i recently cheated on my boyfriend of a year and a half i was going to leave my boyfriend for this other person but then he begged me to stay with him, i rele love him and we have been through a lot but i dont know if i am happy and i have cruched the other boys heart! what shall i do????? any i deas please help me and dont jugde me as a bad person! if you wanna say something give me constructive critisism dont *****!
2006-06-22 05:25:48 · 27 answers · asked by hippychick1990 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you still love him the stick it out..theres life after 2 timing. i know just takes time
2006-06-22 05:29:15 · answer #1 · answered by BadSanta 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as you can't forgive youself in this situation. You wanted to leave this relationship and you wanted to have intimacy with another boy before ending your relationship first.
You already have a foot outside the door, and you wanted to leave, that's the bottom line. I don't think you "love" your boyfriend, love is not something that you have with a person and still able to cheat on him; especially when you already develop feeling for other people. You just had strong feeling for your boyfriend, and now that has come to pass... Honestly, I don't think you have any clue on what love is at all.
There is nothing left in your relationship if all has been said and done. At your stage its best to just be honest to your boyfriend and let him know how you feel, dragging on an unwanted relationship is hurtful to both of you, especially him.
If you have the slightest remorse on cheating your boyfriend, then you should tell your boyfriend the truth about your feeling and help to put an end to your relationship nicely. An good closure would help him move on and maybe keep you guys as friend later on.
II don't usually recommend breaking a relationship. But considering what has happened from your description, I guess the best thing to do at this point is going separately; which is what you wanted anyway.
2006-06-22 12:38:13 · answer #2 · answered by thsiung 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All i have to say is "Dont leave the 1 u love 4 the 1 u like because the 1 u like will will leave u for the 1 they like." Just be careful if he's willing to forgive and let u back in his heart then u need to work things out. And the other person probly just want u for one thing. Just be careful what u do choose the right one.
2006-06-22 12:31:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know this, however bad you feel, the two people you have just emotionally hurt, nigh, wounded, feel worse.
Breach of trust is despicable. You are obviously an idiot, as instead of leaving your boyfriend, then embarking on your new adventure, you kept your options open by cheating.
Only now, your current bf has emotionally tripped you up and you have realised that you 'really love him'. People who 'who really love' their partner dont cheat in the first place. Your an idiot, and a cheap one at that. Both men are better off without you.
You deserve no luck or happiness.
2006-06-22 12:42:57 · answer #4 · answered by ukmagilla1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a human you made a mistake, if you can never forgive your self your just hurting yourself. He will never forget what happened he may forgive. Also if you stay with him you might develop a need to feel better about what it is you did so you might find yourself accusing him of cheating for no reason. I strongly suggest you talking to him aobut it. If you truely love him you should definatly not concern yourslef with another persons feeling cause it will only make things worse. Also only you can judge yourself no one will know you as well as yourself. So take some time relfect on how things might be in the future. Are you going to continually punish yourself for leaving him or stay with him
2006-06-22 12:39:58 · answer #5 · answered by millitary007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he your first BF or you his first GF. If either is yet then dump him. You both need to find out whatelse is in the world if you guys are already having these problems.
Odds suggest he will never let you out live this. He may beg you back but a fight will happen and he will bring this **** up then.
IMO, the best thing is to leave him from what you have told me. You already have shown he's not good enough not to cheat on and this **** will come back time and again.
2006-06-22 12:30:21 · answer #6 · answered by cigarsmoke1982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll probably end up finding a third person and in this way you will free yourself from the guilt of being with one or another. This is life don't worry nobody gets hurt in the long term. These things are getting taken care of by life itself. You should do what you feel is best for you. As for your boyfriend I think he's just prolonging his agony and doesn't want to face the facts. Sooner or later he will understand that.
2006-06-22 12:48:49 · answer #7 · answered by Daniel Z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well there must be a reason why you cheated...you guys need to sit and talk about this reason. If you fro any reason dont want to be with him, then dont. if you want to then you guys are going to have to learn how to work on your trust issues. Something is wrong here if he wants you to stay with him after you cheated, he either loves you very much or he's cheating to. But overall, you are going to have to forgive yourself so that he can in turn try to forgive you. If you ont want to be in this relationship, then dont because it will hurt you both more in the long run!
2006-06-22 12:30:39 · answer #8 · answered by shawny2623 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for the couple of childrens answers...lets hope their bits drop off!
You did what you did as the relationship you are in is not right for both of you. Yes of course it was wrong but it was a symtom not the cause of the problem. You clearly feel guilty and responsible which if that is the reason you are still in the relationship...that is not acceptable for the pair of you. be respectful to yourself and him and finish it kindly.
If you are 110% committed to making it work, then reassure him. If not move on before there is anymore hurt.
2006-06-22 12:34:50 · answer #9 · answered by Ade Babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like a real cop out if you ask me. I believe you had a fling with someone because you no longer had feelings for your partner. Furthermore by using the excuse "I cannot forgive myself" that way you can finish with the partner and not take responsibility for your behaviour. I think it should be that very decent young man that is in the forgiveness market not you. If you cannot stand straight talk don't do your washing in public. Good Luck Dirky
2006-06-22 12:53:45 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone makes mistakes, so if you really love your boyfriend you have to forgive yourself and start over with him. Your very lucky to have a guy that will stay with you so i think give it a good chance, but if you really arent happy then tell yourself you tried and close that chapter of your life... both of you need to be happy or it wont work... trust me i've learnt from experience
2006-06-22 12:32:27 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋