i broke up elena...not long ago...and i cant seem to drown her out ......because of that .... i cant seem to find inner peace... can someone able to help me....thx
2006-06-22 04:48:59 · 24 answers · asked by monopoly_cc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u have tobe strong and find some kind of activity or focus on your job or take up an hobby do something that going to keep in occupied and not let your mind wonder to her the more u focus on what your doing than u will see its more easy to move finding inner peace is knowing that u need what u felt was best for the 2 of u and if u would of stayed it would have been a wrong to stay just tell yourself it was better to let her go now than to wait until later when things could have gotten really ugly
2006-06-22 04:58:44 · answer #1 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Peace comes from letting go of attachments, emotional and material.
If you truly love her, you need to let her follow her own path and wish her the best.
In time your path will bring you toward someone who will bring you happiness.
you are young, I reckon, and so it seems like a crushing blow, but as you grow older, you may see that people enter and leave your life, some people leave and return -some just leave. Only a handful of people will share your whole journey.
That's life. Part of her will always be with you, some good, some bad.
Reflect upon what was good and bad, and learn from the experience.
WIth many of my first loves, I was deeply hurt and saddened when they left. After a while, I was glad they left.
their lives are filled with the negative consequences of their actions, and I am glad I didn't have to go through that with them.
Don't go looking for another girl to fill the void -you'll end up in a similar situation time and again until you learn what it was that attracted you to the person, and why you keep falling into the same trap (I learned this from experience!)
Take time out and become yourself again, don't be the worse half of your relationship. Become whole, and you'll find people will come to you, and you'll appreciate and know when the right person comes.
I generally took a year off to get my head straight, and since learning the lessons of past relationships have hopefully grown into a better person.
2006-06-22 05:04:09 · answer #2 · answered by snksraven 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, why did you two split? There was obviously a lot of feeling there that you felt for her. This being said, of course it's going to take time to get over her. God can always heal a broken heart. Please don't get me wrong I'm NOT trying to preach to you or anything just stating facts. You can find inner peace and heal through Jesus Christ. My preacher last night said it best. He looks at people and sees so many miserable people to find an inner peace and not be miserable in life let Jesus bare your burden we all have our crosses to carry, but it helps if we have a friend to help relieve it. Best of luck.
2006-06-22 04:53:28 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is your inner peace, you should get Elena back. If it was truely love it will come back and if it does it then it was not love in the first place.
2006-06-22 04:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by Sandra M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you may have lost yourself from being so into Elena...go back to doing the things that brought you happiness before you met her.
2006-06-22 05:00:53 · answer #5 · answered by D D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you punishing yourself, you broke up with her so why are so remorse apparently you are still in love with her, and to denie love is to denie being human, so try working things out with her, everyone makes mistake and even though we hate to admit when we are wrong its the mature thing to do. So call up elena and sort out your business, unless she has move on try giving it another shot.
all the best
2006-06-22 04:56:45 · answer #6 · answered by Resurrected 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i had the same problem and what i did was i went out and started dating other people and after a while i met a new guy and forgot about my x. I really is the only way...
2006-06-22 04:53:24 · answer #7 · answered by Ciela 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just realize that you are a whole person even without her. You do not need her for your true happiness. Go out, meet people, hang out with people you dont normally hang out with and you will see that you can still have fun and eventually your heart will heal and you can live happily without her.
2006-06-22 04:53:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just curious-why did your relationship end? Did you end it or did she? Maybe you need to talk to her-is there a possibility you could get back together? If you really loved her and miss her that much, it might be worth trying before you start moving on and dating others.
2006-06-22 04:52:17 · answer #9 · answered by cooperslassie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem (not with elana), everyone says it takes time, but I dont know about that. Maybe time will help, but just try to do other things that make you happy.
2006-06-22 04:51:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋