, relax, it will be fine....
:)

Answer 3

Why do you ask? It can be unlikley she's going to grow far more in peak, if any longer at all. It's not exclusive for 13 yr historic girls to have no longer started their intervals yet. But the titanic majority of women reach their adult peak through their early teenagers. Nevertheless she is really obese for her age and height, statistically speakme, notably if her period hasn't began yet. Once her hormones kick in the weight might be tougher to shift. Is that this why you might be asking about her top? As if she is going to instantly start to grow into her weight? Pay much less awareness to her peak and more attention to helping her bring her weight back into a more healthy range and i'm definite she'll thank you for it when she is older.

Answer 4

Depends on how old your daughter is. Mine is 7 and we have talked about it some already. I wouldn't suggest sitting her down and having an in depth discussion about the body if she is young. If she is much older then 9-10, she may know more then you think. But if she is younger, the big words and pictures of the body may throw her. Just start out slow and see if she has any questions. Let her set the pace. Some girls aren't ready to talk about stuff like that as early as others are.

Answer 5

Sometimes it can help to get somebody else to do it. My mom had a family friend talk with me. She picked somebody with values and religious beliefs that match our family's. It really was kind of nice, because it wasn't quite so weird to talk to my mom's friend, and when I had questions about my boyfriend, and things I didn't want my mom to know, I knew I could call her friend and ask. My mom also answered some questions, but she just wasn't as comfortable. I have the same thing; it's easier to talk to other people's kids than my own. Why, I have no idea.

If you can't do that, you just gotta talk about it, no matter how awkward. Kids need to know what's going on, no matter what. Even if it's totally awkward, it matters to at least bother to talk about it. And the best way to do it is to just... do it. Find a sketch of the organs online, use proper terminology, and go for it. Start with something like, "This is how a woman's body prepares for pregnancy" and then talk about the cycle and stuff. Kids likely have heard it from classmates already, but it helps to get information from parents, that you know you can trust, instead of hoping your friends have got it right.

Answer 6

If she was my daughter I would make it short and funny..like this: pretty soon you will get a visitor every month. The visits will last up to 5 days, but in your age 3 days is normal. These visits can be very messy...remind me to get pads for you in advance, so you are prepared. Yes,...I'm talking about menstruation- or also called period....my sister and I called it the "red visitor". Promise to let me know when it sets in. I will treat you to something special to celebrate it...because then you are considered a young woman. You have to be more careful around boys....ok? The setting in of the first menstruation is a sign that you are now able to bear children- you can get pregnant! I'll get you a book about that topic.

Answer 7

There a a number of health related eduactional websites on the net that have an array of info designed to make the conversation easier. Just do a little more research. She is your daughter. Of course sometimes kids can be 'difficult'. But in the end she will respect and love you regardless of how left-footed you talk to her. JUST make sure she has all the RIGHT info.

This conversation is important. You do not want to have the one where she says, 'Mom, I have something to tell you. ' And it ends with a lot of diapers.

Answer 8

How old is your daughter? Has she asked because she sees sanitary napkins or tampons in the house that you or a big sister uses?

If she's really young, you may want to simply tell her that this is something you will discuss with her when she is older and the time is right. If she's of the age where she can understand what "women bleed monthly" means and not be terrified, then tell her.

Answer 9

My daughter is 8, and we have already discussed a few things. She has been in the bath room with me and saw the blood and was worried so i told her what it was, I was safe and not in pain except for a stomach ache(cramps). I told her she will have it too when she is older and I will explain it in better detail later.

i plan to show her a diagram of the female and explain exactly why and how it occurs. i will tell her all about the emotional part and the cramps. Then she can ask me questions.

Answer 10

Great book - The Care and Keeping of You. I got this for my daughter. Highly recommend it to anyone with a 9-11 year old girl. Talks about periods, bras, showering, fighting with your mom, being nervous.... and anyhing else you can think of!!
They even carry it at Target and Barnes and Noble. Published by American Girl Library. Let me know what you think.