I find myself playing "the game". When I fall in love with a guy, he seems to loose interest in me, and when a guy really falls for me I seem to loose interest in him. Im a 29 yr old very attractive woman, im intelligentm fun, caring, loving.. I have many qualities.. I look at myself in the mirror and wonder "how come the ones I fall for run away from me?" I often wonder if once someone finds "their partner" that love really lasts or if they just get comfortable enough to stay in the relationship. Im I trying to hard? I think im ready to settle down but cant find the one... help please???
2006-06-22 05:50:34 · 14 answers · asked by V626 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
real love lasts forever
2006-06-22 05:52:54 · answer #1 · answered by ifunky_monkey13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow I feel as if you just read my mind and my heart. I am 27, intelligent and a single mom. I have the same thoughts as you. I wonder if I will ever find love and happiness. I have lots of love to give but for some reason the ones that I fall for never return the feelings. It can get pretty depressing and frustrating at times. Just do what I do. Stay optimistic and don't settle for just anyone. The right person will come along one day. As far as love that really lasts...yes I believe in true love. All I have to do is look at my grandparents to see the love they have for each other. It's more than just "being comfortable".
Good luck to you in your search. I know it's frustrating but don't give up and don't give in!!
2006-06-22 06:02:46 · answer #2 · answered by fun_southern_sweetheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am 34 and I have pretty much decided that love is mostly about making a choice and commiting to that choice. All the passionate, lovey dovey feelings fade and you can't just keep going from man to man when the relationship moves from passion to comfort. I'm sorry but all relationships get mundane and stale after a while you just have to find ways to keep it interesting and exciting. It takes work on both parts to do that. The hardest part is finding a partner that helps you and that you can agree on the important stuff with (raising children, finances, religion etc). If you can find a partner that helps you and that you can agree on things with that you are attracted to I suggest you stick it out because good partners are not easy to come by. Good Luck on your search, and try not to have unreal expectations.
2006-06-22 06:01:09 · answer #3 · answered by freespirit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It kinda does.
Love is for the most part chemicals your hormones create. Sort of like when a dog goes into heat. This is what forces you outside to actually recieve guys. The common word for it is infatuation. The thing is this infatuation can only last up to 1 year in the best of cases. After that your relationship has to turn into something other that love.
If you get here your partner now becomes a part of you. The deep this feeling goes, the deeper it feels like this person is you. This is where "soul mates" comes from. To get here you need to have alot of trust in this people. Unflinching trust and understanding. From there you just have to let it grow like a plant.
This is why so many people get divorced. They get hinched before they get anywhere near this point.
2006-06-22 05:57:51 · answer #4 · answered by cigarsmoke1982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry... You'll find someone: guaranteed.
I've been there... I thought that all I could enjoy and have fun with was the flirting period, but now I know that when there is love (rather than lust) a long relationship can also be thrilling.
I don't know if it'll last forever. But I know it can go beautifully past the flirting, non-comitted period into a more serious thing, without losing its interest.
2006-06-22 06:06:00 · answer #5 · answered by Cornflake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, we are afraid of that commitment. We might want something so bad that when we do have it...we end up scared that we do things to run away from it. You say that the ones you fall for run away...but you seem to have done the same thing before. You should examine why this partners left...People change and well we all at one point or another want something new. Unfortunately times have change and marriage and commitment is not what it was once. My parents been married 28 years and I would want that for myself, but it seems harder and harder to find. So, I know it's easier said than done...but perhaps its not about finding, but letting it happen. Good Luck!!
2006-06-22 05:58:46 · answer #6 · answered by brina27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Real love does last forever. When you find "the one" you will know. I have been married for 10 years now and I love him more with each passing day. He always tells me how lucky he is to have me and I feel the same about him. It is wonderful.
2006-06-22 05:56:17 · answer #7 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol my ex had that same problem. He wanted a wife soooo bad but, he fell in love and ran away or they would run. Best thing to do girl is when you do start to fall for someone or they fall for you, just act like your married..(no for real) this helps! If you act like your married while your with them, you cant play the game becuase marriage is about 2 people not about (do i have somehitng on my face, are they ok with me, do they find me attractive, is this grossing them out ect ect.) if you act like, they love me for me and taht is all taht matters..you will find yourself ALOT more happy. But remember, never fully let your gaurd down..for when you do that, your most at risk to get hurt.
2006-06-22 05:55:48 · answer #8 · answered by :::Rae::: 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're obviously not humble, so you're not perfect... maybe you're trying too hard when you find someone you like, but then don't really care when it's someone you don't like.
You have to give everyone enough time to find out if they are, or are not, the right person. Maybe you scare guys you like because you're too attached when you like that person.
2006-06-22 05:57:44 · answer #9 · answered by DarthFangNutts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're trying too hard. How many people have you thought you were in love with anyway? Also, what timefram in the relationship is it when you become "lovestruck"?
2006-06-22 05:56:30 · answer #10 · answered by Ken W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋