I'm 22 and finally moving out of my mom's house after months of thinking, it's hard for me because of my mom. She's very controlling, and nothing I do makes her happy and no matter how hard I try, it never meets her expectations. She gets mad at every little thing I do, like walking to the kitchen with my bare feet would get me yelled by her or leaving my flip-flops on the patio not the shoe rack gets her mad too, even though it only happens like once a month or so. I wanted to move out many times but everytime I found a place, she'd tell me that she doesn't want to see me ever again if I move out, doesn't matter if I'm dead or alive.
AFTER MONTHS OF THINKING, I finally made up my mind and want to move out for real (even found a place). After I told her about my decision, she made me to write her a check(payable to her)to compensate her, even though I pay her rent/utitiles monthly, then she called all our relatives and having them to call me to change my mind I guess,i need advice, TY!
2006-06-22 05:05:46 · 13 answers · asked by Sade 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My mom is going berserk on me, one minute she's happy and the other minute she's really sad, cried a little and cheered a little, it makes me feel horrible like I did something wrong, I love my mom and I don't want to see her to act this way, but no matter what I SAY or do, it DOES NOT HELP AT ALL. I told her I will visit her and call her everyday, she said 'NO, I DONT WANT TO SEE YOU AGAIN, I"M SELLING HOUSE" yadayada......
2006-06-22 05:28:19 · update #1
wow!! baby girl, go now! please! as long as you can afford to live on your own. this would be the best decision you can do for yourself. good for you.
2006-06-22 05:10:34 · answer #1 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 22 years old. You have been a legal adult for four years now if you want to move out move. You have been paying rent, etc. so you don't have to compensate your mom for any more. If she insists on a check tell her no you don't owe her anything. She only wants to money because you are moving. I mean the worse that can happen is she takes you to court and she has no basis for it.
Your mom has some issues and you don't have to live with them anymore. I think it is time for you to move on with your own life. I moved out at 20 even though my mom wasn't controlling and I have been much happier so I can definately see how you'd be happier if you moved out.
2006-06-22 12:16:00 · answer #2 · answered by butterflykisses427 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not let her talk you out of it!
You are a grown woman now, and you can do as you please. From what you said, it would be so much better for you if you were on your own. Your mother sounds very controlling, and maybe doesn't want to face the fact that you're not her little girl anymore.
Don't worry about what happens after you go, she's your mom and she will always love you, it will just take her some time to get used to it.
2006-06-22 12:13:11 · answer #3 · answered by deb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The hardest thing for a mother to do, is to give her child wings to fly on their own, to make her own mistakes and to grow. I never wanted to let my daughter leave either, however, I realized I loved her so very much that I must let her go to make her own life. It broke my heart and I missed her everyday, even though she called me all the time and I saw her a few times a week. It was one of the most difficult things I had to do, "I had to let my beautiful baby girl, now a woman, go free. I had to give her wings to make her own life. It is much better now, she has three beautiful children and we are all happy. Do what you need to do, always keep in touch with your Mom. Write her a letter after you move! I'm sure she will come around. God Bless
2006-06-22 12:42:50 · answer #4 · answered by sam04m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a mother EXACTLY like yours. But my problem is I don't know if I should move in with my fiance or not. I'm 23 yrs old. and I to am on my last thread. I say we get through this together and just move the hell out and live the life we want to live. If our moms are trying to control the way we act think and our daily habbits thats very sad on their part. It's so funny how my mom acts just like yours. She dosen't do it often just evey month or so. Why don't we just leave and be happy and live the lives that we deserve. Here's my e-mail.....michelle0519200@yahoo.com.....if you ever need anything to be afraid to ask.....i'm here for you.....my name is nicole by the way....
2006-06-22 12:53:32 · answer #5 · answered by Nicole D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think its time for you to gain your independence and sanity. If you think you can make it financially and really looked into what it will take to make it on your own, then I say do it!! Thats no way to live your life every day. You may have to sacrifice having the extra things you can afford living with mom for awhile. Just think of the freedom you will gain. You can leave things where you want to leave them, watch whatever you wanna watch, have whom ever come over when ever you want and stay as long as you wnat them to stay. Hell you can even walk around without clothes on if you want!! Just make sure to budget your self so you dont get behind and have to move back. That part sucks the worst!! Best of luck!!
2006-06-22 12:16:43 · answer #6 · answered by Scooter Monkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a reason she wants you to stay? Like is she worried about you being on your own? Have you tried writing her a letter (if she won't listen for a talk) and letting her know why you feel the need to finally move on your own? I think it's important for young adults to live on their own. It helps build responsibility and independence. Good luck!
If you wanna really tick her off you can join the military lol.
2006-06-22 12:11:12 · answer #7 · answered by Katherine M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't married please do not leave your mother a joint family is really helpful just imagine what u will do if u are down with fever or cold or stomach upset it's always useful having ur mother around so pleaseeeeeeeee do not go alone u people in the US think of independence etc., but see around you where it is leading to, the money, independence, dugs, sex there's lot in the world than all these things just imagine yourself in her shoes
2006-06-22 12:12:06 · answer #8 · answered by atlsmkdr 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think she is afraid of the empty nest. Go and make sure you do call and visit often. She is not going to be agreeable to anything you say right now, she's scared. You have to do what's right for you but don't forget your mom, she will see she didn't lose you and be much happier.
2006-06-22 12:57:40 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey move out. Its time way pass time. You need to know that it is like to be on your own with your own rules and peace.
She will get over it in due time, just let her go through her lil cycle and she will come around.
Go!!!
2006-06-22 12:14:32 · answer #10 · answered by ronce_1118 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it, you deserve to be happy and it sounds to me like your mother has her own issues to deal with and is taking them out on you. Move out and let her work out her problems I'm sure she will come around.good luck!
2006-06-22 12:10:23 · answer #11 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋