i had my hip replaced 2wks ago, surgery went wrong and i will now be non weight bareing for at least 3-6months. if i dont look after this joint and it fails i will lose my leg. my husband left after he had an afair in november 05 (after 19yrs of marrage) so i am now a single single parent, i have a teen son who wont speak to me since his dad left and has moved out also. i have a 22mth toddler and it is totally physically imposible to look after an active toddler on your own when on crutches... i have no family, no friends that dont have their own famlies to look after who could help long term, my ex doens want to help and now social services want to put my baby into foster care for the next rew months...
i just feel i will die without him, i am able to care, have my facutlies, i can cuddle him feed him and nurture him i just can physically run about after him... is there any alternitive? there must be a way of us staying together?
2006-06-22 05:14:00 · 7 answers · asked by desprate mum 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
That's a rough story, sorry to hear it.
I am not sure where you live, but I am assuming the States. I generally hear a lot of churches preaching about family and alternatives to abortion. Perhaps you can see what kind of support groups are out there thru your local church, even if you yourself aren't religious. Similarly there may be community benevolent societies that can help you, seniors volunteers, Kiwanis, Elks, Rotarians and the like. Someone who can come to your home, help out with cleaning, cooking - that sort of thing. See iof your commmunity has a volunteer bank.
Keep your chin up.. it will get better. You need to keep your energy positive in order to heal and you need to be with your baby for both of your sakes.
When I am going through tough times - i always remind myself that without "the bad" to compare to "the good" wouldn't seems half as sweet (to paraphrase Socrates)...
good luck
2006-06-22 05:25:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try putting an ad in the paper for a babysitter. If you aren't able to run after him all day, just try getting him some things that could keep him from running around the house. Put up some baby gates and close off the room that you are in the most so he isn't running all over the house. You won't have to look after him as much because you'll know what his boundries are. If you are able to walk around on crutches, try putting him in a stroller and pushing him around when you need to go somewhere that way you aren't holding him or holding his hand while trying to walk. Hope this helps! God bless
2006-06-22 05:21:17 · answer #2 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would hire a nani....if you are short on cash....do it part time....when your toddler is napping let your nani go do her own things...Try to get the toddler in early education classes...I know some places have them for 2-2 1/2 year olds that are potty-trained.. but that depends on where you live and if its available...
2006-06-22 05:22:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first i have to say my heart goes out to you and i hope god punishes your husband and you sue his butt for some good child support. Now, hire a babysitter that can help out see if one of your neighbors can recommend someone or maybe they can come over andhelp. Call your local sentators office, legal aid somebody can step in and help you out even if its getting you a home aide to help out. get a good lawyer and sue the hospital
2006-06-22 05:23:04 · answer #4 · answered by bbinqueens33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you contacted you local hospital? Sometimes hospitals might have someone there to help you or help you find answers to help you out. It is worth a shot in trying to get help. Explain the situation to them. Good luck.. I'll say a prayer for you and your child.
2006-06-22 05:19:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire a babysitter to help you with him around the house.
2006-06-22 05:18:06 · answer #6 · answered by Lacey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire a teenager to help you for the summer.
2006-06-22 05:17:52 · answer #7 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋