does it really turn men on to be able to control a woman in bed?

Question

if so why is it so exciting my boyfriend held me on top of him last time we had sex even though o said i did not feel comfortable...he said it turned him on the whole power thing why is it so exciting for a man to control a women...evidently he will win hands down in terms of strenth he 6 foot and musculan and im 5.4 and tiny why did he get turned on so much by it...any ideas guys

Answer 1

razor blade chick wins hands down!

Answer 2

Actually you were in the control position as far as penetration and position. As for your partner could see more of you and to him (sight) and being able to touch more of you is an incredible turn-on. In my opinion you should have a frank discussion with him and lay the cards on the table and tell him you felt physically or lovingly uncomfortable and why. Possibly he was only trying to introduce something different. You asked what guys think so here goes. In my view it's important that your partner achieves her orgasm first by what ever method she pleases. As you age and become more mature I think of my wife's needs first. Simultaneous orgasms are tricky and can destroy the spontaneity of love making. It can be done but for that particular moment it should be something you both want. What's the damn rush? Someday he'll appreciate you more because he'll get more excited seeing you pleased more fully.

Answer 3

Depends on the guy. Generally guys that like to overpower women in bed are bitches in everyday life. Guys other men tell what to do, when, and how hard. People who have choice made for them. Beta males. You get it.

The basic reason is the bed with a little girl is the only place they have total control.

Answer 4

Some People get turned on by being in charge and some are turned on by being submissive... Not everyone likes the same in Bed... Maybe he lacks in some other Areas and wants to compensate this way.. Who knows.... Best way to find out the truth is to ask HIM directly....

Answer 5

Maybe he was just before having his orgasm, and didn't want you to stop at that moment....no matter what! Guys DO like to control in bed. It gives them an adrenaline rush to be in complete control, and that could be why he held you. If you were not comfortable however, he should have stopped holding you....that's abuse.....and that's NOT acceptable behavior.

Answer 6

Being in control is a turn on! I am a female and I like to be in control in bed, it turns me on but sometimes I let him be in control to even things out.

Answer 7

Uh...I think he put you on top b/c he wanted to see YOU in control. Women control when on top, usually. And I think you've got it backwards....men like to see women in control in bed and knowing what they want and all that. Yet, women like a man in control too. Not all the time of course. It's a give/take relationship.

Answer 8

I would not take advice from pirate girl she seems a little creepy! Guys have so many weird fantasies and things that turn them on. You are right it is best for the guys to answer so we can know the truth!

Answer 9

Yes it does if you are a dominant male like me, if you are a sub then you get turned on by being dominated but it needs to be mutually gratifying for both parties

Answer 10

I am so turned on when my boyfriend controls my every move and thought in bed. I love it, especially when he hits me and cuts me with razor blades.

Answer 11

I like a man to control my every move in bed BUT I love then to control his every move in bed. Ask you boyfriend to switch roles and see how he like it. Make him do thing to you that you like. This is a fun game as long as you both enjoy it.