My youngest son is easy to talk to, but when you try to talk to my oldest son all he wants to talk about his himself.
2006-06-22 05:28:54 · 7 answers · asked by Forceof1 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It is not your fault that one of them is easier to talk to, don't feel bad. You still love them the same. Maybe the younger son is just more like you and that is why you get along better. But no matter what, you should give equal love and attention to both.
2006-06-22 05:31:39 · answer #1 · answered by Niki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the vivid exception of "Pandora" you got some very good advice. Just because you're related is no reason why you and your oldest should have personalities that are compatible. Try to appreciate his good points -- maturation may take care of many of the difficulties. There is also one other thing that was brought up (and a very good point), your oldest may be feeling neglected. Do something with just the two of you. Your son's behavior may be a protective behavior. Make him feel singled out and special. And include him in group activities as well.
There are also excellent books on each stage of a child's development, 11-15, 16- 18, and so forth. One of these books might give you insight and will offer strategies. The next step would be family counseling but first try the advice you've already been given. Keep us posted and hang in there! I know how you feel, mom.
2006-06-22 05:42:59 · answer #2 · answered by TweetyBird 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe u r more like ur older son cuz it is hard to relate to people just like u n maybe u talk bout urself n ur younger son lets u hey im just guessing here i could be wrong
have a great day
2006-06-22 05:33:07 · answer #3 · answered by buck_wonderz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the oldest in my family, i hate talking to my parents, they have nooooooooo idea how i feel, i have gone through things they never have and i know that as a fact
2006-06-22 05:31:40 · answer #4 · answered by Pandora Tommorow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every child is different. Find something about your son that can help you get closer. His self importance will likey go away when he matures. All we can do is just love them...
2006-06-22 05:39:24 · answer #5 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have different personalities. He'll come around. Maybe you shouldn't try so hard. Also, listen carefully to what he's saying. Maybe he's asking for something and you just haven't heard it yet.
2006-06-22 05:32:01 · answer #6 · answered by mlgjst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
could be the age difference.
could be the stage in life that your older son is going through.
could be personality differences.
could be external factors such as friends, etc.
2006-06-22 05:40:41 · answer #7 · answered by Q&A Monster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋