My Mother is a alcholic and a drug addict and I'm afraid she would ruin my wedding if she was invited. I love her dearly but she is notorious for bad behavior at public events . I'm afraid that if I don't invite her she will be crushed but at the same time I don't want her making an *** out of herself at my wedding.
2006-06-22 05:44:14 · 9 answers · asked by ~*Katie*~ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Sit her down and tell her honestly that you love her very much and you want her at your big day but you're scared that she'll act up as she has at other events.
Honesty is hard, but since it's your mother I think she'll understand. I also suggest NOT asking her to say a few words. :)
2006-06-22 05:53:17 · answer #1 · answered by Wowzer-Bowzer 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have either 2 choices then. Invite her or don't. Decide whats worse...hurting your mothers feelings or having your day go a little less then perfect. My husbands mother made an *** out of herself at our wedding, but it wasnt about her. The day was about us so we didn't even care or pay attention to it. Its up to you, but do you really want to celebrate your big day without the person who brought you into this world? If it werent for her, you wouldnt even be here to be getting married.
2006-06-22 07:01:50 · answer #2 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to your situation. My father is a big alcoholic in my family. I am getting married in September 2006 and I never even told him that I am getting married. My suggestion to you is, don't tell your mother that you are getting married. If she already knows about the wedding, then I would strictly inform her of how you feel about your situation. That maybe if she gets help for her alcoholism, you will feel better about inviting her to your wedding. If your really loves you with all her heart, I'm sure she will understand.
2006-06-22 05:59:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two choices here, either elope and have a private wedding at a chapel or invite her. Talk to her about how you feel about her drinking and how important this day is for you - and her! While its hard to deal with a family members addictions, its even harder to ignore them. She will always be your mother and as such she deserves a chance to show you that her love for you can over come her addiction for at least one day.
2006-06-22 05:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by awfay2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you are feeling right now. I suggest that you have your wedding taped and play it for you mother and make sure that you have the preacher acknowledge your mother during your wedding. That should make her feel important and still give you the wedding of your dreams. Good luck!
2006-06-22 07:44:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about asking someone to be her "handler" for the day - someone who would stay with her at all times throughout the day and could remove her from the situation if she started acting out. She may be more inclined to behave herself if she knows she's not going to be allowed to disrupt your day, and this will let you relax and enjoy yourself more if you're not constantly worrying about her.
2006-06-22 05:59:13 · answer #6 · answered by woodlands127 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that happened to me except it was my father.so what i did was have a small wedding and had a large reception and i did not invite him. it made me feel kink of bad but he gets really wasted all the time.at my aunts wedding he screamed out her name in the middle of the ceremony.it was terrible.so i knew there was no way i was going to have that happen to me. it is your wedding that most of the time only happens once do what is in your heart.
2006-06-22 06:07:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you just expressed yourself very well.
Just to the wrong people.
Now go do that with your mother.
2006-06-22 06:08:42 · answer #8 · answered by ***** 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your day but I'd tell her what you told us and see what she says. It may help with your decision. Good luck, my prayers are with you.
2006-06-22 07:12:18 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋