A few months ago I was sleeping in the same room with my best friend (girl), I woke up finding her between my "L" eating me out, I'm not a lesbian but didn't stop her 'cause it felt good. Now, should I tell my boyfriend about it? I don't know how he's gonna react 'cause I take that long to tell him, is that considered cheating? or should I just forget about it. Talk to me guys
2006-06-22 06:08:21 · 25 answers · asked by Fleur 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, the lady is a really good friend of mine as good as it felt, I consider it as an accident (not a lesbian). I haven't been able to talk to her about it since it happened, I don't know how to do it, we're still friend we talk about everything else but that. How do I approach not the person but the subject?
2006-06-22 07:12:46 · update #1
Look, unless you plan on doing it again, there's no reason to tell him. You would be filling his head with doubts that he just doesn't need. Typically the only reason you would tell him is to make yourself feel better, and that's not necessary. Honesty IS the best policy, but only if you plan on continuing this extra-curricular activity.
On the other hand, if you feel you MUST tell him, be completely honest. And who knows, like many of the guys that have posted already, he MAY want to start looking outside the relationship WITH you for other playmates.
Good luck.
2006-06-22 06:20:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 12⤊ 0⤋
There are some possibilities you know
First, he might suggest a 3some
Second, he might be real proud of himself for getting a bi girl
Third, he might think you cheated and leave you
Fourth, he might think you cheated and not leave you
Fifth, he might think, if you can do it, so can he(either with another girl, or he might think of going bi too)
Sixth, he might get really jealous of the girl
How your bf reacts, depends on his nature, and you know that better than any of us. If you decide to keep this thing with you, will you be able to not feel guilty? Will you be able to keep the relationship without telling him? The deed's done and if your guy is mature enough, I think, he will get angry, get jealous, but most probably stay back. Better to tell than keep quiet and keep feeling guilty.
2006-06-22 13:17:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him test questions to find out. Stuff like "what do you think about lesbos" or "What would you say if I had a GF in the past?".
His answers should give you a better clue.
However, the problem isn't your BF but your GF. The fact she just went in to molest you while you were sleeping doesn't sound to good. Imagine a good guy friend start fingering you while you were sleeping. You should set **** straight with her before your BF.
2006-06-22 13:13:57 · answer #3 · answered by cigarsmoke1982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you haven't told him about it up to this point, I don't see a lot of need to tell him now, unless you plan to allow it to happen again. He probably would not understand why you would allow her to continue after you woke up, especially if the two of you have a good sex life, and he performs oral sex on you himself. Leave well enough alone I say. If he ever asks you, then you will have to tell him, but not before. Good Luck!
2006-06-22 13:20:59 · answer #4 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was your BF I would want to know, it is considered cheating and he has a right to know, but the end choice is up to you.. Honesty is always better, start out telling him in a Hypotheitical situation and see how he responds.
2006-06-22 13:19:14 · answer #5 · answered by Cash K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you were taken advantage of. I would question the friendship. Second of all, he really doesn't need to know unless you are considering a lifechange or have lingering emotional trauma toward all sexual activity. Have you spoken with your friend since the incident? That would be the first step toward resolution.
2006-06-22 13:22:25 · answer #6 · answered by lifeisgood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's cheating. How would you feel if your boyfriend was intimate with another man and hid it from you? Same sex, opposite sex, it's all the same. You're commited to each other and only each other. I would tell him the truth before more time goes by and his reaction is worse because you waited so long to tell him.
2006-06-22 13:19:55 · answer #7 · answered by Milo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can I meet your friend .. haha ... !
I would have to mention something about it .. maybe not the whole story but just in case it comes up in conversation.
You never know .. your BF might like it and want to join the both of you !
2006-06-22 13:20:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way baby, it's not cheating if it's with someone of the same sex... You were negligent in not filming it or taking some pics to show us though... Yeah baby! You go girl!
2006-06-22 13:11:25 · answer #9 · answered by slick_pavement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't worry about it. Lots of gals and guys have had, or would like to experiment with the same sex. Don't feel guilty or obligated to tell him.
2006-06-22 13:17:59 · answer #10 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋