i don't dress like a guy or anything, and i'm girly. i've had ppl say that i'm really pretty and that i dress nicely and i'm "cute and funny". so why do girls like me, and not that many guys do?
i'm not a lesbian. but i've had a couple of girls tell me that they would jump at the chance to have sex with me. ew.
2006-06-22 05:22:32 · 12 answers · asked by *gurlygurl* 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know what you look like . . . . but from your question quoting you "i'm 'cute and funny'". And if that is true . . . guys don't find you attractive. Guys are initially attracted to the physical . . . which means you have to be hot - guys are usually aroused (not necessarily physically) when they approach a girl, especially when they want to get to know a girl.
Lesbians, I have a few lesbian friends, and very very few dress like guys and they are attractive. But lesbians are not initially attracted to a persons appearance (in most cases) . . . it is usually their attitude or how the girl holds herself . . . what is the word I am looking for . . . her personality . . . which girls look into first.
You see . . . without a picture and using your own word . . . it describes you to me . . . and unless you were nude and bent over in front of a guy . . . he probably would never noticed you. Change your appearance . . . if you have short hair . . . grow it long. If you are under 5' 6" you need to weigh no more than 105 lbs . . . but it also depends on your shape.
2006-06-22 05:30:19 · answer #1 · answered by Tag Your It 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First question, how do you carry yourself? Do you appear approachable? What's your body language say? How do you vocally communicate with men?
Your mouth maybe saying one thing and your body language maybe saying something totally different. You may not mean to appear standoffish, it maybe just nerves on your part. Talk to your close friends who will dish the truth of how you present yourself and see if they have suggestions. Read up on body language and make an honest effort to practice it.
I've had the same problem at times. And I asked what the deal was. Some of my male friends said things from I looked like I wasn't interested to the poor guy may have thought from my demeanor, I was going to beat them up if they approached me. I've been told too, I am very attractive and scream sexy, but I can be intimidating to men. Uh, some lesbians do like that though about a woman. And hey, its a compliment and their gaydar is not always accurate.
And too, some guys may think that you are so pretty you have to be already taken...learn to flirt! When you do talk to a guy you are interested in, every now and then lightly touch his arm. It shows interest. Hold a gaze into his eyes for a few seconds longer than you would when just chatting it up, look away, then back again into his eyes. Don't hang on him though, it comes off as desperate. Just a light touch on his arm every so often communicates interest in him. Maybe letting your leg slightly touch his and leaving it there for a few seconds before repositioning your leg back. These are subtle ways of flirting and showing interest.
2006-06-22 05:40:11 · answer #2 · answered by midnightdealer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are intimidated by some women, especially if they are beautiful, smart, or successful. Maybe you fit one or more of those categories. So men assume that you are taken and unavailable, and it gives them an excuse not to approach you. It's easier on the ego than approaching a beautiful, smart, successful woman and getting shot down.
Lesbians are much bolder by nature I think, maybe because they don't have the same ego thing men do.
My advice is to ignore the lesbians, and make sure you don't appear snobbish. Smiles always get attention.
Remember, women always set the tempo of a relationship. So why not be open and friendly to everyone, and you will be back next week asking how to get rid of all the admirers.
2006-06-22 05:34:56 · answer #3 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently, they have spotted you with their "gaydar." In order to make yourself more stealth, you'll have to probably wear radar absorbing clothing with irregualar angles. Take a look at the F-117 and try to resemble that. You should be fine then.
2006-06-22 06:36:21 · answer #4 · answered by Thundercat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmmm, maybe its the crowd u mix with...plus seriously, it is a compliment, so relax...
maybe it is ur own gestures or body language, the girls are probbly flirtin with u and u didnt realise, so u tot it was juz plain friendliness but indirectly u are reciprocating..
2006-06-22 05:37:00 · answer #5 · answered by lulu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess that straight men love to see 2 girls doing it......or gay guys have changed from macho idiots to sensitive guys while it was reversed for women (manly types anyway).
2016-03-27 01:01:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I mean its not all that serious. Take the compliment that they find you attractive and move on.
Maybe its the way that you act that men think that you are. Or it could be just you. Look at yourself before you question others.
2006-06-22 05:27:40 · answer #7 · answered by ronce_1118 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you look "artsy". I've heard that a lot of lezzies like that.
2006-06-22 05:26:53 · answer #8 · answered by Stacy M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guys where you live have no taste when it comes to women.
2006-06-22 05:26:19 · answer #9 · answered by crazy_monkey_jr010 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because lesbians know when they see another of their kind and u are butu just dont know it yet try it
2006-06-22 05:27:20 · answer #10 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋