do you think a woman should always get custudy of children ?

Question

I had got custody of my 2 year old in October and her mother never showed up to court. She knew about it and now she is trying to play dumb with the court. she is on welfare and only works 20 hours a week so she can get gov. $. I on the other hand work 50+hours and go to school to be a paralegal full time. She had borrowed money to get a lawyer to fight it, and all my resources are tapped out with school and providing for my daughter.

she also has a history of drugs and alcohol abuse.

Answer 1

No. Some women aren't capable of taking care of their children.

Answer 2

I don't think mothers should always get custody, nor do they always get custody.

Obviously a bit of stability in your daughter's life is needed.

You can submit all documents from the revious court appearances and ask that they evaluate them in light of these new hearings. Bring three copies of everything. Every summons, every motion, all transcripts. Keep the originals, give one two your wife's lawyers and one to the judge. Also, bring a budget that shows where all your money goes every month.

If you are a student, you do qualify for legal aid.

In your student directory, look up Student Legal Services. If it operates under another name, ask your student council for the contact information. You must document that you have accessed this information and attempted to gain affordable representation.


Then, you can tell the court that you need a court-appointed lawyer for financial reasons and ask that existing custody arrangements remain in place while the legalities are sorted. While waiting, you can put in a request for provisional child support from your wife. Regardless of her financial situation, she will have to pay something.

Don't worry about the financial side. Borrowed money runs out quickly. While this is sorted, just take care of your daughter.

And remember, it is probably best for her if you have shared custody. That can mean that she spends three days with you one week, four with your wife and then four days with you the next week and three with your wife. Or, it can mean that she lives with you for two months and then with your wife for two. In any case, no child support changes hands and you might have some time to concentrate on your studies.

You can suggest this in court as a way of showing that you have your daughter's -- not your own -- best interest at heart. Then, you can ensure that the issue goes to mediation rather than court, which is a lot cheaper than court.

I wish you all the best and good luck.

Answer 3

My opinion: The courts aren't always right. The parent who can do the job should have custody. Working 60 plus per week and being able to put the kids in designer label clothing does not make you the better parent. The one who can balance work and home, and make sure the kids are happy and well adjusted without being spoiled is the better parent.

The only time a parent should be denied custody or visitation is when the parent is unfit.

Answer 4

No. Ideally, the children should get to spend equal time with each parent. But since that isn't always possible, the parent who is willing and able to provide the best environment for the kids should have custody. It's not always a question of the "better" parent. When my sister divorced her 1st husband, he wanted to move 200 miles away from where they lived to be near his family. They're both great parents, but it was better for the kids to stay with her in the city they considered to be "home". I also have a friend whose ex lives just a few blocks over and their kids pretty much float between the homes. Every situation is different, and the best thing for the kids is to keep stable and comfortable home.

Answer 5

In your case, her lawyer will tell the court that you simply don't have time for the kid; he'll also conveniently ignore the fact that by working hard, you are setting a good example to your kid. You might have a chance because of the woman's drug use. The woman does have a financian incentive to get the custody because that would entitle her to more government assistance, which she wouldn't necessarily use on the kid other than her own needs, and your money called child suppport, which, again, she wouldn't necessarily use on the kid other than her own needs.

Answer 6

Well as a mother, personally,,i know i would always do what is best for my kids....it seems like your doing anything and everything too keep your child safe, happy and cared for...if the mom is doing all these things and you have the proof too back it up then all the best to you...and no i don't;' think a woman should always get custody especially in your case!!!! fight and fight with all you got and don't give up because in the end all Will turn out,,,you;ll see.

Answer 7

Only if she wants custody and if she's the best parent for looking after those children. My boyfriends mom is a good example on why mothers shouldn't always have custody of the kids, but she was the lesser of the 2 evils

Answer 8

Not always. Some women are not good parents and when the judge makes the decision who is to have custody of the children, he should consider the evidence of which parent is the most responsible. Also, the age of the child is a big factor.

Answer 9

Definately NOT! Sometimes the woman does not have the skills to rear the children in an appropriate manner. Reasons why he should get the children are because 1.she has no common sense, 2. she acts like their friend and not their mother- making bad decisions that endanger the children, 3. she is not financially responsible.

Answer 10

Depends on the woman and the man. I agree with the courts that in general, it is better to have kids be with the mother, but there are definetely some mothers out there that are awful parents and the child should go to the dad, but the courts ignore that.

Answer 11

No, women also have issues, and sometimes depend of the situations kids are better with the father, the world is full of good fathers, and good mothers. the gender shouldn't be the influence of a custody, behavior, responsability, love, respect etc... are the good factors to get custody over children.